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My personal rule is that if someone is posting something worth engaging with a reply, then I don't downvote — even if they downvote me because that didn't ultimately mean anything. If they are disagreeing but doing it well (being thoughtful and respectful for our differences), I even upvote people I'm disagreeing with. Though not if they are downvoting me lol.
But the thing is, my rules apply to exactly me and no one else. I chose with whom I engage, and how, and when to stop whether on good terms or bad. Also my rules are somewhat arbitrary and subject to change if they aren't serving me well.
Anyway, I leave it to other readers to judge each person's conduct for themselves. If they are being an asshole and I'm not, then the people who appreciate my comment are there people I care to reach. If someone thinks being an asshole is funny and entertaining, I don't care about their opinion anyway.
Yeah, if I see someone I'm talking with at 0 or negative, I'll give them an upvote because I appreciate them discussing things with me and I'm thinking, "What the fuck, guys, let them talk."