Avalokitesha

Not gonna lie, you sound as if you think controlling parents are in the right, the way you say they should have access.

That's a resounding fuck no from me.

It doesn't matter if kids fuck up or not. If they do, like your son, they hopefully learn a valuable lesson that apparently they have been spared before, for whatever reason. Maybe they never really had to put effort in studying in high school before - I saw a lot of that in my friends at college, they completely underestimated that college is harder than high school.

Or maybe they never learned to get shit done without parents nagging. Especially in that case they need to learn, for you will not always be there to nag. Helicopter parenting is a sign of lacking confidence in your kid's abilities. And even if the kids are fucking up, mistakes must be made in order to learn.

It's not your life, but your kids life, and your kid needs to live it. Let them. Support them if you can and they need help, but don't enable them - if they keep fucking up, let them unfuck it themselves are the third time. Otherwise you'll do your kid a disservice and make them unable to deal with life.

And I'm not saying don't help them if they ask for help, like when they can't figure something out on their own. Help them help themselves as much as possible and try not to fix everything for them.

You controlling the grades is trying to fix it for your son. How will he ever get work done later on his own? Many neurodivergent people don't do well in-office or in a job setting in general. In a home office setting or if you are your own boss the skill to self-motivate is even more important.

Yes. My younger sister was always objectively better than I had been, and while my family was not as blatant as yours (seriously! What they do to you almost amounts to abuse if you ask me!) they subtly acted similar. Not expecting me to do well on my own, I was never fast or good enough... Yep, been there.

However! I've grown up and found my way, and my sister and I are closer than ever. She, too, hated this dynamic. And she told me that actually it was me who enabled her. You see, when I learned something new I was excited and got home and talked about. And she listened and learned. She has a better talent for math and numbers, but in the end when she learned something in school she basically already knew it because I taught her.

And I hated going to places alone, so once when I was in tenth grade I dragged my seventh grade sister to a film club for English movies. The teacher said he didn't think she can keep up but she was welcome to try - and she did. She told me years later that for her there were no limits because of age or assumed ability. I asked, she was allowed to try, and she innocently just picked things up. She said this for her drove home the point of "doesn't hurt to ask" and that this opened so many doors for her.

Objectively she is still "better" than I am. Very successful with a straight career, earns more too. But that's not important. We're still learning from each other and together, and we do our best to lift each other up. And she knows what it's like to grow up in a toxic family, so she gets me.

I guess my point is that life is not a competition. And the "problem" in your situation is not you nor your abilities. It's your parents favoritism and sabotaging and disparaging you. You are not your sister. And that's normal and great. You're different people with different strengths and different ambitions. You will find your way. No matter if it's writing or something else. Don't put that much stock in what you're parents say and demand.

A good GPA doesn't guarantee a good job or a good life. What counts is if you like your life, because you have to live through it.

The guitar cat got me.

Except some agents go against explicit instructions and delete the prod database. You know your argument doesn't hold, we've all seen the news.

If you do, good on you! Most men don't.

The thing is, if men don't change, it will annoy you. But for women it may very well kill them. You're seeing the problem and understanding it, yet you blame women for trying to survive.

They don't say "All men are predators" because they want to be petty and pay men back for how they talk about women. They live by this because anything else puts them in harms way. I'm pretty sure most women would love to not have to live by that saying. Most women would love to be safe enough to abandon this. But they aren't.

And here you are, yelling at them for trying to survive and keep themselves and each other save, because it bothers you that you get associated with bad men.

I don't know, I feel like survival might be more important than someone feeling judged wrongly (even if the judgement truly is wrong).

If men want women to stop having to say "All men are predators", they need to remove the survival need behind that line.

All these lines have a reason behind it, and as long as "All women are whores" gets shrugged off as locker room talk, or excused as he had a bad relationship experience, this aggressive mindset often leads to women trying to leave a relationship they're unhappy in getting harmed or killed.

If men want women to not see them all as predators they need to keep their bros in check. As well as end the toxic macho culture that regard women as owing men sex when men are nice to them or as their possession once they're in a relationship.

If a country elects someone who says "Grab them by the pussy" and there are men - "good" men - that meme this, that's not ok. Yet it happened and it's no wonder women feel threatened underneath a government like this.

It's not in the women's power to stop this. Good men need to finally start fighting the bad apples if they don't want to be mistrusted as a survival strategy.

Most men I talked to are more upset about being lumped in with the bad apples, when in reality you should be upset how your mothers, sisters, girlfriends, daughters are constantly living in fear and can't move through any space in life without preemptive measures.

The same does not hold true around men.

The longer a woman lives, the more men she comes in contact with, and the statistical likelihood of meeting a dangerous man goes up.

You say "all men are predators" is discriminatory, but for a lot of women it is the only way to drive the point home to their daughters, who may hear "you have to be careful around strangers" and then let their guard down when a predator plays the long game.

Also, children are often sexually abused by family members or friends. So careful around strangers is not sufficient.

Does it suck to hear "All men are predators" if you're a good one? Sure. But at the same time, people have no issues claiming all brown guys are terrorists or illegals. Or women are gold diggers. Or whores.

Humans always generalize. It's just (white) men having been on top of the food chain in the modern society for so long that they feel things are being taken away from them when other groups demand true fairness and equal treatment.

I mean that's a black hat hacking forum. That alone would make me question what they were doing with their domains x)

What you don't get is you can't take away the version history of a given program and expect it to just work without constantly explaining things. There's a reason there's not windows 9 - because too many people wrote compatibility checks checking if the version started with "Windows 9" to distinguish 95 and 98 from the NT line back in the day and having an actual Windows 9 could have broken things.

Granted, Windows 2 is much older and it would be unlikely, but why do you insist of risking something at all when there are better ways?

You could have just said, oh, if there already was a version 2, let's just call it "Windows Gen2" instead of getting belligerent.

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The thing alternates between showing the measured speed and a reaction to it - smiley if it's acceptable, something else if it's not. I don't remember RN what the bad reaction is (I'm not a driver) but in a 30 zone a smiley at 42 is misconfigured.

My logic was always, if == is equal, then for >= we replace one of the equal signs to denote that it doesn't have only be equal but can be both.

But that was probably also influenced by languages where == means the value is equal and === means value and type have to be equal for the comparison to be true. If you compare "5" and 5 in those languages, == will be true and === will be false, since one is a string and one is a number.

At the end of the day, those signs are arbitrary conventions. People agree on them meaning something in a specific context, and the same thing can mean different things in different contexts. A in English represents a different sound than A in Spanish, and sometimes even in other dialects of English. Thinking of out like that helped me to keep the conventions of different programming languages apart.