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[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 153 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Yes, women can be lesbians.

[–] Klear@piefed.world 44 points 5 days ago (2 children)
[–] Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 21 points 5 days ago

Or full-time, or even both

[–] Nutteman@lemmy.world 2 points 4 days ago

They can have a little slommy

[–] Forgottengoldfish@lemmy.world 76 points 5 days ago (1 children)
[–] Karl@literature.cafe 26 points 5 days ago (1 children)
[–] BucketBong@p.hobo.social 30 points 5 days ago (1 children)

We can close the post now.

[–] Karl@literature.cafe 10 points 5 days ago
[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 67 points 5 days ago (3 children)

Yup.

Cisgender woman here, I've had two trans girlfriends in the past. They were definitely 100% women ... I checked very very thoroughly.

[–] ccunning@lemmy.world 66 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Wait.

Are you saying cisgender women can be lesbians too?

[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 44 points 5 days ago

Yes, these days that's allowed too - we're living in the future, after all!

[–] kkj@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Ah, but were they lesbians? Did you make sure they weren't bi or pan?

[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 4 days ago

One of them definitely was, lol

[–] venusaur@lemmy.world 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)
[–] Assassassin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 19 points 5 days ago

Their lesbian license, obviously

[–] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 45 points 5 days ago (2 children)

About a third of all trans women are as a matter of fact

[–] Noodle07@lemmy.world 20 points 5 days ago (1 children)

About 2/3 of Lemmy as well /s

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 20 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

That's just blahaj.zone .

[–] Karl@literature.cafe 7 points 5 days ago

Thats interesting.

[–] chocrates@piefed.world 35 points 5 days ago (2 children)

Trans is their sexual identity and lesbian is their sexual preference. They are not mutually exclusive.

[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 10 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

Pretty sure their sexual (or gender) identity is "woman". The trans thing is usually more a stumbling block than an identity.

[–] chocrates@piefed.world 5 points 5 days ago

Yes you are right

Gender identity*

[–] Tedesche@lemmy.world 12 points 4 days ago

Trans status is about gender identity; gay/lesbian/bisexual is about sexual orientation.

So, a trans woman (MtF) who likes women is a lesbian, because she identifies as a woman who likes women. Her sex identified at birth is not considered a legitimate factor. Likewise, a trans woman (MtF) who likes men is not a gay man, she is a straight woman.

[–] RoddyStiggs@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Transgender women are women.

Women who love women exclusively are lesbians.

So, yes.

[–] erev@lemmy.world 2 points 4 days ago

Slight correction: the contemporaneous usage of the word lesbian in the queer community does not specifically say it is wlw, but that it is femme/non-masculine attraction to femininity/non-masculinity. In that sense it may be more closely aligned with being sapphic than strictly wlw.

[–] Noel_Skum@sh.itjust.works 25 points 5 days ago (3 children)

If born on the island of Lesbos then, yes, definitely… if born somewhere else then the answer to this question might depend on where you get your definition of words.

Love is love, whatever, but sometimes labels can do damage.

[–] owenfromcanada@lemmy.ca 45 points 5 days ago

Otherwise it's just sparkling homosexuality

[–] SeductiveTortoise@piefed.social 7 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Woman*

~*lesbian_style~

That's a bit cumbersome, isn't it? I'm fine with "lesbian woman", no matter where they're from 💖

Oh my, I'm having a hard time setting the markdown right...

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[–] ThunderQueen@lemmy.world 11 points 5 days ago

Ive been a trans lesbian for 5 years now. Its great. Im technically pan but i dont really hook up with guys.. women are just so 🤌🤤

[–] webp@mander.xyz 7 points 4 days ago

Can women be lesbian 🤔

[–] daggermoon@piefed.world 11 points 5 days ago

Yes cuddling with my gf right now

[–] nightmare786@leminal.space 11 points 5 days ago

they call it a transbian

[–] GarboDog@lemmy.world 8 points 5 days ago

Yeah- if women love other women you’d typically call that lesbian coded.

[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Do I have to get a divorce if it comes out that the answer is no?

[–] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 4 days ago

No, you start throwing bricks

[–] queerlilhayseed@piefed.blahaj.zone 9 points 5 days ago (1 children)
[–] ThunderQueen@lemmy.world 4 points 5 days ago

Usually with my tongue or fingers. Or hers.

[–] ImgurRefugee114@reddthat.com 6 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

Sex, gender, expression, and orientation are separate dimensions and can vary independently. While there is coupling and correlation, they are distinct

[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 2 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (2 children)

"lesbian" inherently couples gender identity and sexual preference, no? Language and identity are certainly malleable, but it would be news to me than "lesbian" got the "gay" treatment (where the meaning did change from "homosexual man" to "homosexual or bisexual", depending on the social circle).

[–] ThunderQueen@lemmy.world 5 points 5 days ago (1 children)

A trans woman is a woman. If they are attracted to women, they are a lesbian. Regardless of whether or not they are trans.

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[–] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 2 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

And even within that, T4T is a common preference categorization as well, whether it's for inherent attraction or just practical reasons. There are terms that prefer solely to the target gender so for instance I'm androphilic (vs gynophilic) mostly in my romantic aspect. I don't mind both sexually, I've just found women's personalities to be difficult to deal with / have difficulty dealing with me romantically (practical preference). Now, gender wise I'm roughly here:

♀️<----------|×--------->♂️

And my visual preference for a partner is about

♀️<------|---|------|---->♂️

And my personality preference is about

♀️<---------||---|------>♂️

so really CAN I be gay? Especially if I was right on the line there. I will say hubs seems to prefer roughly (in both aspects):

♀️<--|-------|-----|---->♂️

which is pretty neatly bisexual.

[–] Diva@lemmy.ml 4 points 4 days ago
[–] thechosen2nd@piefed.social 6 points 5 days ago (1 children)

The Ancient Pact of the Covenant allows it.

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[–] Sunsofold@lemmings.world 1 points 4 days ago

People are currently fighting over who gets to definitively answer that question.

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