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[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 22 hours ago (2 children)

yeee and I think thats mmmh so wonderful! like yesss let them wiggle, let them move away just a bit, perhaps 30 cm or something, but then have the restraints catch them so then I can keep them there and mmmmhmhmhmhm point out how silly their escape maneuver was >v<

[–] LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works 1 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Hear me out: rubber bands. The kind you use to tie down things to your bike, or exercise. Might need some creativity in sourcing / manufacturing, but that would tick all your boxes, right?

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

hmmm no i think just... general nice and soft ropes are where I'm at. maybe with a little give to Ehen they move, they get a bit of a satisfying bounce ~

mmmmaybe. like - these kinds of almost smooth scarf-like ropes kinda which dont feel much like restraints and more like... just something comfy.

[–] LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works 1 points 8 hours ago

Fair, there is no right or wrong. I certainly see the appeal, just not fully my cup of tea.

[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 1 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

I think you're looking for a collar.

The other nice thing about a collar is you can pull your sub around by it and make them do things. You can yank down and force them to kneel

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

oooh yes that sounds nice -- even if I'd prefer not to yank but to nicely pull them along <3

[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 1 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Well the important thing is pulling their face close to yours, but lower down, so you can gaze down at them and then kiss, pet, or slam into a wall as you please

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

hmmmmhmhmhmhm kiss and pet <3

[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 1 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Wow goin for the freaky option huh

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 hours ago

nawww not freaky, they are the fun options <3

the one where mmmh goosebumps bloom <3