That's OK, I understand that unfortunately it's only a matter of time until images of them end up somewhere I don't want want them, either through ignorance or a difference in values. That's the world we live in right now sadly. But hopefully I can delay and minimise it a bit, open a better channel of communication with a few friends and relatives and perhaps raise some awareness in the process.

I'm genuinely sorry to hear about your experience, especially with the pictures of them ending up on instagram. At least you were responsible as a parent and tried to do your best.

Its important to share and celebrate the birth of a child with your community. Yet another part of our lives that has been compromised by the degradation of our privacy unfortunately.

Yeah, my strategy is to not share pictures of my kids at all. I can hold my phone up in front of people's face so they can look if they want, but that's it.

Just be careful with the return policy, if your past the 60 day window it locks in a multi year contract.

You Can!
Stores are called Adoption Agencies.
Congrats!

You might want to start with a lease, with the option to buy out, or trade-in, after the original terms are up.

Oh dear. I'm sensing a deep backstory here...

I would be furious if a different app that required Android or iOS to use became the norm. Have a Linux phone, a KaiOS phone, or no phone? Too bad.

Haha. Thanks :)

No, if they want a facebook account they will have to wait until they are 18!

Just do it, you'll figure out the details later.

This really is the best way. Once there's a REASON for extra security, people understand and want to learn more.

No one cares. Nobody around you understands the security, the need for it, and the requirements. They will pretend, to see your kid. And then immediately and completely stop caring. It works for making people adopt your favourite messenger, yes. But nothing else.

Depends on the baby, I liked seeing my nieces and nephews growing up. Random coworker baby pics though, they get one pic to announce them, then unsubscribe.

I know it's a hard concept... But people can be nice and genuinely happy for them?

Your basement is likely insufferable too.

Have ever held a baby. They are little happy squish balls. It's intoxicating physiologically.

Haha. Yes, grandparents but also aunties and uncles and close friends. I've noticed that especially friends who have their own kids have been really keen. It's mostly been my girlfriend's female friends but my own two best friends (male) have been keen because they've been by my side in the journey and have been excited and wishing us well. For us it's not about spamming all of our contacts, just sharing with people who are close.

Chicks like baby pictures and they are 50% of society.

Signal is the only thing I advocate. Everything else has a really high bar for nontechnical people.

We got them using Session. My girlfriend and I currently use Jami for text/calls/files but I found that Session worked more reliably with my friend who uses an iphone, so we went with that. So far so good!

In case you don't already know, to make voice calls with Session you have to enable it in the settings. I also recommend changing the theme from the stock 'bio-hazard' one!

Awesome, I was thinking about doing this on my VPS!

Everyone is being polite, while we are the only ones who are amazed by our newborns 😀

Lol Grandpa is even more of a technogrouch than I am and won't even have a phone! Grandma OTOH is already using jami on her gentoo installation.