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Showerthoughts

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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted clever little truths, hidden in daily life.

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I am turning 18 tomorrow. Any life advice for me

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[–] vatlark@lemmy.world 98 points 2 days ago (1 children)

This was reported twice for not being a shower thought. The reporters are correct, it's not strictly a shower thought.

But thinking about getting older is something we all do in the shower, for multiple reasons :)

Looks like people are mostly enjoying it so I'll let it stay for now.

[–] CluckN@lemmy.world 60 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Thinks about 18 year olds in the shower

Mods get them!

[–] Flax_vert@feddit.uk 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I think that's legal... Barely

[–] MITM0@lemmy.world 1 points 14 hours ago

It IS legal.

[–] null@piefed.nullspace.lol 2 points 5 hours ago

You spent 18 years learning to navigate a gated world. You will do just as much learning in the next 18 navigating a newly ungated one.

Think about the sort of kindness you would want to treat a younger version of yourself as he fumbled through that learning. Practice treating your new "young" self with that kindness today. It will pay dividends.

[–] skrlet13@feddit.cl 1 points 5 hours ago

Being responsible is always beneficial. Sometimes you don't get/feel those benefits, but everyone is grateful when their bus arrives on time :) Just don't forget to being responsible with yourself too.

[–] Willdrick@lemmy.world 2 points 9 hours ago

Don't send dickpics. You never know when they'll show up on a leak.

[–] Amir@lemmy.ml 4 points 15 hours ago

Go to the dentist, ask them how to take care of your teeth for the next 80 years, and do it.

If that means cutting down on soda, or acidic espressos, or candy do it.

If that means buying an expensive electric toothbrush with better toothpaste do it.

[–] altphoto@lemmy.today 7 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Here's my rantomendation:

Don't hit, mame or kill anybody ever. That includes when driving.

When driving pay attention to the road and only to the road. Ignore work or home or school problems. Don't zone out.

Listen to your parents but don't listen to the parts that limit you. Be gay if you are or straight or smart or whatever, be you. But listen to the good advice.

Fuck a lot

Eat healthy

Pay attention in school and learn from others. Be observant and follow in other people's steps long enough to learn to blaze your own path.

Don't get a school loan or max out your credit cards.

Work thru school in a light non interrupting way. Don't get an 8hr job, just something part time.

Get that diploma and go find a job where they pay you for what you know. Work on something you like to do. Work to live, not live to work. But to get here, don't skip steps...sweep the floor before you shoot for CEO.

Mourn your losses, everyone dies. Be happy with yours while you can. Family is everything and there's not much more than your own personal desires beyond family. But if you don't have kids by chance or by choice, still be happy. There's plenty of people who choose not to have kids or be married or be in a relationship. Have bobbies. There's a lot of you time towards the end part of your life. So Hobbies are good. Watching people is a hobby.

Be at peace. Don't hate and help others not hate. Racism is the worse. So if you can help a racist person to accept others then that's good.

[–] EddoWagt@feddit.nl 1 points 12 hours ago (1 children)
[–] altphoto@lemmy.today 1 points 9 hours ago

That's from "little Ms.Sunshine" you should watch it. There's a part when they're riding with their Gramps and he says that. Ode to gramps

[–] saimen@feddit.org 1 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

Know thyself.

What irritates you the most in others are probably unconscious parts of yourself you supressed.

[–] jaschen306@sh.itjust.works 6 points 20 hours ago

Sit down pee when you're visiting a friend's house. Double points if you do the same at your own house.

[–] Renat@szmer.info 1 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

If you are male, you can get male pattern baldness in this age, but you can stop baldness by taking finasteride.

[–] MITM0@lemmy.world 1 points 14 hours ago

Stick to your principles & rule of law like flies on shit

[–] daggermoon@lemmy.world 1 points 14 hours ago

Believe in yourself, especially if no one else does

[–] Bamboodpanda@lemmy.world 5 points 21 hours ago

Do you know what the genetic difference is between a human alive today and one who lived 100,000 years ago? Almost none.

The real difference is shared knowledge. Every generation stands on the shoulders of those before it. You hold in your hands more understanding than any person in history could have imagined.

You will always be ignorant, not as a flaw, but as a truth of being human. Accepting that is where real learning begins.

Stay curious. Curiosity keeps you open to the world. It grows empathy, invites wonder, and reminds you that every person you meet carries a piece of the story you haven’t heard yet.

And when you share what you’ve learned, don’t speak as though you hold the final word. Speak as someone who has explored, reflected, and arrived at their understanding with care.

Learning is a lifelong conversation, one that connects you to every curious mind that ever lived. So keep asking, keep listening, keep growing. The future needs you.

[–] Dorkyd68@lemmy.world 7 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Take care of your teeth. Many loves will come and go in your 20s and maybe even 30s, but if its a life partner you want try focusing on yourself and they'll appear out of thin air. Friends are important but not as important as inner peace. If a job offer 401k start investing as much as possible as soon as possible. Everyone is going through their own crazy messed up life so be kind. Puff, puff pass and enjoy your 20s as much as possible while not losing sight of your goals. Goals are EVERYTHING, set the achieve them and set them again. Heartbreak and death are integral parts of being human. It's important to sit with and process the pain as long as YOU see fit. Death will come for someone you love someday, don't let drugs or alcohol be your medicine

[–] mika_mika@lemmy.world 3 points 20 hours ago

Weed and alcohol are my medicine and you don't want to end up like me.

[–] electric_nan@lemmy.ml 4 points 20 hours ago

It's okay to be scared, but do it anyway!

[–] pharceface@retrolemmy.com 4 points 21 hours ago

Break stuff and figure things out, take chances and have fun. You've got time. You'll figure it out.

[–] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 3 points 22 hours ago

wisdom is often wasted on the elderly. youth is fleeting as are most the mistakes you will make in life at this point.

the following advice is fitting unless you're doing either of these two things:

  1. making babies
  2. taking a life (especially your own)

Live the three truths

  1. you will always make mistakes
  2. you will always hurt those you love
  3. you will always have regrets.

the older you get the harder it is to recover from these truths. Live your life to your requirements. By the time you're closing in on your 30s, you should start to settle down and find yourself a quiet place to build your life for when you're in your 50s or 60s.

in your 30s seek out happiness and contentment. this will be your foundation to accept your regrets and mistakes. own the mistakes you made along the way, accept them like you would a bruise or blemish on your body. in time they will heal, if only you accept them and move on.

in your 40s harvest your happiness and contentment. accept there are things you cannot do not because you haven't or couldn't but because you shouldn't.

in your 50s store your happiness and contentment with the knowledge that nobody can take it from you, it's yours and yours alone.

60+ feed your soul from your stores, using the memories you made along the way. depending on the life you have led, share in new memories with those around you. celebrate their successes as your successes.

if you're lucky you will build lasting relationships along the way and will have many fond memories. you will inevitability have bad memories as well, but such is life.

personally I lost every single friend I have ever had. I never really recovered from it and now I have no friends. It's one of many regrets, but I never let it spoil my happiness and contentment. I find fulfillment by other means like hobbies, crafting, and family.

I never wanted to be married or have kids, but it feels as if what you think is important today changes by tomorrow. don't fight it, because you'll only be fighting yourself.

life is full of surprises, learn to roll with the punches and adapt to the world. if you don't, life will fucking kill you.

[–] GladiusB@lemmy.world 1 points 18 hours ago

If it's wet and ain't yours, really think about it before you touch it.

Bring a towel.

Be a goldfish.

There's probably only one play on this quarter. Don't look back and think "what if..."

[–] pineapplelover@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago) (1 children)

When I was in high school, I wanted to go to a couple specific unis. Being rejected was one of the best paths ever. I went to community college, made lots of friends, had amazing professors, took part in lots of programs where I made long term friends who even stuck with me to transferring to my current uni. I took a bunch of fun classes there that allowed me to get the skills I need to land the internship I have.

So my advice is, as a you guy, you have lots of time so test the waters, experience stuff, have fun, and you'll enjoy whatever it is you end up in.

Don't be that one guy who has to finish college in 4 years and then figure out that school didn't teach you anything and you can't find a job. You never took fun classes, joined programs, join clubs.

[–] MITM0@lemmy.world 1 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

But what if you have controlling parents ?

[–] pineapplelover@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Some parents think you should just pick a path and run for it and never stop. But, they should realize that life is never a straight path. Some people run for that path and find out that's not for them. Taking fun classes that isn't part of your degree program can give you skills that make you more hireable because everybody else is that same cookie cutter person who took the exact same classes. You might meet a professor and have long lasting connections.

It doesn't make sense if you started off going down the math teacher route, find out you hate math, find out you hate teaching, and end up struggling through a path you hate and have a stressful life.

I have friends who added like 5 years on their lives, because they immigrated here from their country, as a young person, you have so much time to figure out what you want to do. If your controlling parents want the best for you, they should understand this.

[–] MITM0@lemmy.world 1 points 5 hours ago

What if they don't realize.

DONT DO IT!!

THERE'S NO TURNING BACK

[–] chilicheeselies@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Lift wieghts and or do some other physical activity. Its good to have two hobbies; a mental one and a physical one. The muscle you build now will be with you for the rest of your life, and its mucb easier to do it now than when you are middle aged like me.

Dont focus too hard on girls, just live your life and enjoy the experiences and relationships you build with all people; everything else will follow.

Travel, with a focus on the physically taxing things that are harder to do when you are older.

Invest what money you can, compound interest is real and it is the path to wealth (eventually).

[–] alternategait@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

I would encourage more than 2 hobbies. It can be very difficult to feel satisfied if for some reason you can't engage in one of your hobbies (I speak from experience).

[–] ITGuyLevi@programming.dev 5 points 1 day ago

As someone who wishes someone had told me... Adults don't know what we are doing either. It took me way too long to realize I'm not an imposter pretending to be an adult, we are all just kind of winging it.

As you grow older you'll have seen more stuff and it will be a little easier, but I can attest I don't have a clue what's for dinner, just like I don't know what new headache the next meeting will bring. Live life for life's sake, the clock will keep ticking whether you're ready or not.

[–] CaptPretentious@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago

Who you are now, isn't likely who you'll be in 6 years. You'll change a lot over the next few years as you become an adult. Legally, becoming an adult is the difference of a day. But actually maturing into an adult takes time and effort. Yes effort, you'll meet plenty of adults who cling to their highschool self.

I don't know if alcohol is still placed on a pedestal like it was in my teens, but alcohol isn't that great. It's an expensive poison humans can sorta metabolize. It can taste good, but moderation is key. The point isn't to get drunk. As an adult who can drink anytime I please, is generally would rather just have water.

Now is a great time to get into a fitness routine.

[–] confluence@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

Your brain still isn't fully developed into an adult one. Another half decade or so should equip you with the rest. Take care of it!

[–] Bronzebeard@lemmy.zip 6 points 1 day ago

Open an IRA (or your country's equivalent), invest as much as you and still afford to live. A tiny little discomfort in the beginning isn't the worst thing. That money will grow tax free for year until you retire. The more you get in early, the more compounding works in your favor.

[–] yermaw@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 day ago

Specific advice like "save your money" and "enjoy your money while youre young" and "focus on education" and "forget education get a job fast" are all too nuanced and will likely get ignored anyway.

This "song" pretty much covers the important stuff.

[–] Bahnd@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Do not break the weekend safety brief.

  • Do NOT add to the population.
  • Do NOT subtract from the population
  • Do NOT end up in the newspaper, hospital or jail.
    • IF you do end up in jail, establish dominance quickly.
[–] mika_mika@lemmy.world 2 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

I may have to go to jail soon for a couple years. I'm a non passing trans person who is flamboyant & wouldn't win a fight against a small animal, can you please explain that last part???

[–] kambusha@sh.itjust.works 134 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Always double-check.
For example, the community you are posting in.

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[–] Spaniard@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Take care of your body is the only one you have, use sunscreen.

Spend time with your parents and people you love they are not going to be around forever, do things they like.

You have time, don't rush into things. Don't think you are 25 you should have a family by now, life is not a race each person reach goals differently and not all have the same goals. Search what makes you happy and do it.

Worry only for what you control, if you can control it you can fix it, resolve it so look for solutions but don't worry about what is out of your control, you won't be able to fix it you have to accept some things are they are and learn to life with them being that way.

[–] Retro_unlimited@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

Money is very easy to spend, but Money is so very hard to make. Be cautious with your money

[–] twice_hatch@midwest.social -1 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Get on finasteride or something to preserve your hair line

[–] Wiz@midwest.social 5 points 19 hours ago

Or even better, don't worry about your hair line. It's not worth it.

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