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I think one of the biggest issues standing in the way of widespread acceptance of trans people is generally not understanding what we actually do or are like.
So like, most people completely misunderstand how hrt works. They think that you do it and only really get a better mental space. But that's not true at all. Everyone I have known on hormones get so many changes. Our hairlines can change, our bone density decreases or increases to match the gender your hormones match with, our bodies redistribute fat, our skin changes, even our body smells change, we lose or gain muscle mass to again come in line with whatever our hormones match. Our body chemicals change. Estrogen can decrease the size of your feet by a size and can literally make your hips grow and change how your weight is distributed. Testosterone can make you grow a full bushy as fuck beard and a such a deep voice you'll never know the person ever had a higher pitched one. Everything changes on hormones and cis people just don't seem to understand that at all. I've known many trans people who transition so well that other trans people don't believe they're trans and think they're cis.
Add on that they don't understand bottom surgery and it just gets annoying as fuck. The fact that cutting dicks off is still how so many cis people think femme bottom surgery works is so fucking infuriating and it happens when leftists reference it too.
I think if more cis people simply knew trans people and were willing to discuss with them about what being trans is like then there would be more general acceptance.
I feel it's easier for ppl to just mind their fucking business. I never known nor met a Trans person but as long what you're doing doesn't hurt anyone or infringe on anyone rights I don't give a fuck what you do. It SHOULD be that simple
I know someone who bemoans that mainstream individuals talk so much about transfolx because she wants to live a simple and quiet life and she feels when all eyes are pointed on transissues (love it or hate it) it makes her life more complicated. Also folks often think that all people of whatever outgroup they're looking at is just like one monolithic thing. It's why people who get into positions of authority are seen as the "spokespeople" for their group. I do think conversing is the bridge to building better relationships in most situations. I have sat down with a biggot or three and been fine because I found our middle ground, even though if I had my choices I wouldn't even be sitting there with them. Cause fuck racists. Fuck homophobes, etc. But I try to see the human in folks, and humans are sloppy fucks.
I just also get that people are fatigued of having to demystify their humanity for others. By that I mean, I know a lot of black folk who are tired of trying to express that they're humans to racist. They're tired of trying to stand up for the entirety of their ethnicity just cause folks can't get off their asses and educate themselves on why thinking people are below someone because the color of their skin (might) be different than their own. I also know there's like...the right way and right people to talk to..er...other folks. By that I mean, I sure as fuck am a bag of wind and I might not be the right person to convey big ideas in short concise sentences. In this day and age, a lot of folks need big ideas turned into sound bites. They need space to mull things over. In my head, the best conversations are long drawn out back and forths. This isn't really par the norm nowadays.
I got all ranty and dumb. Idk if any of what I said made any sense, I am about to zzz off. All things aside, another thing I heard was that a trans individual I know thinks that cis folk hate trans folk because they feel "tricked" by them. Idk. I will say that I wish we all lived in Shangri-La, and that folks were kinder to one another. I will also say that even with the term "bottom-surgery" it tends to be more of a transman type lingo as far as I know unless stuff changed (cause I know you can say giving head for gals or guys so idk). Shrugadugdug. You could find a way to make things more accessible to folks if you want. But equally, be safe if you do. Cause people out here target transfolx and they truly want them dead.