Autism

Some repeat the same argument again and again in different words and get mad if getting interrupted. Its exhausting.

Me, waiting for my ADHD partner to circle back to the original topic before they got distracted by tangents.

You don't need ADHD for that.

Worse: they have a PowerPoint slide behind them showing 99% of the stuff they're saying and you're done reading the slide when their audio track is only 20% in

I often find that, when talking to my project manager, I'm wrong when I assume I know where the sentence will end. Even if just a little bit (and even if sometimes it's because she's wrong in what she's saying).

How can I get better at shutting up and listening to people? It's absolutely fucking mortifying and makes me feel childish when I notice I keep interrupting people and getting it wrong.

Counterpoint: I’m a twisty mofo and my adhd friend would often enough times respond to something he thought I was going to say instead of the thing I actually said (since I’m a twisty mofo) because he would be concentrating on not interrupting rather than listening.

I’m not placing blame, that’s adhd, just thought it was funny (except those times when it was just frustrating).

And then you try to finish my sentence and get it wrong. So I have to awkwardly pause, and say "No..." and then continue to explain the important part of the safety presentation that tells you how not to burn your eyeballs out with the laser.

Yeah, my brainhole will fuck right off into several answers, rebuttals, and solutions ... just to suddenly snap back in a panic of what I just missed ... and then realize the fucker is still describing the most obvious part of the issue.

It's not them, it's totally me who is the problem, but damn am I happy & relaxed when I communicate with someone who can efficiently communicate with (someone like) me.

we THINK we understand and stop listening. It isn't true. It took me having kids to understand just WHY I don't form lasting relationships with anyone.

And we get it wrong about 97% of the time. Come on, guys. You need to stop pretending being annoying is a good thing.

when will we get a skip dialogue option in real life

It's a picture of me dealing with ADHD customers who ask me a question, then never stop talking to allow me to answer it. Often a question is followed by 30 minutes of them telling me unrelated personal stories. Before eventually asking the original question again, but followed by another 5-10 questions in rapid succession without giving me a chance to respond.

Oh, I met someone once who spoke really slow and made long pauses to when he spoke.

Great guy, but I started finishing his sentences out of desperation.

You have no idea how hard it is to listen to an autistic person who tries to explain something in extreme detail... Lol.

Its not like the plank, its like doing 20 burpies...

But its alright. I need to practice my patience.

On the other side of this; I often feel like people think they already know what's being said and then interrupt or at least show that they aren't listening anymore but they actually don't know. So all that ends up happening is that they misunderstand and now the whole conversation has gotten bad. It's very common for people to say stuff to give context, and that might sound like that's all they're saying but they are just making sure the listener is aware of that context. And when people explain things over and over with different words it just means they're doing their best to describe something in a specific way and translating that into a conversation is not easy. It's either because they themselves aren't satisfied with how they said it and are actually showing you respect by really trying to find the right words. Or it's because they see that your understanding of what they said isn't what they really meant.

Don't ever think you know exactly what someone is saying until they show you they are satisfied with both their own explanation and your replies that show you understand. Show some respect to people by giving them the extra few seconds or minutes to get to where they need, especially with friends and family.

A reoccurring thing throughout my whole life with friends and acquaintances that have ADHD is just this, they think they know the whole story and that there's nothing more to it and that every second after that is wasted time etc. but SO many times that is a huge mistake. And it can easily fuck up relationships, it's not a good thing.

And just to be clear: I have ADHD, though mine works pretty differently than how it does for the vast majority of people. In no way saying better or worse, those words don't exist in this topic for me, just differently. And every single person is different from the next, both including and excluding any kind of "disorder" (not a fan ot the word). Just saying that I see similarities with the vast majority of people that have a diagnosis (or not but are clearly on the spectrum) and have only ever met two people who have the same "wavelength" as me in this.

That's even a thing without adhd.

I have ADHD and I don't have this

It's difficult sometimes because I get distracted by things on their face and end up forgetting what they just said. >.>

is it that necessary to add adhd in front of every occurrence you have. if it is this relatable to the majority of users it obviously isn't a symptom of a condition only a minority have.

I don't get it. Do you mere mortals consider this trivial pose difficult?

Even worse is when you don't care about what ever it was they started talking about, makes it impossible to pay attention until the end.

I'm just fighting the overwhelming urge to do this.