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[–] rockSlayer@lemmy.blahaj.zone 77 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago) (2 children)

Some people might be wondering, "couldn't they just talk to each other and learn about each other?"

They're men. We don't communicate at all, for any reason.

How was hanging out with your friend at the bar?

It was fine

What did you talk about? How's he doing?

We sat in silence and grunted at each other for 3 hours straight. He seems to be fine

[–] Kowowow@lemmy.ca 46 points 19 hours ago (2 children)

The "I worked with a guy for years and even went over to his house multiple times but only knew him by his nickname" thing is very true

[–] zarathustrad@lemmy.world 9 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

I've always identified with Ron Swanson in that way. Though it's less about not caring, we can actually care, we just don't say it, then may or may not regret that 15 years later at their funeral.

"The less I know about other people’s affairs, the happier I am. I’m not interested in caring about people. I once worked with a guy for three years and never learned his name. Best friend I ever had. We still never talk sometimes."

[–] LavaPlanet@sh.itjust.works 2 points 15 hours ago (2 children)

That's a PARODY!? It's satire!! Holy fk are men ok??!?

[–] dawcas@scribe.disroot.org 2 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Do you really need an answer? Parodies are exaggerations of reality and that series is old, since then humanity kept getting worse. Why do you think the manosphere and all that crap is so widespread? Because it feeds on men unmet needs.

[–] LavaPlanet@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 hour ago

I was just playing around, but now I have questions..... if you know men have unmet needs, why not just meet your needs? That seems like a shorter path from a to b than doubling down and building a whole manosphere?

[–] Dojan@pawb.social 2 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Who is okay in this society?

[–] Inucune@lemmy.world 2 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

The people getting rich by causing the problem and then offering a solution for a price.

[–] LavaPlanet@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 hours ago

Nah I dunno, I think being forced to live inside their head, even for a day, would be a level of hell that's unmatched. They might have money, but it's like scratching an itch that never stops itching. I like our kinda fucked up, better.

[–] Malica@lemmy.zip 9 points 19 hours ago (3 children)

That's so sad, everyone deserves human connection.

[–] rtxn@lemmy.world 9 points 14 hours ago

Life is an eternal battle between "I won't pry, he'll tell me if he wants" and "I won't bother him, he'll ask me if he wants to know".

[–] rockSlayer@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

I am being facetious, but this isn't far from true. True human connection between men is very informal. It's mostly about being around each other

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

It took me too long to really understand this about men. It just never made sense to me that guys wouldn't want to talk things out. I'm so happy that I don't need to do that song and dance anymore.

[–] rockSlayer@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 14 hours ago

I'm not really a man anymore, but I pass because I like my beard. I'm trying to be the change

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 8 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Some friendships just work in different ways.Some talk at length about the problem, others talk around the problem. Mostly it a mix of both. As long as everyone involved feels connected the words used don’t matter

[–] Malica@lemmy.zip 1 points 14 hours ago
[–] FilthyShrooms@lemmy.world 13 points 15 hours ago (2 children)

Elrond thinks all 4 hobbits are in a gay poly relationship

[–] terranoid@lemmy.cafe 2 points 8 hours ago

Did they ever clarify if they were or not in the directors cut

[–] LaunchesKayaks@lemmy.world 7 points 14 hours ago

And he kinda wants in on it

[–] blockheadjt@sh.itjust.works 8 points 14 hours ago

Boys who are 3'6" would be much younger than 15 on average

[–] iceberg314@slrpnk.net 18 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

And Frodo doesn't know Legolas' name

[–] zarathustrad@lemmy.world 4 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Boromir knows it, but just calls him "Leggy" for short, "Elf names... Amiright!"

[–] LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

I am now convinced that Boromir is the equivalent of a redneck in the group. Sure, he might be almost-royalty and he might have grown up in one of the largest cities, but mentally, he is driving a rusty truck, wearing a plaid shirt and drinking bud light while listening to old country. He thinks elves are suspiciously androgynous, and probably woke tree huggers, but he's trying his best to not be a dick about it, because he doesn't want to be "that guy" in front of what are essentially foreign diplomats. Also, between all the gay elves, completely unhinged hobbits and self-righteous so-called wizards, someone has to be the common sense of the group, and it sure as hell won't be that hippie dropout that spends his days banging some local elf king's daughter and stumbling through the forests, yet somehow claims to be the long lost king or some bullshit like that.

[–] voxthefox@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 17 hours ago

Gimli just sitting in the corner judging all of them

THEY'RE TAKING THE HOBBITS TO ISENGART-GART-GART!