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I've mentioned that I like to just sit back in my easy chair, put headphones on and just listen to music without doing anything else. People say this is weird and say they would fall asleep or go crazy from not doing anything. Am I weird for doing this?

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[–] melsaskca@lemmy.ca 1 points 7 minutes ago

Both. The distinction being when working I listen to albums or a stream, when listening only, it's by the song.

[–] gwl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 9 minutes ago

I mostly listen to music whilst walking the doggy, and sometimes when doing chores around the house

Occasionally I have a lonely though of "it's music time" and just focus just on that

[–] dennisnedry@feddit.nu 1 points 34 minutes ago

I used to do that all the time in my teenage years. I would buy a CD Album, go home, play it on my stereo, listen through the entire album while reading the lyrics or Look at the art in that little Booklet that came with the album.

Or i would just play an album, lie on my bed and just listen.

Nowadays i mostly listen to music while working or driving. I dont have a stereo and no space to have one. I would like to have a "music corner" it like Rob in High fidelity.

Yes, our main floor living room doesn't have a TV. Instead we have a piano, guitar, and high end speakers hooked up to a vinyl player with a collection that I'm constantly growing (probably to my wife's chagrin). It's my way of putting my phone out of reach and disconnecting for a minute while The Armed yells at me.

[–] MintyFresh@lemmy.world 1 points 2 hours ago

Depends how stoned I am

[–] XeroxCool@lemmy.world 2 points 15 hours ago

I do it. I miss having linear, defined "playlists" we used to call listening to an album. So, duh, you can still do it. I play curated playlists when I'm driving. If something catches my attention, I go to that song's album (please don't be a single, please don't be a single). If the album plays through well, I'll probably give it a go at home.

Granted, sitting still is not my strong suit, so it's not all that common. Video games are my main TV/couch thing if solo. I always have some other chore or project nagging me. But damn, is it relaxing to lightly hit a thc vape and play deadmau5

[–] FreshParsnip@lemmy.ca 1 points 14 hours ago

I like to play games while I listen to music

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 5 points 22 hours ago

Sometimes but never in headphones. In the living room right in the stereo spot on the couch. Mostly I listen and do, but sometimes just listen.

[–] goatey523@pawb.social 1 points 16 hours ago

Honestly, people judging how you consume anything is weird. Personally, i do the same as you, and i lay down to.listen to some music, and honestly, i've had the best musical experiences that way. Laid down, eyes closed. That way your imagination can go wild and sometimes (sometimes) cook you up some wild stuff xD But all in all? Extremely normal if you ask me.

[–] UnPassive@lemmy.world 4 points 22 hours ago

I do the same, but with my turntable

[–] gera@feddit.nu 3 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago)

Have to do something else. I mostly listen to new albums when doing cardio at the gym, or when playing multiplayer vidya.

[–] sturmblast@lemmy.world 3 points 23 hours ago

All the time. Its wonderful.

[–] zlatiah@lemmy.world 3 points 23 hours ago* (last edited 23 hours ago)

I do it sometimes, but mainly for music I really enjoy or have a keen interest in. Technically I also did it for a music competition a few months ago but that probably doesn't count...

There is research on this btw! I had to dig a bit, but this is a 2011 research article (might be paywalled, I can try & help if anyone is really interested in) on why people (psych undergrads, but still) listen to music. They identified 6 mostly independent factors, one of which ("personal identity") may be more linked to ppl listening just for enjoyment; one of their experiments showed that 75.66% of participants listen to music as "background noise". So music as primary activity is probably relatively uncommon (but not non-existent). Funnily enough I rarely use music as background distraction these days

[–] bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works 2 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago)

I do, since I have a dedicated listening setup, always have, even in small apartments.

Sometimes I read while listening. Usually I'm more engaged in the music.

Having an engaging stereo setup definitely helps. Am i sitting doing nothing listening on crappy airpods? Definitely not.

Also people saying its werid must be zoomers or alphas. This is literally how we have enjoyed music for the past century. Do they know what a typewriter is? Or even a desktop computer nowadays I suppose. Man.

[–] Shellofbiomatter@lemmus.org 30 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I wouldn't say weird. You can enjoy your music however you want.

Personally i wouldn't be able to do it, having ADHD and sitting still doesn't really go together.

[–] sheogorath@lemmy.world 3 points 56 minutes ago

If you have adhd I suggest getting a good quality IEM or headphones. I can sit still and just listen to music if it’s layered and lush and have myself fully stimulated trying to piece everything.

[–] Mr_Wobble@thelemmy.club 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Same here. I think walking and listening to music also qualifies as "just listening to music" for me, and I find it quite easy and enjoyable. I don't think the sitting part is all that important, only the "just listen to music" part.

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[–] mcforest@feddit.org 22 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I thought that's exactly what we pretentious audiophiles do.

[–] bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works 5 points 22 hours ago

I mean, it wasnt uncommon that normal families just did this as well , thats why many of us always had good listening setups in the living room.

Now they are usually relegated to the basement and only listened to by crazy ol gramps.

I swear this is a reason for growing depression , among other things. Music is one of humanities strongest past times, and the majority of humans now dont give a shit and put it on as background noise with 0 care.

I blame parents.

[–] kn33@lemmy.world 18 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I don't appreciate being called out like this

[–] everett@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] kat_angstrom@lemmy.world 2 points 21 hours ago
[–] OriginEnergySux@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

...you've made me realise I actually havent done this in so long

[–] Suck_on_my_Presence@lemmy.world 2 points 20 hours ago

Yeah same. Time to grab the ole trusty Moody Blues

[–] nymnympseudonym@piefed.social 17 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Does vaping weed count as "doing something else"?

[–] XeroxCool@lemmy.world 1 points 15 hours ago

"I'm gonna vape instead of drink and play the same games"

[cuuuuhhhhh]

reclines, opens music app

[–] Anivia@feddit.org 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Reserved for Tangerine Dream , Ozric Tentacles , and Pink Floyd

[–] myrmidex@belgae.social 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

About as much as "sitting in a comfy chair".

Converting ethanol into urea is one of my favorite activities

[–] fitgse@sh.itjust.works 16 points 1 day ago

I “metaltate” several times a week. Dark room, closed eyes, focus on breathing, and headphones with black metal.

[–] ContactClosure@lemmus.org 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I think everyone should try to only listen, at least sometimes. We've been trained to need input constantly and we're not built for it. People can't just watch TV any more either, need more screens!

[–] JayGray91@piefed.social 1 points 27 minutes ago

I agree. Music is as diverse as people. It's a good thing that sometimes I can use music to relax, and sometimes it gets me to looking into myself for some introspective. It lets me process my emotions, problems, and try to come out with a solution or just for cope.

[–] zewm@lemmy.world 15 points 1 day ago

One of my earliest memories of listening to music was in exactly this style.

Our family inherited a mobile trailer that was parked in our front yard for a while. I was a young kid and would use the trailer as “my house”.

I distinctly remember plopping down a boombox on the “kitchen table”, which was just a fold out table with a chair on either side.

I popped in Dr. Dre’s Da Chronic into the cassette deck of the boombox and hit play. Listening to the whole album while sitting on the chair.

Fun times. Stop worrying about how other people consume entertainment and just do what feels good to you.

[–] AceFuzzLord@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 day ago

If I'm just a passenger in a vehicle, I don't mind sitting back and just listening to music. Otherwise, I'm so used to doing something else while listening that it feels kinda weird to not have it as background when I'm working, when appropriate.

[–] hanrahan@piefed.social 5 points 1 day ago

Doing something as in having a coffee or not doing anything at all ? I'll have a coffee or a drink and listen, at most eat a light meal.

I'm weird in that I can't listen to music and do something else because I can't.. listen I mean, it's just noise in the background, like elevator music, so why bother? and listening while running, walking or cycling is beyond me as there's so much going on and you need so much situational awareness when engaged in those avtivities.

[–] andrewta@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago

No I do this also

[–] hperrin@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 day ago

That’s not weird at all. It’s very enjoyable.

For me listening to music and dancing are a joint experience. Setting still while listening feels offensive somehow. My body just kinda moves on is own.

[–] folekaule@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

I do this if I get sleepy but it's too early to go to bed. Put my noice cancelling headphones on, close my eyes, and usually nod off.

I wish I could just meditate like you, but my mind is always racing if I'm not sleeping or focused on something.

I just think you're lucky to be able to tune everything out, not weird.

[–] kn33@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

I do, but not with headphones. If it's headphones, it's second to something else. If the activity is specifically listening to music, I'm doing it on the good speakers.

[–] StickyDango@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

I do this sometimes, especially when I am stressed out and just need time to relax and forget everything for a while by immersing myself in whatever I'm listening to. Same with just sitting on public transport. Sometimes, I just stare out the window, and everything I hear is just sound because I'm just in the moment. I'd otherwise be on my phone like everyone else.

No, you're not weird.

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

depends. I have music on like 90% of the time. Sometimes I like to put headphones or quality speakers on and close my eyes and really pay attention to the music. Otherwise it's daily activities or kareoke

[–] Lena@piefed.zip 5 points 1 day ago

reading this thread made me realize why music visualizers were so popular

[–] Witchfire@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I do both but I'm usually doing something because of ADHD. Sometimes it's something mindless. My favorite time to listen to music is while walking around the city

[–] RaoulDuke25@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 day ago

It's the best way to analyze a track or just let my brain juices flow and just think or plan or just drift into the aether.

[–] Iconoclast@feddit.uk 4 points 1 day ago

I quite rarely listen to music but sometimes I just want to hear one or two songs and then I often just sit and listen.

[–] CptHacke@piefed.social 4 points 1 day ago

Thanks for the replies, all. It's nice to know that I'm not the only one who does this! I find it very therapeutic, and I enjoy being able to really focus on the lyrics and the music itself. My high school band teacher taught us that music is not a spectator sport - if you're only hearing sounds, you're missing out on half the experience. :)

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