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I was in VRChat and we were talking about autism and I don't remember how exactly it happened but I ended up calling my dad in VR and asking him if the reason I got taken for "physical therapy" at school for several years after I learned to write (originally it was because I'm left handed but didn't have enough muscles and motor control to write well) and my dad confirmed that it was to help me develop and I never realized.
They had an inside swing, a big ol weighted blanket, a bean bag, putty of different thicknesses to strengthen hand muscles, fidget toys, and the "teacher" had a cool little glass sphere on her desk that had live coral in it. She said there used to be a shrimp but it died. tbh even as an adult I'd love to go back there and just mess around with all the different toys. I still have one she gave me at the end of the school year.

The person I was talking to in VRChat thought it was so funny I never noticed that he friended me and we became good friends for a while. I even visited him to go to formula drift together (drifting cars but a ranked competition)

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[–] kibblebits@quokk.au 17 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Did you ride a short school bus? ;)

[–] QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works 41 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

thankfully I'm high functioning enough to go to normal classes, but I have a friend that did! he's pretty cool
last I talked to him he just bought a broken motorcycle to sell for scrap

honestly I feel like he's high functioning enough to have gone to regular school but he was raised in a pretty red state and wasn't taught how to manage emotions that well as a kid, so they just lumped him in there instead of giving better support :(