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You're losing friendships by asking for support? Something's missing here...
I'm going to go against the grain and suggest finding people with like-minded life situations.
I had a friend who has a divorce at age 40. I did all I could as a friend, provide sympathy, check in. But he was extremely miserable, or just downright offensive.
Dating is hard at that age - I get it. I don't need to hear his opinion about why women of today aren't what he wants in every conversation.
I also cannot play his wingman. No, I'm not going to "pretend" to flirt with girls at a bar with him when I'm married.
But it became offensive. Like my niece turned into an adult and he asked: "Is she looking for a man?" Dude, you're twenty years older. WTF.
Joke or not, as a married man, that's not where I am in life. And yeah, I absolutely stopped hanging out with him because this version of him is hard to deal with.
Not really, after my divorce I was never contacted again by those friends. Fuck em.
He would loose friendship by asking for support, if there was true friendship in the first place. Although it is hard for OP to see how these ppl tread him, at least he got to know their true faces.
Either they're not friends or
OP misinterprets their behavior, and they actually are supporting, just not the way/amount OP wants or
"friends" believe OP is at fault and nobody is feeling sympathetic.
I guess they could also just be terrible people that decided to shit on OP for shits n giggles. But I doubt it.