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[–] loopy@lemm.ee 18 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

I have to somewhat agree with the author. My experience and understanding of depression is that it is more of a (sometimes very persistent) symptom than an underlying cause. Ideally, we would all have the guidance to deal with depressing scenarios, but similar to dissociation during trauma, our mind defaults back to disconnection to limit the pain.

I’m not saying this is every case, but I do think as a society we could view depression more as a coping strategy, and try to replace it with healthier practices. After time, it takes more time and effort and support to replace those coping strategies, but that is essentially what psychotherapy does.

I think too often in the modern world people tend to just shrug and say “this is who I am,” instead of trying to improve their coping skills and quality of life. Like another commentor mentions, this becomes a feedback loop of depression feeding depression and takes immense support and effort to curve and should absolutely not be shamed.

[–] loopy@lemm.ee 6 points 3 weeks ago (6 children)

I guess if the VPN speeds were fine, if there were drops in connection, and whether you can manually choose a location.

Have you used the cloud service for photo backup? I currently have an iPhone and it sounds neat to switch to bundling Proton and dropping the iCloud subscription.

I’d probably just use Proton’s mail app on mobile. It’s actually pretty snappy and intuitive, and it has always had the basic features I need.

 

I’ve been using Express and had a great experience so far, but I may want to try a Proton subscription for cloud space and more emails. It also comes with a VPN service but I’m a little leary on trying something new. Any thoughts on Proton VPN?

 

I like the idea of a less profit-driven business that is maybe more community-focused but I wonder if they have the same capability as a bank? Have you been able to do your banking needs at a credit union? Was the customer service decent?

[–] loopy@lemm.ee 1 points 2 months ago

I also work 3x12s and mostly love having the 4 days off. The downside is being able to do virtually nothing on those days besides eat and sleep. I think one advantage of the 9-5 week is being able to still do a few things more often. It’s hard to practice hobbies and maintain the house with gaps on days that I’m working.

What you value changes slightly as time goes on. Having the more consistent day might be more appealing now. And if you dont like it, there are always nurse jobs that are in need. Maybe there is something in between the hospital and that gig, like dialysis nursing. Worth a try.

[–] loopy@lemm.ee 2 points 3 months ago

For sure, it’s difficult to break that cycle of anxiety. It has been helpful to understand it a little better. I think out of the strategies that she lists at the end, the one about challenging your assumptions has helped the most. I kind of imagine what advice I would give myself in that moment or what I would challenge someone else on.

[–] loopy@lemm.ee 1 points 4 months ago

I think that’s a great way to put it, “Platonic ideal love.”

And I somewhat agree that there is a use for distinguishing from romantic love, but I think it would be even more helpful if there were more descriptions for the different kinds of love, like one for companionship love, loving a family member, loving a passion, etc. They somehow all get lumped together to “love.” Maybe that’s a limitation of English as a language too.

[–] loopy@lemm.ee 2 points 4 months ago (2 children)

I agree, meanings change throughout time. I guess I should have asked should it mean something different? To say platonic love only means non-romantic seems like it belittles the richer meaning of Plato’s views of love as being able to love a passion or eventually beauty itself. How do fully realize to love the concept of beauty itself without first experiencing romantic love? I don’t think a person needs to experience romantic love to experience beauty initially, but to achieve the most developed version of love that Plato describes, how could a person appreciate that without experiencing it?

Reading more about Plato’s thoughts about love, I think I understand what you mean; most of what he described was about the love of questioning and thought. I guess I’m just trying to read between the lines that even if Plato did not value romantic love as highly, is it not a part of “beauty itself”?

 

cross-posted from: https://lemm.ee/post/32338762

…or at least only non-romantic love. I’m learning about history of western philosophy and understand that Plato’s Symposium describes his theory on love and that a person initially desires physical love, but then eventually grows to love things that feel fulfilling, and eventually love the ideal form of beauty itself. It seems like more of a spectrum/progression that includes romantic/physical love, not abstaining from it. “Platonic love” would seem to include physical love and doesn’t seem consistent with the dictionary definition of “friendship love.”

Any thoughts on that?

 

I would like to eventually begin growing my own food and herbs. Do any of you have good book recommendations for growing food, herbs, or possibly herbal medicine?

I know there are a million options, so a few places to start would be really helpful. I want to start with herbs in a raised planter. I’m in the midwest US, so I’ll bring the herbs into an indoor greenhouse cabinet during the winter.

The larger scale of trying to eat only my own vegetables and maybe chickens/goats would likely be in the distant future.

[–] loopy@lemm.ee 7 points 4 months ago

As someone who cares for elderly people sometimes, please please fill out an advanced directive (not just a living will). It’s a sort of “if this, then that” for health scenarios. It’s immensely helpful when when caring for someone not well, and can be much more stressful without one. I have had dying, incapacitated patients wait weeks for guardianship or POA-HC to be processed before care can be changed to comfort measures, because they did not have one on file.

Get one from the hospital you would likely go to, fill it out, give them a copy, keep a copy, and give a copy to who you list as a decision-maker. You do not want to add the stress of logistics to an emotionally difficult time.

I think as a society we should embrace death more. Pretending it doesn’t happen just makes things worse when that reality of mortality unwaveringly stares you in the face.

[–] loopy@lemm.ee 1 points 4 months ago

Try Lemma if you’re on iOS. It’s very smooth and has the right balance of features and simplicity imo.

[–] loopy@lemm.ee 3 points 5 months ago

I’m not sure what you’re using it for, but I use an ebook reader called eBoox. It’s free with no ads, not sure if open-source. I had bookmarks but I don’t think annotations. I like it because it can open my epub, mobi, and pdf books, change the font and font size, sepia and night modes, has many options for how to change the page, and fairly simple UI. The creator markets it as a cutesy cat thing, but that is only present on the initial setup and then it’s just a regular e-reader app.

[–] loopy@lemm.ee 1 points 7 months ago

Does anyone know an expert in bird law?

[–] loopy@lemm.ee 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Oh man, I have many many written down. I quickly found out that there are many schools of thought for approaching woodworking, so it’s helpful to think about what you want to make and what you like or dislike as you try different things. I decided I wanted to go the sharpening route, as opposed to continually buying electro-hardened blades, and I wanted to use as simple as tools as I can learn how. This ends up being axes, chisels, saws, and I did get a hand-crank grinder from 1910 for those heavy grinding situations.

I almost always have the Mortise and Tenon podcast on as I’m doing things. Joshua and Mike’s discussions really resonate with me and the philosophical elements really prompt some introspection. Joshua has two books that I’ll probably get soon. Otherwise, I bought Sharpen This and the Anarchists’ Toolkit; anything from Lost Art Press is probably worth the money.

As far as channels, Matt Estlea has many great videos for the essentials of sharpening and good form for chiseling and sawing. He also has other videos that I would consider “optional” but I did end up making his sharpening block stop, because it makes sharpening quicker. I may try to do free hand honing though, since the heavy cambre is difficult with a honing guide.

Paul Sellers has so many great videos. I especially loved him making a bench without having a bench. So many people show you how to make things already having many other tools and setups.

James Wright (Wood by Wright) has some really good videos and offers honest opinions. Beavercraft has some nice simple ones for getting started with carving. I haven’t explored one for tool restoration yet; if you have any that you suggest, I’d be happy to hear them. I eventually want to just make my own wooden planes.

[–] loopy@lemm.ee 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

That sounds like a unique experience. When I had a running coach for a short while, he said I should curl my toe down as I pull my leg back. The lack of exercising that bottom foot muscle often contributes to flat-footedness. This wasn’t probably an issue when people walked barefoot because we naturally dug into the earth for traction.

Do your feet ever get sore?

 

I recently started learning hand tool woodworking and won’t shut up about it haha. I found a few books and channels that are helpful and feel real. The more I do it, the more it’s apparent to me that many things around me are just distractions. It’s really nice to unplug from everything and make some things or practice using/sharpening my tools. Those little moments when something clicks feel weirdly fulfilling.

What do you all enjoy doing? Have you found any new passions? What do you like about it?

 

Hi everyone, I’m looking to possibly simply my smartphone setup. I would really love to keep it as a utility: phone, text, camera, GPS, web browser, notes, email, music player. Im think of switching to local NextCloud backup system as well. I currently have an iPhone but used to flash ROMs on Android phones, so I would be willing to do that again for more privacy options and less unnecessary changes to the OS.

I have looked a little into it, and I’m wondering about getting a couple year old Pixel and putting GrapheneOS on it. I also searched a little and came across the Purism Librem 5 that has physical kill switches and sounds neat; a little pricy but I’d be willing to pay if it lasts a while and has good privacy options.

What are your thoughts? Are there other hardware suggestions or setups that you like? The idea of FOSS is appealing because it seems like the money aspect seems to skew the priority of smartphones.

 

I haven’t watched the other videos in the series, but I found this one pretty interesting about anxiety and trauma / adverse experiences can lead to “only seeing the bad things.”

Let me know what you all think of it.

 

Howdy Beehaw, I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting lately and wanted to share some thoughts. I’ve been having these strange little epiphanies that many things today just don’t seem to fit right. Like at least in the US, everyone is working so hard just to get to this fictitious level of “success” that finally means “you’ve made it,” i.e. finally making enough income to have a decent work/life balance. But it from what I see, often people need to take out a large school loan to do that, pay it off seemingly forever, and there never seems to be a real point of “made it.”

I took a vacation to much more relaxed, beachside spot and saw how the locals were living. Basically off the grid, get fruit at the little market, fix things or trade things. Everyone seem to have this collectivism that felt really connected. No one was money rich, but everyone had this peace about them that almost felt fake to me at first. And then I went down this whole rabbit hole of “why do I need money anyway?”

I know there are certain things life that just costs money, but I’m coming to realize that I don’t think I need as much as I previously anticipated. The people that are “living” to me aren’t just enduring and saving for most of their life so they can sort of relax during retirement, they’re doing real things with people that make them happy.

On a somewhat similar note, I wanted a hobby/activity that did not involve screens and I could continually learn. I ended up picking up hand tool woodworking and feel pretty nice to simplify a bit and get a little creative. I listened to a few podcasts that discussed the industrial era transition and the focus to “more efficient and lower costs,” which took some of the feel away from many things.

The more I think about it, the more I think that industrial shift was not entirely beneficial. The hand tool working podcast said they’re “finding the ‘new’ old ways of living.” And that there is this natural desire for human connection. Restaurants have fake wood marks in the paneling to feel more authentic. Before machined things, there was more intention that went into goods.

Anyway, in my sea of thoughts about enhancing human connection and intention, I thought about Beehaw. After the whole Reddit-geddon searching for an online community, I noticed that the communities here are respectful, open, and actually making human connections. It felt like a breath of fresh air. And I just want to say that I appreciate y’all.

 

I bought a “Buy It Now” item, payment went through. Two days later, I got an email saying I got a refund. I looked at the order and I looks like I indeed got a full refund. There are no notes or messages from the seller, so I’m not really sure what happened. Should I message the seller? Report that I haven’t received the order? The order does not show that it was canceled; it shows the Paid status, and awaiting shipping.

I’m honestly confused on what to do.

 

These are the themes that emerged after patients with major depression were in remission from van Grieken et al. (2013). It’s not an all-inclusive list, but a good reference for anyone struggling to find a strategy, from people that had success better managing their depression.

  • Take the signals of my depression seriously.
  • Maintain long-term professional support.
  • Acknowledge that depression is a disease.
  • Leave the house regularly.
  • Find a therapist with whom I feel a connection.
  • Ensure enough rest to avoid exhaustion through over-exertion.
  • Inform close family/friends about my depression.
  • Set realistic short-term goals.
  • Explain my depression to family/friends.
  • Involve close family/friends in my treatment.
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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by loopy@lemm.ee to c/mentalhealth@lemmy.world
 

cross-posted from: https://lemm.ee/post/9248356

Here is the Piped link for added anonymity.

I came across this video about the 5 Stages of Change, and what those stages usually look like. Dr. Prochaska relates some of the examples directly to addiction and mental health, but many of the concepts can also be applied to broader changes in your own or someone else's life.

I thought many of the points were pretty spot on, such as the myth that a person with addiction needs to hit a certain "rock bottom" to initiate a change in the addictive behavior. The lecture is through the lens of a healthcare provider but delivers the speech without a lot of medical jargon. Here are some notes I took while watching it:

Stages of Change

  1. Pre-contemplation
  2. Contemplation
  3. Preparation
  4. Action
  5. Maintenance

Pre-contemplation

  • lack of recognition resistant

Contemplation

  • Person recognizes need for change but is ambivalent (conflicting feelings)

  • not like child development (i.e., intrinsically motivated)

  • Two Forces:

  • Developmental Events - e.g., smokers usually experience this at age 39, to live on the track the person is on or change the quality of projected life
  • Environmental Events - e.g., dog dies from lung cancer
  • myth that addiction needs to “hit rock bottom”
  • Importance of identifying the pros and cons: patient practices taking part in their own care and feel more in control
  • more likely to follow through makes it more approachable

Preparation

  • make people as prepared as possible

Action

  • people have to work the hardest / most demanding
  • about 6 months

Maintenance

  • still have to work, just not as hard
  • period: less clear how long in recovery: you are always “in recovery”
  • about 40% of smokers relapse within 5 years
  • Reasons for relapse: distress (weakest points): depression, anxiety, boredom, hostility, stress, loneliness
  • planned strategies is best
  • talking/therapy
  • exercise/physical activity
  • meditation/prayer (some way to let go)

Defining termination (not going back): “total confidence across all high-risk situations, that I will not go back to my self-defeating, self-destructive, unhealthy pattern of behavior.”

  • one indication: the person stops dreaming of their substance of choice

Consciousness Raising and Education

  • does not lead to immediate action, they lead to contemplation (during pre-contemplation)
  • also, fear. Evoke emotions.
  • changes in behavior usually involve changes in self image / self identity

Self Liberation

  • the belief that “I have the power to change my behavior”
  • people tend to mistakenly think of this as a trait (e.g., “I didn’t have enough will-power”)
  • giving people 2-3 choices make them more likely to follow-through

Giving Support

  • people tend to think there will be more praise than they actually get
  • “Depression is the stress equivalent to smoking a pack of cigarettes per day.”
  • People with depression who randomly received follow-up home visits within one year (social relationships) had 50% fewer deaths
  • Replace / find alternatives for behavior
  • We tend to think of depression as a passive problem
 

Hi everyone, this is not a picture of lovely greenery but is a way to get more green into the world. Some of you may already be aware of this, but many people I know are not.

The search engine Ecosia plants real trees using their ad revenue. The German company posts their revenue every year and has always used at least 80% to reforest places around the world that had been deforested or devastated by natural disasters like wildfires. I think it’s pretty neat to contribute to one of the few organizations trying to do something positive.

The actual search engine uses Bing, which has been carbon neutral for a few years, and pretty much gives the same results as Google or DuckDuckGo.

Obviously that means it collects data and sells it. For me, I don’t really care if someone knows my general searches like “who is the oldest living person.”

I don’t represent the organization and don’t get anything for people knowing about it. I just think it’s cool and want to share. Thanks for listening… err reading.

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