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Does anyone else feel worried when you see a big number in the Lemmy notification inbox?
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this post was submitted on 30 Sep 2025
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Nope!
Oh wow! So you never ever mark them read, or how did that happen?
I had a decent stretch where I was just making comments and expected them to get bad replies, or I didn't really have the space to care about any replies I got, so I stopped checking obsessively and they built up. I'm in my 30s with a wife, a toddler, and a job that alternates between "oh god you need to lock the fuck in for 8 hours straight" and "you're being paid to be here if something happens". I also have had some big life shit happen in the time since I started using lemmy that would pull me away from checking/responding.
Then I had some replies mentioning things I wanted to look into later, so those I made sure to keep as unread.
More recently, I find that I use my own profile's comment page and the upvotes and downvotes on any of my comments in there to get an idea of what I'm about to walk into. Also helps remind me what the fuck I posted in the first place. So any replies I interact with that way don't get marked as read either.
Kind of like email, once it passes something like 20 or 30 unread the count just kind of becomes visual noise.
That visual noise angle is true though. Once the number grows beyond a certain point, it looses all meaning. Might as well disable the red dot entirely, since it serves no purpose any more.
BTW "save for later" is a thing. I use that when I want to get back to something.