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Edit for reasoning-I tend to enjoy mean spirited funny stuff sometimes. Creators are typically kind of shitty/immoral people but I still enjoy it. I feel conflicted sometimes but still end up watching and enjoying.

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[–] webkitten@piefed.social 6 points 1 day ago

I read/listen/watch my Harry Potter books and movies that I've had for 20 years because it basically kept me alive when I was in the closet and it's a big part of me but also fuck JK Rowling.

[–] samus12345@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 day ago

If the content itself doesn't reflect the creator's shittiness, yes, but I won't pay for it.

[–] Jaegeras@piefed.social 3 points 1 day ago

I'm too tired to really spend my time being too correctional on what I should or shouldn't enjoy based on the actions some people do. It really depends. Ian Watkins is an exception, a horrible person, who made it easy for me to drop everything Lostprophets-related.

I still listen to Disturbed, because there's way too many songs I like from them. I don't have to care about David Draiman and I don't, because of what he did.

I will still enjoy Harry Potter, because I believe the universe is bigger than J.K Rowlings to where, anything she does or says will not knock down my enjoyment of that universe. I can and will ignore her existence.

The production and distribution of much media means that it's practically impossible to avoid.

I try to avoid media when my consumption of that media significantly benefits bad people, and there is a reasonable alternative.

For example, I don't consume Harry Potter content because fuck jk Rowling. She is a key creative and a key beneficiary of consuming that media. There are alternatives within that genre I can read instead.
But I do use audible, despite them being terrible, because that's where my collection is and thats where new releases are.

[–] Akuchimoya@startrek.website 2 points 1 day ago

If I know someone is a terrible person, I can't enjoy their work. Besides not wanting to financially support them, I like to put myself in an author's, actor's, writer's shoes when I watch/read stuff.

That said, I don't purposefully look into people's lives; I'm not into celebrity gossip. But sometimes a person is such an outlier or just so vocal about it that it's unavoidable.

[–] sem@piefed.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 day ago

I try not to. It becomes a true guilty pleasure.

Nope, because the contributions from my viewership just promotes their horrible immorality/views and helps spread them by giving it attention. If I find out someone s a MAGAt or other country's equivalent I drop them like a bad habit. I have no desire to help promote their line of thinking, even if the content is benign, and social ostracizing is the only real tool I have. I have stopped watching artists, youtube channels, and such because eventually said person's views come into focus. Any support of them also promote harm to people I care about because they may be likely to support candidates that'd hurt them.

[–] mrgoosmoos@lemmy.ca 7 points 2 days ago

generally, no.

and if I do, I make sure not to share/promote it

Yes, all the time. Any behind-the-scenes stuff isn't even on my radar.

I try to avoid giving them more relevance, but I do occasionally revisit through means that don't give them money. I hate Dave Mustaine's guts, so I have the best three Megadeth albums downloaded (Peace Sells... But Who's Buying?, Rust in Peace, Countdown to Extinction).

[–] normalentrance@lemmy.zip 16 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Once I think a creator is a bad person, depending on what they did, I have trouble enjoying their stuff.

There are a ton of comedians, for example, that have done varying degrees of bad things that I just can't listen to anymore. Louis CK, Cosby, any of the podcast bro comedians that got Trump elected, etc are all out. When I hear them perform it is all I can think about.

Same with bands, writers, etc. I just have a nagging feeling in the back of my head reminding me the person is shitty.

[–] prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago

Neil Gaiman

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[–] Duamerthrax@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

I try not to. If they have shitty political takes or real criminal stuff at least.

A lot of the time, if they're the writer or director, it shows though in the media.

[–] Ryanmiller70@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 day ago

I don't have the time or energy to go through the lives of every single person involved with a game/show/movie I want to enjoy to see if anyone involved has problematic views. Like I'm going to see Project Hail Mary this weekend. If someone tells me at some point Ryan Gosling said some dumb shit while drunk or the book the film is based on has racist symbolism, I honestly don't care. I'm watching and judging the film filled with hard work done by tons of different people.

[–] rodneylives@lemmy.world 8 points 2 days ago

It varies.

I often give the example of HP Lovecraft. I'm a big fan of his stories and the Cthulhu Mythos. But it remains that he was a huge racist. How do I reconcile the two?

First, an author's works are separate from the author themselves. Second, in Lovecraft's case, he was a product of his time and upbringing. And third, and importantly in his case: he's dead. He has no ability to change beyond his passing in the 1930s. People can and do change all the time. If Lovecraft were around today he might have become to most left-leaning person in the world, but he never had that chance. There were indications, late in life, that he might well have changed.

But, he didn't. It remains that he was a racist in life, that will never change, and because of it there will always be people uncomfortable with his work. That is understandable, and I won't try to convince anyone that they should ignore it.

There are a lot of fair-minded takes in this thread which is surprising for me since this is lemmy where I've actually seen someone tell another person they are a piece of shit for even talking about Harry Potter lore.

[–] starman2112@sh.itjust.works 9 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Usually if the person who made something is a massive piece of shit, that just puts me off it entirely. For example, Rurouni Kenshin might be considered one of the best animes of all time, but I cannot watch it without thinking about the fact that the guy who made it had so much child porn. Sours everything the fucker touched

Like, maybe I could learn to separate the art from the artist, but.. why would I? There's already more art than I could ever consume made by people who don't jerk it to kids

[–] lobut@lemmy.ca 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Wait what? ... fucking hell man. I think there's levels to me no longer watching an artist's work ...

Some, I just overlook or if the stories aren't substantiated or major. Child porn is just something else ... man, I really like Kenshin too.

[–] starman2112@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Yeah I'm really sorry you had to learn it here. At least Oda and Araki are still cool

[–] guy@piefed.social 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Wasn't Oda friends with a paedophile and aware of it?

[–] starman2112@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Seems like it. In total fairness, he didn't say the pedophilia was cool, he just enjoyed working with the guy. Also it's Japan, so he's gonna have to work alongside pedophiles at some point

[–] guy@piefed.social 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yeah 😄 This is where putting boundarys becomes interesting. Do we avoid Oda as well?

[–] starman2112@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Yeah, it's hard to draw a line, which is why for me it's just a matter of whether the artist puts me off the work entirely or not. I can watch One Piece without my mind interrupting me about Oda being kinda problematic. But I can't, for example, read Sandman without thinking of all the rapin Gaiman did.

And sorry if anyone is learning about ol Rapin Gaiman here

[–] oyfrog@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago

Yes, I think it's okay to enjoy whatever it is you enjoy so long as doing so doesn't harm others or yourself. I also think it's important to be mindful what it is that makes you feel like there's a moral quandary, and it's also worth considering if the media you're consuming is the work of a group of people or a single individual.

For example, I really enjoy the movie Chinatown, but Roman Polanski is a piece of shit. I don't think his shitness diminishes the quality of the movie because it was acted well by Jack Nicholson and Faye Dunaway; the writing is incredible as is the cinematography; and credit where credit is due, Polanski directed the movie masterfully. He's still a child rapist piece of shit though.

[–] serpineslair@lemmy.world 43 points 3 days ago (4 children)

I can usually separate art from the artist, given that the media in question doesn't reflect their opinions/isn't influenced by their actions.

[–] redsand@infosec.pub 1 points 1 day ago

Hitler was, if I'm being 100% honest, an OK painter. Terrible human, could have been a decent architectural artist.

Woody Allen would be more topical and recent.

[–] SalamenceFury@piefed.social 35 points 3 days ago (2 children)

This is why I dropped Harry Potter. And also, I did drop Disturbed (aside from one song, that being Decadence) cause I don't want to support a band whose lead vocalist literally autographed bombs that were used in children in Gaza.

[–] Atherel@lemmy.dbzer0.com 17 points 3 days ago

And also, I did drop Disturbed (aside from one song, that being Decadence) cause I don't want to support a band whose lead vocalist literally autographed bombs that were used in children in Gaza.

Damn, missed that, too bad. welp at least there's now more free space on my server.

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[–] sneakypersimmon@lemmy.today 19 points 3 days ago (1 children)

That's the deciding factor for me.

I stopped listening to Lizzo so fucking fast because her actions and her art were in direct contradiction with each other.

Being innappropriate with children will also make me stop consuming media from that person.

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[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yes. I don't often buy media so I haven't yet tested if I would give them money, but I hope I wouldn't.

[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I also often find that in terms of the wider philosophy of a piece of media and the people creating it, the media I enjoy tends to have a driving philosophy that resonates with me as good or at least acceptable, and the people making it likely share that philosophy. Even things you wouldn't expect to be have this property, do; you can often tell if the vibe of an author is off by the things they say or the way they say it, and imo authors who are bad people tend to make bad art, or at least art that I dislike, because my concept of what's enjoyable and what's moral both ultimately come from the same worldview.

[–] IWW4@lemmy.zip 39 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

I struggle with it and am hypocritical about that.

Roman Polanski was convicted of a terrible crime, but I appreciate his work.

Weinstein’s production company made many of my favorite movies.

Kevin Spacey played some of my favorite characters.

EDIT:

And then there is Bill Cosby and OJ Simpson. I love the Naked Gun Movies and both are pure gold on screen.

Bill Cosby’s Chicken Heart routine is so fucking funny it was making me laugh my ass off until the mid 2010s.. Now I when I ever I see the album it just makes me sad….

[–] chosensilence@pawb.social 20 points 3 days ago (2 children)

it's 100% unavoidable. Hollywood breeds psychopathy and Celebrity Status attracts the worst of us and corrupts those with shaky morals.

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[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago

Depends, but generally yes. It's just too hard to screen all creatives for purity, some people are only good at one thing, but so good at that one thing. So if you don't let them do that one thing, it's like there's nothing left of them that is good. I probably won't give them my money, but as far as reading or listening to their stuff, enjoying their art, yeah I can. Can admit they are good in at least one way, if they are.

[–] cy888@lemmy.world 7 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Every physician in the world uses Nazi data collected using the corpses of Jews. Most anatomy books uses drawings mad by Nazis. Just the swastikas have been airbrushed out. The data collection was never repeated.

[–] starman2112@sh.itjust.works 5 points 2 days ago

using the corpses of Jews

Making the corpses of Jews. The vast majority of Nazi "medical" "science" was just an excuse to torture people, and has no scientific use because they didn't follow scientific practices like "writing stuff down"

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[–] Vanth@reddthat.com 28 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I try not to enrich creators who are bad. Like Polanski and Weinstein and Whedon and Besson and Rowling and Gaiman. I might watch/read old stuff, but I'll avoid spending any money on it.

Then there's people who aren't rapists and abusers and virulently homophobic but are still not great. I'm thinking YT creators who pull dumb and mean pranks, or just revel in the more negative aspects of human nature. I don't watch them, but mostly because I don't enjoy that sort of content. It makes me depressed and sad. Since I don't like that sort of content anyway, it's hardly an effort. Same with MAGA bro podcaster types; I don't enjoy that garbage so "boycotting" it really just means going about my life per usual.

[–] EvilBit@lemmy.world 16 points 3 days ago

Generally how I operate too. The key is enriching for me. If you’re a piece of shit who’s alive and collecting royalties, I’ll do everything I can not to add to them. If I already own your creation, I’ll use that instead of streaming/renting/buying. If I don’t, I’ll just find something else.

It’s like when the owners of Chick-Fil-A turned out to be horrendous bigots. Everybody was saying “but there are so many people working there that aren’t homophobic - are you going to hurt them too?” Afraid so. I’m not going to contribute to the success of a hateful person for a fucking chicken sandwich. Working for them is also contributing to the success of those bigots and their efforts in trying to destroy people I love, so I’m afraid I can’t be very sympathetic. The job market for hate needs to have downward pressure on it.

[–] YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today 4 points 2 days ago

It's very difficult for me. But also I realize if you look closely enough at most any artist you can find something disgusting about them, so I don't look into it in the first place. Like I used to love r. Kelly, but after learning about his past with Aaliyah and the whole situation that landed him where he is now, I haven't purposefully listened to his music since.

Idk, maybe I'm a bad person and lazy but I like enjoying things and I have learned over the years that sometimes, ignorance truly is bliss.

[–] tiredofsametab@fedia.io 14 points 2 days ago

No. If I have problems with a creator, publisher, etc., I'll stop consuming. If I previously purchased and own some work (i.e. an album from a band that turns out to be shitty), I will still sometimes engage with that, but no new money is going to them.

[–] Noctambulist@lemmy.world 24 points 3 days ago

It depends. The artist being a bad person doesn't automatically make the art bad. But I also don’t want to support bad people. So, relevant questions to me are: Is the artist still alive? Do they profit from my consuming their work? Do I promote them perhaps indirectly? The answers will be different for e.g. Lovecraft vs. Rowling, or rereading a book I already own vs. convincing my book club to buy new copies.

[–] bjoern_tantau@swg-empire.de 19 points 3 days ago (1 children)

My favourite book is Alice's Adventures in Wonderland. My edition has a foreword about how Lewis Carroll really really wasn't a paedophile, he just loved children very very much. That foreword convinced me that he was a paedophile.

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 15 points 3 days ago

Dr Seuss couldn't stand children, so he's at least got that going for him, but he was the standard level of 1950s racist.

[–] Soulg@ani.social 4 points 2 days ago

If I find out about the artist before consuming any of the art, I will generally try to avoid it.

But if I already enjoy something and find out, I'll usually keep enjoying the thing. Occasionally I won't be able to, but I haven't fully figured out where the rules are yet. I think part of it is if the art is directly related to what/how they were a bad person. For example I can still enjoy ruroni kenshin, because it has pretty much nothing to do with what the creator was caught with

[–] MyBrainHurts@piefed.ca 20 points 3 days ago

Most people, even those who scream the loudest about human rights, tend to wear sweatshop clothes made by kids who occasionally burn to death because it's slightly cheaper to not have fire escapes.

Not enjoying an artist who in most cases isn't even profiting off of my enjoyment just seems silly. I prefer to focus my efforts on the actual harms to which I, like so many of us, really do contribute.

[–] tiramichu@sh.itjust.works 17 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Possibly controversial take: I get super turned-off by any content creator who seems to be in it mainly for money.

There are lots of people out there who decided they want to be a youtuber as their profession - and best of luck to them! - but I feel quite safe in saying that almost every youtuber I truly love began their channel not because they wanted to make money, but because they had something to share. They had a passion, or burning thoughts, or knowledge that was too good to keep to themselves, and youtube was a way to voice it.

And they might be profitable now, but that's not why they started.

So yeah. As soon as I get a smell that the content someone makes or the way they act or the things they say are dictated primarily by dollar signs, rather than by being the thing they truly want to do, I very quickly lose interest.

[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 5 points 2 days ago

In significantly smaller amounts, but yes. No Hitler ate sugar.

[–] Postmortal_Pop@lemmy.world 11 points 2 days ago (4 children)

I had my first run in with this in the tail end of highschool. Lovecraft was the first author that really hit me. The feeling of existential dread and the idea of forces beyond our comprehension that we only survive sharing reality work because we're too inconsequential to do anything about were both formative and comforting ideas to my anxiety riddled mind. It wasn't until deciding I was truely a fan that I found out he was so racist the kkk didn't want to be associated with him.

He's not my only brush with this, I find that any figure I grow to like inevitably fails to meet my standards. Neil Gaiman, Danny Masterson, Dr. Seuss, Neil DeGrasse Tyson, Joss Whedon, Louis C. K., Jack Black, Walt Disney, Jane Goodall, Woody Allen, Kevin Spacey, and the list goes on. At this point, the only heroes I've had that haven't turned out to be bastards and sex pests are Weird Al and Bill Nye.

To this I've taken to the idea of the death of the author . In short, the essay states that you should ignore the artist's intention and biography when considering the merrit of the art. Awful people are just as likely to create something beautiful as anyone else. This doesn't hold entirely true and your mileage may very, Lovecraft's Xemophobia makes his inspirations far more obvious, but removing all of the overtly racist parts has no affect on the actual horror or conveys. That doesn't work for Scar Tissue by Red hot Chili Peppers which is explicitly about raping a minor.

Play it by ear. If it's not explicitly problematic then it's not on you to feel bad about it You can like a song without it meaning more than that.

[–] remon@ani.social 6 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

WTH did Jane Goodall do???

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