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You start to realize there's only a finite amount of time left and start having to choose what you're going to start based on what you'll be able to finish and what you could have spent your finite time on instead of.
Also loved ones and close friends passing away is hard, but the state before that... getting ill and their health going downhill... no longer able to be the person you grew up with. It's mentally rough.
Finally, your body no longer being able to cash the check your mind wants to write.
One of the things I'd say to your first paragraph is that you're never too old to learn something new. I'm a driving instructor and I've had learners who are over 60. Though, sadly I have seen first hand what you're talking about. One lady I taught a few years ago at 62 years old had to stop taking lessons because her hip was going... Our last lesson was the last time I saw her ๐ญ
Yeah, I meant it both ways.
1.) What you choose to do and what you decide isn't worth your time gets seems to get increasingly a more important choice to make.
2.) You also start to realize "I'm not here forever, I should get off my ass and do that thing I've always wanted to do. I'm not getting any younger."
I mean, time is always finite. We just seem to start with the delusion that it's not.
Having to be the primary caretaker for my dad before he passed while trying and failing to reconcile with the emotional abuse and detachment from my childhood still fucks me up to this day.
I'm sorry, that sounds so difficult. I've already seen so many in my life wither as they had to become caretakers and/or caretakees, and I'm only 40.
I hear youโฆI live in a different part of the state than my parents now, but when I see my dad, who used to be a big strong guy (and a bit of an asshole), wither into a ghost of his former self is hard to process for the reason you mentioned. He was emotionally and a little physically abusive, so I battle empathy and bitterness in my head.