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I currently use a pretty nice Ninja coffee maker but I’m trying to simplify my coffee experience and found using a pour over coffee maker to be somewhat therapeutic. It may sound weird but I felt more connected to the coffee.

So I think I’m down to deciding between a borosilicate carafe pour over with a 304 stainless steel filter and an insulated French press (also 304). I have never used a French press and I like the idea of having the insulation on either, but then I second guess myself and think “Can’t you just make more coffee if you need more or pour more hot water? Why do you need to keep it hot?”

What are your thoughts about it?

Hi everyone, I’m looking to possibly simply my smartphone setup. I would really love to keep it as a utility: phone, text, camera, GPS, web browser, notes, email, music player. Im think of switching to local NextCloud backup system as well. I currently have an iPhone but used to flash ROMs on Android phones, so I would be willing to do that again for more privacy options and less unnecessary changes to the OS.

I have looked a little into it, and I’m wondering about getting a couple year old Pixel and putting GrapheneOS on it. I also searched a little and came across the Purism Librem 5 that has physical kill switches and sounds neat; a little pricy but I’d be willing to pay if it lasts a while and has good privacy options.

What are your thoughts? Are there other hardware suggestions or setups that you like? The idea of FOSS is appealing because it seems like the money aspect seems to skew the priority of smartphones.

I haven’t watched the other videos in the series, but I found this one pretty interesting about anxiety and trauma / adverse experiences can lead to “only seeing the bad things.”

Let me know what you all think of it.

do you not smell body odor or do you just get used to it?

Genuinely curious. I have met a few people of different walks of life that I could tell did not and I have always used it, so I’m just curious. I know there was a couple that stopped using it for around a year, and they said their body actually end up not perspiring as much as when they used antiperspirant, but I’d like to know other people’s experiences.

Howdy Beehaw, I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting lately and wanted to share some thoughts. I’ve been having these strange little epiphanies that many things today just don’t seem to fit right. Like at least in the US, everyone is working so hard just to get to this fictitious level of “success” that finally means “you’ve made it,” i.e. finally making enough income to have a decent work/life balance. But it from what I see, often people need to take out a large school loan to do that, pay it off seemingly forever, and there never seems to be a real point of “made it.”

I took a vacation to much more relaxed, beachside spot and saw how the locals were living. Basically off the grid, get fruit at the little market, fix things or trade things. Everyone seem to have this collectivism that felt really connected. No one was money rich, but everyone had this peace about them that almost felt fake to me at first. And then I went down this whole rabbit hole of “why do I need money anyway?”

I know there are certain things life that just costs money, but I’m coming to realize that I don’t think I need as much as I previously anticipated. The people that are “living” to me aren’t just enduring and saving for most of their life so they can sort of relax during retirement, they’re doing real things with people that make them happy.

On a somewhat similar note, I wanted a hobby/activity that did not involve screens and I could continually learn. I ended up picking up hand tool woodworking and feel pretty nice to simplify a bit and get a little creative. I listened to a few podcasts that discussed the industrial era transition and the focus to “more efficient and lower costs,” which took some of the feel away from many things.

The more I think about it, the more I think that industrial shift was not entirely beneficial. The hand tool working podcast said they’re “finding the ‘new’ old ways of living.” And that there is this natural desire for human connection. Restaurants have fake wood marks in the paneling to feel more authentic. Before machined things, there was more intention that went into goods.

Anyway, in my sea of thoughts about enhancing human connection and intention, I thought about Beehaw. After the whole Reddit-geddon searching for an online community, I noticed that the communities here are respectful, open, and actually making human connections. It felt like a breath of fresh air. And I just want to say that I appreciate y’all.

I bought a “Buy It Now” item, payment went through. Two days later, I got an email saying I got a refund. I looked at the order and I looks like I indeed got a full refund. There are no notes or messages from the seller, so I’m not really sure what happened. Should I message the seller? Report that I haven’t received the order? The order does not show that it was canceled; it shows the Paid status, and awaiting shipping.

I’m honestly confused on what to do.

These are the themes that emerged after patients with major depression were in remission from van Grieken et al. (2013). It’s not an all-inclusive list, but a good reference for anyone struggling to find a strategy, from people that had success better managing their depression.

• Take the signals of my depression seriously.
• Maintain long-term professional support.
• Acknowledge that depression is a disease.
• Leave the house regularly.
• Find a therapist with whom I feel a connection.
• Ensure enough rest to avoid exhaustion through over-exertion.
• Inform close family/friends about my depression.
• Set realistic short-term goals.
• Explain my depression to family/friends.
• Involve close family/friends in my treatment.

cross-posted from: https://lemm.ee/post/9248356

Here is the Piped link for added anonymity.

I came across this video about the 5 Stages of Change, and what those stages usually look like. Dr. Prochaska relates some of the examples directly to addiction and mental health, but many of the concepts can also be applied to broader changes in your own or someone else's life.

I thought many of the points were pretty spot on, such as the myth that a person with addiction needs to hit a certain "rock bottom" to initiate a change in the addictive behavior. The lecture is through the lens of a healthcare provider but delivers the speech without a lot of medical jargon. Here are some notes I took while watching it:

Stages of Change

1. Pre-contemplation
2. Contemplation
3. Preparation
4. Action
5. Maintenance

Pre-contemplation

• lack of recognition resistant

Contemplation

• Person recognizes need for change but is ambivalent (conflicting feelings)

• not like child development (i.e., intrinsically motivated)

• Two Forces:

• Developmental Events - e.g., smokers usually experience this at age 39, to live on the track the person is on or change the quality of projected life
• Environmental Events - e.g., dog dies from lung cancer

• myth that addiction needs to “hit rock bottom”
• Importance of identifying the pros and cons: patient practices taking part in their own care and feel more in control
• more likely to follow through makes it more approachable

Preparation

• make people as prepared as possible

Action

• people have to work the hardest / most demanding
• about 6 months

Maintenance

• still have to work, just not as hard
• period: less clear how long in recovery: you are always “in recovery”
• about 40% of smokers relapse within 5 years
• Reasons for relapse: distress (weakest points): depression, anxiety, boredom, hostility, stress, loneliness
• planned strategies is best

• talking/therapy
• exercise/physical activity
• meditation/prayer (some way to let go)

Defining termination (not going back): “total confidence across all high-risk situations, that I will not go back to my self-defeating, self-destructive, unhealthy pattern of behavior.”

• one indication: the person stops dreaming of their substance of choice

Consciousness Raising and Education

• does not lead to immediate action, they lead to contemplation (during pre-contemplation)
• also, fear. Evoke emotions.
• changes in behavior usually involve changes in self image / self identity

Self Liberation

• the belief that “I have the power to change my behavior”
• people tend to mistakenly think of this as a trait (e.g., “I didn’t have enough will-power”)
• giving people 2-3 choices make them more likely to follow-through

Giving Support

• people tend to think there will be more praise than they actually get
• “Depression is the stress equivalent to smoking a pack of cigarettes per day.”
• People with depression who randomly received follow-up home visits within one year (social relationships) had 50% fewer deaths
• Replace / find alternatives for behavior
• We tend to think of depression as a passive problem

Hi everyone, this is not a picture of lovely greenery but is a way to get more green into the world. Some of you may already be aware of this, but many people I know are not.

The search engine Ecosia plants real trees using their ad revenue. The German company posts their revenue every year and has always used at least 80% to reforest places around the world that had been deforested or devastated by natural disasters like wildfires. I think it’s pretty neat to contribute to one of the few organizations trying to do something positive.

The actual search engine uses Bing, which has been carbon neutral for a few years, and pretty much gives the same results as Google or DuckDuckGo.

Obviously that means it collects data and sells it. For me, I don’t really care if someone knows my general searches like “who is the oldest living person.”

I don’t represent the organization and don’t get anything for people knowing about it. I just think it’s cool and want to share. Thanks for listening… err reading.

I want to create a Pixelfed account but I’m not sure which instance to choose. I’m in the US, so I was just going to pick the default and largest option, but I know spreading out the instances is one advantage to the federated network, so it then makes sense to choose a smaller one.

I had picked a smaller instance on Lemmy and it ended up being discontinued, which was kind of a bummer to restart the communities I had on there. So a larger instance looks attractive again.

Do any of you have a recommended instance that would maybe be on the smaller side, but also have a decent chance for continuing?

I am new to exploring philosophy and began reading a history of philosophy book. The author notes that most of the summary is of western philosophy but does touch on some East Asian/Persian/Arabian philosophy. Is there a book with a decently accurate portrayal, without adding too much commentary?

Is the green on the end of this stump new plant growth or fungus that I should cut off? I read a little on lucky bamboo and they seem hearty other than being chloride sensitive and being susceptible to fungus.

I’m very much a novice, so please excuse me if this is a simple question. I inherited a lucky bamboo plant and have trimmed it and began forming it with guide wire. I also clipped the clearly yellow/brown ends.