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Bro. I am gonna be real with you.
I was in an abusive relationship too. She cheated on me at 30 and blamed me. I am not going to sugar coat this.
It will fuck you up for a great long while. This all happened to me in 2020. I've been through intensive outpatient therapy. I've lost 100 lbs.
It still hurts when it comes to me. You are grieving. This ain't depression. 40% of men who experience an unfaithful long term marriage commit suicide. You are heartbroken. You are realizing this ain't you.
It will get better. Little by little. And I still have a long ass ways to go. I'm not even officially divorced yet.
I'm not going to give you advice, because the only thing I understand, is that I finally found me again, and I like that dude a hell of a lot more than I like who I was with my ex.
But it's going to suck the entire time. The entire 5 years has sucked. But I finally see a light. There is a pinprick of light. I'm heading towards it. You can't see it yet. I understand. But it's there.
That statistic seems awfully high. I don't suppose you recall where you read it?
You know, I can't seem to find it right now.
It was in a paper discussing "Immediate effects of Post-Infidelity-Stress-Disorder".
I was also given a similar number after my attempt (1/3rd of men)
It's probably attempt suicide. There is generally an order of magnitude between attempt and commit. But I'm not downplaying how shitty it is tho.