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I find the balance. They are less than a half hour drive away and we don't see them all that often.

My kid has grandparents and cousins he likes. Fortunately at most of the get-togethers at grandma's house, we tend to separate into two floors of the house. So I get to hang with my nieces and nephews and spend most of the time with walls between me and the old miserable people.

I like your version much better.

Instead of just focusing on the negative, it not only includes an example of a positive state of being but highlights the resilience of that good nature even when faced with the negative/harmful nature of another.

That makes me think of how much it annoys me when things are really messy and disorganized in our house, which is very often.

It's like there's no indexing. Where is thing X that somebody else used last? Time to start a fresh empty-cache brute force search of the whole space!

Thought 1: This is the most Lemmy image I've seen all day.

Thought 2: I am unavoidably going to make a comment to my wife about grabbing her like a dual shock controller. Probably right as said grabbing occurs. And I probably won't explain myself.

The whole tech world is just so frustrating. (in before reply pointing out that it's capitalism causing the frustration - yup)

Some of these "features" and "safeguards" might make sense coming from a trusted entity. Even in the real world with evil Google the changes might help some users who use Google everything and might benefit from being blocked from doing stupid things.

But it's not even close to worth it. They cannot be trusted on their own, and now the influence and access of the US government seems 10x worse than it already was.

What's astonishing to me, as an American who grew up in white conservative rural and suburban areas, is that the racism is just one facet of a much larger shitty state of existence.

I see the same things IRL from ordinary people, like extended family, that I see from the people in the media who seem like hyperbolic caricatures trying to test Poe's law.

It's just an existence based in negativity. Every request has a hurried frustrated tone. Every discussion is composed entirely of complaints. The complaints about others are bigoted sure, but also very focused on money and material possessions which those other people never deserve and the speaker is neverrrrr jealous about. Personal identity is built from all the things you don't like.

I have a good relationship with my family, but they are still miserable and draining to be around.

😅 Hey there fellow human Fediverse user!

✈️ Wanna get away from all the AI slop?

👍 Well you are in the right place.

😎 Lists are great, and bulleted lists are classy, but emoji-bullet lists are the coolest most human thing ever!

🧐 Using glue in place of pizza sauce actually binds the fat and makes it more healthy!

🫡 Do YOU have two 5090s on order like a good person?

Same with what we were hearing about the Linux desktop!

...yet here we are in 2026 and literally all my desktops have since become Linux, lol.

I definitely agree with you there.

Reddit, unfortunately, does not. I am not suggesting that Reddit's bad intentions necessarily make removing one's past contributions a good thing or a necessity -- but I do understand why folks might do it.

Vandalism does still feel like the wrong label though. With Reddit you are the sole creator and controller of your comments and their contents (except mod/admin actions, of course) at all times. And even though those comments are part of a larger structured collection of comments, it still isn't like a Wikipedia edit or a contribution to the Linux kernel, where a multitude of other individuals have to approve the change and can edit the exact same spot in the future.

You are definitely taking stuff away from your fellow man, and it may be a net negative for humanity, but it is still at least YOUR stuff that you are sabotaging. Usually messing up your own stuff isn't called vandalism. I think that's why we jumped on that word.

When you try to sabotage a wikipedia page or some FOSS project, that is OUR stuff that you're sabotaging, even if you created that part originally.

That was probably too much text to try to describe the manner in which I am splitting this hair, lol.

You're using a non-profit knowledge sharing organization as an example in a discussion about Reddit, which is quite the opposite.

I think you mean the concept of that existing is one of the big successes of people who debate scientific topics by flooding the conversation with rapid-fire assertions and FUD.

Narcissism + recklessness + greed + privilege, filtered through a heavy layer of survivorship bias, and whatever jackass makes it to the end was apparently a bold visionary genius the whole time.

But then once they're in that club, the money and notoriety are their own advantage.