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Other men don't really realize that men have different tastes.
I'm not really ugly, but I'm not conventionally attractive either, and it's hard to get men who are super into me to realize that most men aren't. A lot of dudes who think I am cute have it in their heads I live this easy life being showered with gifts by suitors.
Ha, same. I have always called it "minority attractive" because most guys would not be into me, but there is an enthusiastic subset who are.
I don't think I was ever ugly enough to lose the beauty privilege though, if that makes sense. The bar is not set that high. What I am now is older, though, which starts to work the same way. It gets more difficult to get hired, people don't see you as much. Lower on the totem pole of priority. I'm ok with it, had sort of a duck-to-swan progression already, back to duck is ok.
Whenever I start to feel bad for losing my youthful looks (and for gaining weight since then), I think back to what it was like being a skinny 20 year old. Yeah, no, I'm okay with being ignored. It's nice to walk down the street without random cars honking at me.
100%
Every time these sorts of questions get posted about xyz attractiveness and people respond saying they are or aren't attractive, I'm always like "I wanna know what this person looks like". Not in, like, a horny way - but just for my own edification to know where they are coming from.
So when you made this comment, I clicked on your profile on the offchance you had a picture of yourself.
"Porno artist".
YES! My curiosity will be satisfied!!
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Goddammit, it's just Resident Evil cartoon porn
I am confused. You're assuming porno artists mostly draw themselves...?
I think self-portaiture is an art, apparently
I think I know of maybe one porno artist that draws herself? It's not common. You'd have to be comfortable doxxing yourself to an increasingly puritan internet, for one
No, I mean, like, photography. Which seems pretty common, honestly. Sure, you're doxxing yourself - but maybe you're into that?