JackbyDev

I feel you with regards to the privilege aspect, and it's definitely been something I've been conscious of in this (being white, straight passing, cis ish male). But it's important to remember that it's not all or nothing. If it's too much, tune out for a bit, take a breather, then tune back in. It's not like you have to permanently tune out forever or commit to stay engaged 24/7/365.

If you're actively having like anxiety/panic attacks or sobbing about things there's nothing you can do in that moment to help people. It's sort of like the spoons metaphor thing. You're just totally out of spoons. Take some time to fill your spoons back up and get back in.

I'll edit my other comment to make my point a little more clear that I'm not advocating a "lay down and rot" type of response.

There's a balance. You need to stay informed, but you need to keep yourself from spiraling.

Edit: To be clear, I'm not suggesting anyone totally tune out forever. Just take breaks as you need and get back in.

No, that's their normal one that's not rolling.

For us the infamous moment was Banshees of Inisherin. I thought it was mid. My wife hated it. Everybody else loved it.

Every time I'm doing anything with Python I ask myself if Java's tooling is this complicated or I'm just used to it by now. I think a big part of the weirdness is that a lot of Python tooling is tied to the Python installation whereas in Java things like Maven and Gradle are separate. In addition, I think dependencies you install get tied to that Python installation, while in Java they just are in a cache for Maven/Gradle. And in the horrible scenario where you need to use different versions of Maven/Gradle (one place I was at specifically needed Maven 3.0.3 for one project and a different for a different, don't ask, it's dumb and their own fault for setting it up that way) at least they still have one common cache for everything.

I guess it also helps that with Java you (often) don't need platform specific jar files. But Python is often used as an easy and dynamic scripting interface over more performant, native code. So you don't really run into things like "this artifact doesn't have a 64 bit arm version for python 2" often with Java. But that's not a fault of Python's tooling, it's just the reality of how it's used.

The song predates that by five years.

The song predates that by five years. https://www.goretro.com/2016/12/why-baby-its-cold-outside-is-not-about.html?m=1

Frank Loesser's son, John, was interviewed about the song by the Palm Bean Post in 2010 that was reprinted on the official site for his dad. From the article:

“My father wrote that song as a piece of special material for he and my mother to do at parties,” says John Loesser, who runs the Lyric Theatre in Stuart, and is the son of legendary composer Frank Loesser (Guys and Dolls, How To Succeed In Business Without Really Trying.)

Frank Loesser’s wife, Lynn, was a nightclub singer who had moved from Terre Haute, Ind. to New York in search of a career. She was singing in a nightclub when she met Frank Loesser around 1930.

The song itself was written in 1944, when Loesser and his wife had just moved into the Hotel Navarro in New York. They gave a housewarming party for themselves and when they did the number, everybody went crazy.

“We had to do it over and over again,” Lynn Loesser told her kids, “and we became instant parlor room stars.”

Performers started to take note of the song, and record covers of it. It's also featured in the 1949 musical comedy Neptune's Daughter as sung by Ricardo Montalbán and Esther Williams below. And in that movie, it takes an ironic tone since the movie takes place in a warm climate. It also earned Loesser an Academy Award for Best Original Song.

This song is cute and happy but the lyrics are absolutely devastating and make me cry. https://open.spotify.com/track/2E3hdMguyNDQswLXyUotYR

https://genius.com/Bloc-party-signs-lyrics

[Verse 1]
Two ravens in the old oak tree
And one for you and one for me
And bluebells in the late December
I see signs now all the time
The last time we slept together
There was something that was not there
You never wanted to alarm me
But I'm the one that's drowning now

[Verse 2]
I can sleep forever these days
Cause in my dreams I see you again
But this time-fleshed out fuller face
In your confirmation dress
It was so like you to visit me
To let me know you were okay
It was so like you to visit me
You're always worried about someone else

[Bridge]
At your funeral I was so upset
So, so upset
In your life you were larger than this
Statue statuesque

[Chorus] (x2)
I see signs now all the time
That you're not dead, you're sleeping
I believe in anything
That brings you back home to me

I hate this song. Literally sobbing at the fear of the state my mental health would be in if my wife suddenly passed.

Ughhh, no no no no no. It's them debating on what excuse she will use so the community doesn't slut shame her!

In my school in the Bible belt that was primarily what they focused on. I don't remember much time being given to condoms. I certainly don't remember ever being given one or shown how to use it (not that it's that difficult or anything, but still).

But what I do remember is a speaker coming to our school to talk to us about how he had sex outside of marriage and got a girl pregnant, but he did the right thing and got married. Also, and I cannot stress this enough, he described this as abstaining because he married the person he had sex with.

THE GOONER REBELLION, WOOOOO!

Not as bad as watching a movie with friends when everyone else loved it and you were the only one who hated it lol. It feels so much more visceral.