Serious question, that isn’t what people normally do?
How do you function if you don’t think about such things.
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Not autism, but ADHD here, and pretty much all those symptoms.
Kinda disappointing. Like the therapist saying or more like confirming you're on the spectrum was kinda redundant. Yeah sure, ok. Now what?
I'm still going to have to use all the compensatory methods. I'm still going to have to do all the social and emotional side manually. Like dafuq did i throw my money at you, no offense to the therapist.
Brain implants don't exist yet to fix or aid with my issues. Neither can we do any surgery to rewire the brain. I'm going to go out of this office and still have to deal with the same issues. What was the point even?
Yeah this did kinda put me off of therapy for the foreseeable future. Way too much like shooting in the dark to justify the resources it takes, time and money. So at least it did something.
Confirmation is one step in being able to solve / correct behavior and build workarounds.
Acceptance is a big step for a lot of people, as is the feeling of solidarity.
Now they know what to research for "life-hacks" on how to interact with and live within the world that isn't designed for people like us.
Completely fair and I'm not denying it's overall usefulness. Way too many people have found it helpful to deny it.
I just got diagnosed late enough that i already had developed most of the necessary compensatory methods to deal with my day to day life.
And it can help rewrite the techniques you have built to function in society (‘masking’) towards something more comfortable and less energy consuming.
A friend of mine got diagnosed in her 20s, when she went in burnout and couldn’t get over it because any social situation was overwhelming. Learning methods to handle social situations -less masking, more awareness of her limits, searching for clearer boundaries and much more I am not privy to- helped her tremendously and she is blossoming.
You can get supports and accommodations, especially at work and school. Otherwise, as you said, there's little point to a formal diagnosis for the sake of it.
In my case, I don't want/need any supports, so I was fine with a much cheaper unofficial assessment. It helped me understand myself and my struggles, like learning just how many things I downplayed as "being dramatic" was real sensory and social friction.
Yeah, if i were to be diagnosed earlier then some help in school life would have been good.
Otherwise pretty much the same, i already had developed all the necessary workarounds for my life by the time i got diagnosed.
Knowing and relating to all these things but not having the $3000+ to actually get diagnosed.
Same. And where I'm from, one can't even find someone to diagnose an adult.
It cost my boyfriend $652 for the diagnosis, not including medication. That's with health insurance in the USA. It's a lot of money, but at least it wasn't in the thousands.
There is medication for Austim?
I suppose there are meds you can take to help you control some of our "quirks". Like meds for when you feel anxiety (maybe after a sensory overload).
If someone tries to sell you meds to cure it, they are grifters ore worse.
Gawd fuckin dammit. Imagine healthcare in the US being better then in Canada in any way lol.
Where are you? There's likely assessment resources available that aren't private but not "advertised" as it were.
It varies wildly province to province how long the waiting list is when you go the publc route as an adult. Could be months to multiple years.
That's fair.
It fixed my mental health and helped me begin to recover.
Throughout my whole life I had thought that I had some form of brain injury or screw up, or maybe I was just being lazy. I couldn't write properly, I was weird. I was an outcast. I tried to be normal which I hated and even then it failed. Even my demeanor I couldn't change. Eventually as a teen I went into a really dark place, and ended up getting a psychiatric nurse.
He suggested to me that I might have autism and referred me for an assessment, I waited three years for it, but I got diagnosed. It's like everything made sense now, and it gave me permission to be myself. Anyone who had an issue with that was being ableist, as long as I don't intentionally try to annoy or harm anybody, or make people uncomfortable. I'm allowed to like what I like and not do what I don't want to do.
I still think I have issues from growing up with undiagnosed issues, mainly related to confidence and self esteem.