You're saying it doesn't matter except on the individual level, but if you don't want people sharing their actual, individual usage of the word, how could we ever be descriptivist?
I read the rest. It's the same sort of logic as "Love the sinner, hate the sin" shit. If it makes you uncomfortable, you really need to work on it. Interact with trans folks, get to know some. I'm not saying you need to want to date them or something, but it just making you "uncomfortable" isn't good and something you need to work on.
Sometimes subverting the cliche becomes the cliche to stop repeating.
Will Car be a playable race in the new Fable?
Unless a movie says a character's name A LOT I will forget it. I'm so so bad with names. But I hear actors' names all the time. It's that simple. If I remembered the characters' names, I'd use them. I suppose also for more obscure movies that I like, I'd probably use the actors' names if I think other people don't know the movie.
The jobs I have had over the last year have been heavily pushing it, yes.
If it comes with Ubuntu and you like it, stick with it. At least give it a try. Everyone can tell you why they dislike it, but most distro hate/discussion is pretty minor compared to like Windows versus Linux discussion lol.
Yes, but that's generally a bad thing that the majority of people want to avoid. If someone controls over half of the mining pool then you have bigger issues.
I'm just a little weirded out by trans in general. It's weird to me.
You need to get the fuck over yourself then.
What's the alternative you're suggesting? That they don't use the label that best suits them? That they don't use the definition they prefer when asked why they identify as they do? This feels sort of half baked. I get where you're going, but to what end? Suggesting they use a different definition or a different label just for convenience is pretty problematic.
I actually think it's fine to question people on their identity, the only person who can really tell you why they identify as what they identify is them. There's some nuance of course, and you don't want to pry or seem like you're trying to convince them they've used the wrong label, but I think it's fine to ask folks.
I'll try to give a good example. The context of this thread is all of us discussing the difference. It's a bit different than asking a singular person why they may have chose one over the other. A very close person to me chooses the pan label over the bi label because of a reason I personally disagree with and view as biphobic. They choose it because they don't want trans and nonbinary people who subscribe to the biphobic definition to believe they're transphobic or enbyphobic. My response to this is not "that's biphobic, you shouldn't do that." Because the only real conclusion from that would be that I'm saying "You should call yourself bisexual" which would be relabeling them. Now, this specific conversation, it vent on, and all of us having the conversation are on the same page about it all, for the most part. We all agree there is massive, massive overlap between the two and the label doesn't really matter too too much, and all of us would be fine saying we're "bi/pan" probably. If our opinions were more unaligned on the topic, it may have gone differently. Especially if this person said that I am transphobic or enbyphobic for saying I am bisexual, but that's not something they did and it's not something they believe. Also, we did all say that the flag we preferred played a bit of a role lmao. The two of us that are bi love the bi color and the the one who is pan loves the pan colors.
I guess for me, going back to the dating app analogy, I'd rather label myself what I am (bisexual) and have people who have biphobic takes that assume I am transphobic/enbyphobic pass on me than relabel myself to accommodate them. Because I don't think we'd necessarily be able to get along anyways. I think if someone is that opposed to the label found out I called myself pan instead of bi on my profile just to get into their DMs, it would also just push them further into biphobia and they'd unmatch with me anyways.
I think this is why this meme is so hilarious, bi versus pan just sort of carries on and on and rarely leads to satisfying conclusions. But I think there's beauty there, I think the queer experience is so unique and I love to learn about people and also have others learn about me. I love discussions.
Go the Oceans 13 (12?) route and just be like "You look like Julia Roberts."