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[–] rockSlayer@lemmy.blahaj.zone 80 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago) (2 children)

Some people might be wondering, "couldn't they just talk to each other and learn about each other?"

They're men. We don't communicate at all, for any reason.

How was hanging out with your friend at the bar?

It was fine

What did you talk about? How's he doing?

We sat in silence and grunted at each other for 3 hours straight. He seems to be fine

[–] Kowowow@lemmy.ca 47 points 20 hours ago (2 children)

The "I worked with a guy for years and even went over to his house multiple times but only knew him by his nickname" thing is very true

[–] zarathustrad@lemmy.world 9 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

I've always identified with Ron Swanson in that way. Though it's less about not caring, we can actually care, we just don't say it, then may or may not regret that 15 years later at their funeral.

"The less I know about other people’s affairs, the happier I am. I’m not interested in caring about people. I once worked with a guy for three years and never learned his name. Best friend I ever had. We still never talk sometimes."

[–] LavaPlanet@sh.itjust.works 3 points 15 hours ago (2 children)

That's a PARODY!? It's satire!! Holy fk are men ok??!?

[–] dawcas@scribe.disroot.org 2 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Do you really need an answer? Parodies are exaggerations of reality and that series is old, since then humanity kept getting worse. Why do you think the manosphere and all that crap is so widespread? Because it feeds on men unmet needs.

[–] LavaPlanet@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 hours ago

I was just playing around, but now I have questions..... if you know men have unmet needs, why not just meet your needs? That seems like a shorter path from a to b than doubling down and building a whole manosphere?

[–] Dojan@pawb.social 2 points 15 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Inucune@lemmy.world 2 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

The people getting rich by causing the problem and then offering a solution for a price.

[–] LavaPlanet@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 hours ago

Nah I dunno, I think being forced to live inside their head, even for a day, would be a level of hell that's unmatched. They might have money, but it's like scratching an itch that never stops itching. I like our kinda fucked up, better.

[–] Malica@lemmy.zip 9 points 20 hours ago (3 children)

That's so sad, everyone deserves human connection.

[–] rtxn@lemmy.world 9 points 15 hours ago

Life is an eternal battle between "I won't pry, he'll tell me if he wants" and "I won't bother him, he'll ask me if he wants to know".

[–] rockSlayer@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

I am being facetious, but this isn't far from true. True human connection between men is very informal. It's mostly about being around each other

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

It took me too long to really understand this about men. It just never made sense to me that guys wouldn't want to talk things out. I'm so happy that I don't need to do that song and dance anymore.

[–] rockSlayer@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 15 hours ago

I'm not really a man anymore, but I pass because I like my beard. I'm trying to be the change

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 8 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Some friendships just work in different ways.Some talk at length about the problem, others talk around the problem. Mostly it a mix of both. As long as everyone involved feels connected the words used don’t matter

[–] Malica@lemmy.zip 1 points 15 hours ago