LadyButterfly

Controversial! I admire your gumption

!television@piefed.social is really active and the mod works hard. It's a nice place to hang out

I was literally coming here to tag you, but you're already here!

Oh yeah baby that's it

It really isn't. Once you know it's better, you can deal with it. Stay strong and keep reaching out

On the one hand I'd love that but on the other it's more cleaning

I have indeed failed you haha

Thanks mate I re edited my comment to put it all back incase it's helpful. And absolutely, gender can make a big difference to how a child is treated. It is kinda good that you don't know what you've missed. I get what you mean about childhood still haunting you, it's really hard to unlearn things we learned back then. Therapy can really help, it can change how we think... it's about self development not things being wrong with us

Thanks shades, didn't click about that. Really appreciate you pointing it out.

Absolutely

These are really valid questions! I'm a fiercely pro dad woman, and I'll try to answer. IME people's relationship with their dad tends to be different to their mom, they're two different roles and two different people. IME people tend to go to dad for practical stuff (financial advice, DIY, moving things etc) and mom for home based practical and lengthy emotional discussions. Dad will also do emotional stuff, but often different style eg pep talks. For protection stuff, IME people go to dad.

Yes I love and miss my dad very much. A good person accepts mistakes, no matter what their role. And you can always go to a good parent cos they're always safe.

I'm sorry you didnt get the dad all children deserve. Have you found !dadforaminute@lemmy.world People post when they need dad style advice or a hug.

Thanks otp, unfortunately I struggle to read text on lemmy coloured backgrounds. Writing is also just going to unavoidably foil me sometimes. Please bear in mind, the way written language developed is neurotypical, and so not how my brain is wired. If everyone's brain was wired like me, written language would have developed differently. It isn't as simple as learning linguistic rules... if it was, I'd have done that years ago.