Technology

Maybe if they weren't all about making money off loneliness they might be doing a bit better.

Yesterday, I matched with 12 men. Only two messaged me.

Lmao she should have tried running an account for an average looking man

it’s not because there isn’t a desperate need. it’s that they are predatory and make a hard thing fucking impossible, and have a vested interest in making it impossible and charging for the solution, but not a good enough solution to invalidate needing to keep using it.

Everything I've watched or read online seems to indicate that dating apps suck for an overwhelming majority of people so good riddance?

What I can't figure out is what comes next. Singles events (at a bar for ex)? Meet up type events where your doing something with other single people? Friends try to set you up with someone?

I've been married for 10 plus years so I have no skin in the game but it's an interesting topic to me.

All of them being opened by a single money grubbing company, which has enshitified them to an accounting degree has not helped

HOW is this Possible? All dating Apps do is make it IMPOSSIBLE to Find a Real Person! How is that NOT a Winning Strategy in the "Find a Real Person" Industry?

Are they? All my friends in their 30s have more than one app. Or had it, when they were single.

What has really been dying for quite some time is "third spaces". That's what we need to get back really, beyond dating. Just plain socializing and enjoying togetherness.

"Monopoly fucks up the entire market, news at 11."

It's so uncommon to see good news these days.

I’ve paid for a few to see if it helps - It does and I feel like it was worth it up until 2 years ago when they changed how matching works. But you know what doesn’t work, people telling the truth on their profile. So great, I had better matches or in my case on bumble, better choice for matches based on who liked me. But damn if Jeni from the town next door loved “hiking” when really she just loved watching tv and one day wanted to “be more active”. She also told me she wanted to move to Spain one day… guess who also wanted to move to Europe ( Spain, wherever) - me! But I got the job and she’s pulling the “well not yet!!!” and in the end just wanted to visit and knew I have money to do this. P.s. I live in Spain now.

Each profile is a crafted (and truth bending) aspect of your life for others to review and I hate how it doesn’t capture the truth of who you really are in person. I went in being honest and found women who liked the same, but yet they were never really who they were on the app. I found my best matches when I wasn’t truthful or bent the truth a tad but yet I never stayed together long.

Best girlfriend so far, met her organically on the beach because my dog went over to say hi by licking her face. She’s a bit over the top, has tattoos everywhere including a funny phrase on her ass, but she’s the most compatible woman I’ve met so far.

I guess back to Craigslist’s classified section 😆

website has a persistent AI chatbot overlay, btw

easy avoid, for me

If they are dying, I'd say nothing of value is lost.

Good riddance

They were a silly concept to begin with. If they worked well, they'd kill their own business model. To stay economically viable they therefore have to use all kinds of tricks and produce mixed-at-best results, and cognitive manipulation to keep their user base entertained. Glad to see them finally collapse

It's fascinating how different women's experiences with these stupid things are than men's...

in essence its just to get men to keep swiping, and become the "product/data" to be sold. thats why its dying.

Dating apps never really served their purpose. They killed themselves.

Good

Glad I finally am in a position where I'm not on the apps (knock on wood, etc). I was getting dates but I could always tell it was in spite of their best efforts.

And even the person I'm with now, I feel like the app algorithm thought we'd be like an 80%. On paper it doesn't seem like it'd be a long term fit- i have a cat, she has a dog. I like a lot of metal, she likes jam bands. Lot of room for the algorithm to predict we'd have a few dates and then it wouldn't work out.

And as someone else said, most of them are owned by Match group. Even the myths of capitalism require competition for products to be good. Match should be broken up.

I remember using MyYearBook back when it was called that (I think it was changed to something like MeetMe or whatever, last I heard), and had a fair bit of fun on that site when I was younger. It was chaotic, super broken, was kind of like a really bloated MySpace, and what really made it fun is that they incorporated a whole plethora of mini-games to match with people in fun ways.

It kind of seems like a lot of platforms now days, both for dating, as well as games want to restrict communications, if that makes any sense? Like in a lot of online games, you might not even be able to open a text chat, and can only communicate through pre-defined gestures. And dating sites seem to want to put abstractions like swiping and questionnaires before any dialogues take place. And maybe for good reason.

There's just a kind of fun in things like the classic chatrooms that I miss I guess. Just make your profile, do some shitposting until people start dropping ASL's into your DM's, and go from there.

Chatroom style ones like Discord can still work okay except for the part where you gotta use Discord.

I am currently developing one and what I can see is the following:

• people get treated like cash cows. It is almost not possible to successfully date without spending money
• people are burned out. The low quality swiping, matching, just to get ghosted, is hurting the motivation.
• people have other problems nowadays. COVID reshaped us completely. We don’t want to spend 2h a day on a dating app. 2h a week max and then they want to continue in real life.

Those are pain points introduced by big corpos (e.g. Match.com) and the fact, that they have launched their apps before COVID.

I have addressed those pain points.

I used dating apps on and off for the best part of 10 years when I was single I never got a single meaningful match. They simply do not work.

As they should for good!