100k/12≈8k, including taxes, after taxes idk depends where you live. My rent is the majority of my income, and I make much less than that, so the absolute amount of money I have after paying for things like rent and utilities, to spend on food, is much less too, even if we assume the same % of income going to rent. Again I'm not saying things aren't more expensive in the US, but it is still a lot of money. You aren't going to be struggling financially. My friends in the US make much less than that. Maybe you'd be less well-off than peers who do the same job, but I hope you realise that for a lot of people elsewhere in the world, that'd be 3 salaries already.

[–] xylol@leminal.space 0 points 2 days ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Yeah its not a bad pay, my wife makes close to that amount, I make less and we were able to buy a house after we split the mortgage with her parents, instead of them renting, and us renting, we teamed up and split the house. we are comfortable just a bit cramped. We converted the garage to a kitchen/ living room and we get one bedroom. In laws with their kids get three rooms and the living room and kitchen. now we just have to deal with the two hour commute a day, my job offers free ev charging so that saves us about $500 a month we used to spend on gas.

[–] ranzispa@mander.xyz 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Two hour commute is quite a lot. Can you not change job?

[–] xylol@leminal.space 2 points 1 day ago

We could, but not for the same pay. For example my wife is a teacher if she switches to a local school the salary is 20k less. Another big thing is my job doesn't have a set schedule so when we all commute together I'm not really in a rush as long as she gets there on time. And my parents live right by her school so we can drop off our kid, then I drop her off, and my job is like 15 minutes further so it kind of just works.

When she's on summer break I can go to work earlier like 5 or 6am and avoid traffic which cuts the commute in half