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I'm fat and usually wearing a mask so even if my face is nice the fat overrides it and one thing I find annoying is if I compliment men they will always immediately look me up and down, write me off, and then be pissed I complimented them because they don't want to fuck me. "...thaaanks" they go. Like it's an insult my fat ass complimented them. Women just appreciate my compliments (there's been a few who didn't but it's much much muuuuch rarer). Let me fucking compliment your watch without thinking I'm hitting on you you dingus!!!
Men so starved for positive attention they think a compliment from a random girl means they want to hook up
You sure they werent just looking for cameras?
Cause any time a woman approaches me in public (which isnt very often, before i sound like some bragging fool), especially if its to say something nice/complimentary, my immediate thought is someones trying to record my reaction to put on some tiktok bullshit video.
I dont even register their appearance, I just quickly look for the Camera, mutter something quietly, and get the fuck away as quick as I can.
Not tryin to say assholes don't exist, there is an overabundance of assholes in the world afterall.
It's not a look of suspicion. It's a look a lot of women will know. "Is this person worth my time" sort of look. "Do I consider this person attractive enough to consider human". I'm not articulating this well. And the response isn't bewilderment, it's disgust.
I've had people say nice things to me when I was younger only to laugh in my face when I thanked them so I do know what that's like.
Or could they be looking for what you want? A lot of us almost never get compliments so our first thought is what do you want from me.
That is a different response. I've gotten that as well and my answer is "I just want to give compliment! Have a nice day!" Then I leave. This is not that response.
seriously. the only time strange women ever approach me and compliment me it's to sell me something.
usually it's to ask me to join their church/cult.
This could easily be written by a man.