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[–] Notyou@sopuli.xyz 26 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

As someone a little older and without a wife going through menopause yet, FUCK NO you are not wrong for feeling that.

She is going through the brunt and you seem to understand that from this post. That doesn't mean you aren't going through it too. Just like couples going through pregnancy, deaths, or other life events. It normally effects one more than the other, but it doesn't mean the other partner isn't going through issues. You are married. That means BOTH of you go through things together.

She is very much entitled to her selfishness for this period of time. I don't have tips or tricks, but I will say avoid fights. Even if you both sometimes understand it's just venting and neither of you mean what you say.

Try to pick up an unrelated hobby. Start taking walks. Public libraries have apps that let you checkout books, if you have a reading list. There might be a support group for men going through this. If there isn't could you start one, because I have a feeling I will need it in a few years.

She needs support more than anything. That means not telling her some rando on the Internet agreed with you. Her body is crazy. My wife told me stories of other ladies going through it at her work. She asked questions and is not happy about what is on the horizon.If she doesn't want you support though then focus on you. Draw a doodle.

[–] Notyou@sopuli.xyz 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Bundle all their spells and bind them in a book. Then sell the definitive guide to sovcits.

[–] Notyou@sopuli.xyz 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I would also add that you can down slash at the beginning. It is very useful and I didn't start using it till I saw someone online playing way better than me.

Pogo off enemies or spikes. It's great. There's a grub worm that I waited till the very end to get because I didn't know I could pogo on the spikes.

All the bosses are pattern recognition, so if you end up bashing your head into a wall then maybe try to take a break and learn some dishes for the attacks.

[–] Notyou@sopuli.xyz 5 points 1 month ago

I've actually been pleasantly surprised.

[–] Notyou@sopuli.xyz 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

At least after 40 hours overtime kicked in and they would be making $1.50/hr....

[–] Notyou@sopuli.xyz 19 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Other people mentioned the medical stuff, so..... Fuck yeah get some toys. I got an autoblower and it has been enjoyable. Make sure you use water based lubricant (depending on the toy, most are silicone). Don't use silicone lube with silicone toys. Also make sure you keep it clean and dry between storage. Corn starch works for drying powder, if you don't wanna buy special toy cleaning powder.

I would look into one with an easy clean up. I saw some toys that has the back open so if you "make a mess" in the toy then it would just shoot out the end.

Also, fuck the haters. I know most people see men with sex toys as either "gross" or "funny" but I'm the one enjoying myself when they are still hanging on to baggage. Besides Megan Thee Stallion told me that "Everybody talking shit probably sucks anyway."

[–] Notyou@sopuli.xyz 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I can think this is funny and be able to pick up on the sarcasm, but it doesn't mean everyone else can.

I still think /s is valid. I'm not like OP and I don't go out of my way down voting. However, I think the problem is when someone doesn't pick up on your sarcasm, and then you were to dismiss their comment and double down on, "just sarcasm bro" instead of fixing how you communicate to people. I'm not talking about rare outliers. I wish it was rare. I just notice people have more problems communicating with sarcasm in text.

Not that any of this matters at the end of the day.

[–] Notyou@sopuli.xyz 4 points 1 month ago (3 children)

I can agree with this statement for real life interactions, but online you can't pick up the nonverbal cues.

[–] Notyou@sopuli.xyz 14 points 1 month ago (5 children)

I honestly didn't think this would be as unpopular as the responses make it seem. I used to be against using /s because "it makes it less fun" but way too many people get the wrong message. I decided to start using it because I want people to understand me correctly. It's that the point of communicating with people?

IRL I try to be more over the top, but even then (like OP and others pointed out) if the person doesn't know your baseline then they might think you are being serious. It has happened to me countless times.

[–] Notyou@sopuli.xyz 2 points 2 months ago

Catholic, so not much.

My mom did pick me up some condoms when she knew I was banging though. Not much talk except be safe.

[–] Notyou@sopuli.xyz 19 points 2 months ago

I think the France invented a device that helps tamp down corruption. We might be able to borrow it, if we ask nice.

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