I didn't find out til I was like 25 that it isn't normal to go to the office every few weeks to fill out a form with questions like "do you feel safe at home?"
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Many (still a minority) schools have a room and assigned teacher for this,
Its definitely not just for autism but for any kid that needs a little extra help without the distraction of their usual class.
It even sounds like you did not go for autism either, but it is related.
Last year i learned about Dcd
Its a neurological disorder that makes it harder to learn certain motor and coordination skills like writing, riding a bike, using scissors (being a lefty really doesn’t help either).
Dcd is considered a separate disorder, but 80% of the people who are diagnosed autism also fit the criteria for dcd (some claim up to 90%)
(Edit: added a source )
The good thing is that with proper guidance kids can learn to perform these skills just as good as everyone else. So these special classes in the first years of elementary school are really important. I am glad you had them, I hadn’t and my handwriting shows it.
I knew half my family was autistic for years, but know i recognise many suffered dcd also.
Thaaaat's why I had to spend time kicking a ball on an elastic band and playing with putty!
Also why I confuse left and right a lot and change dominant hands for different tasks!
Huh, the more you know.
Probably also explains why I am near insensate to a lot of pain but will actually kill anyone who splashes me with cold water.
Its definitely not just for autism but for any kid that needs a little extra help without the distraction of their usual class.
my dad on the call described it as a "we know this one is wonky" instead of a hard diagnosis as you could only get officially diagnosed at 10yo iirc (at least at the time)
Last year i learned about Dcd
that's really cool and something I will look into but ngl my first reaction was "oh fuck not another acronym of a mental disorder to memorize" because I have so many already xD
That just made me remember the time I was taken to a room kind of like that in 1st grade with a few other disabled kids but I was only there for an hour and they never took me back and I didn't understand why. I did see a professional about autism last year and I didn't go for a full diagnosis because I don't want it on my record, but I did get enough of a confirmation that I'm quite positive I'm autistic, but I guess I'm just not enough to get taken back to the fun room.
Schools actually don't just check for autism, they also only offer diagnoses and treatment that they actually have on hand. It's just as likely that you did test positive; they just didn't have enough room for you compared to the more serious cases.
Since teaching about this, I've come to appreciate these kinds of rooms. Actually, I wish I had a low sensory room growing up (the type for sensory disorders); I was and still kinda am easily overstimulated so it's the kind of thing I can get behind.
That said, IEPs and the stigma they bring can easily be a bad thing too depending on school, hence why it's the "coloring room." I was already ostracized by 2nd grade for being weird with the sand box, though, so kinda moot in my case (I spent all my time sorting out rocks from sand and dust).
dude I'm so jealous of the kids that had the teachers with low light rooms, I had an English teacher do that for a semester in HS and it was awesome
I am glad that I don't have a condition where I have to have lights like that though
Did you ride a short school bus? ;)
thankfully I'm high functioning enough to go to normal classes, but I have a friend that did! he's pretty cool
last I talked to him he just bought a broken motorcycle to sell for scrap
honestly I feel like he's high functioning enough to have gone to regular school but he was raised in a pretty red state and wasn't taught how to manage emotions that well as a kid, so they just lumped him in there instead of giving better support :(
I don't get it.
OP went through a functional assessment and/or rehab as a kid without being told what it was
I feel like the story explains it that OP was somewhat developmentally delayed and never realized it because they didn't explain to them that they were having developmental issues.
Based on the art and everything else, seems like they caught up just fine, but now they're just dealing with the realization of what events in their childhood meant.
yeah I wasn't officially diagnosed at the time and a few years later once I was diagnosed I got it all explained but I never connected the dots between the special class and my disability
I feel like naming a kid Tate is just asking for autism