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"Oh here we go. Why do I keep posting honest takes on things instead of getting a feel for the general vibe and blindly agreeing with the majority?"
I feel this comment acutely.
If I blindly agreed with everyone, I probably would be dead, having killed myself from the lack of moral obligation and common decency this species seems to be deficient in. I'm only sticking around because I feel like this is the end of the Anthropocene and I want to witness it. Is that honest enough for ya?
More like a resigned sigh and wondering which comment pissed off the tankies this time.
At least one of those notifications will be calling you a liberal.
Its funny when you get called "fascist" by tankies, but also get called "communist" by the conservatives.
Yeah, but you don’t respect those pissed off commenters, so it’s easier to distance yourself from them. Maybe that’s my problem. I don’t usually try to be abrasive enough to cause such reactions, so I take each comment more seriously than I should.
Nah, I like seeing big numbers in the notification box. Monkey brain likes big numbers going up. And it feeds my validation, that my comment is important enough for people to respond to.
You guys are seeing big numbers in your notification box?
Normally it's like 0-2. On days when I write more actively, it gets a bit higher. If I happen to drop a comment in a popular thread at the right time, it can suddenly jump to 3-5, and that's when I start to worry. Did I cross some line I wasn't aware of, or maybe I was just at the right place at the right time. Who knows. 🤷 It's probably ok, but my subconscious mind immediately jumps to conclusions, naturally expecting the worst.
Nope!
Most I’ve ever had is 1-2. Guess I’m not that interesting.
I think you’re somewhat interesting.
I appreciate your kind words.
Sometimes I'll be super active commenting and posting on lemmy and it actually gains traction and the next day I'm like "what have I done?!"
Hi, I just wanted to make your inbox go bling. You didn't mess up and I hope you have a nice day.
Thanks. The number is already a bit overwhelming. Hopefully, I’ll get better at handling that feeling.
Not necessarily anxiety, but yeah usually my first thought is, "Oh shit, what ignorant thing did I say now?"
Humblebrag.
Hell no.
The reason I post here is to discuss things with people like things.
Who cares what people on lemmy think about you or your opinions? I'd rather hear your honest opinion I disagree with than hear you agree with everybody else
Agreed. I prefer this place to be a spot where you can disagree. I learn a lot from disagreements.
Coming from reddit where I used to post on big current affairs subs there isn't really anything comparable here.
I comment to put my opinion across and also to be challenged. It takes me a long time to change my mind on something but it's only by hearing opposing views that it ever happens. In the meantime I generally enjoy defending my position and that's what I'm here for. It's a different perspective from yours but if a bunch of people disagree with me I don't think that I'm "being corrected" I think "my correct opinion is in the minority here."
Sometimes I do get a feeling of "here we go again", that's all
Yup. Usually don't get much replies between checking, so if it's more than 2, I worry. Probably doesn't help that I have done the thing where I accidentally say something that a reasonable person would interpret quite differently than my intended message and reasonably got dogpiled because of it.
Finally someone who agrees with me and validates my fragile ego and childish vulnerabilities. Thanks. You made my day!
Usually, my inbox has like 1 or 2 replies, but anything bigger than that makes me think I must have screwed up somehow. For whaever reason, it just doesn’t cross my mind that all those comments could be neutral or even positive.
Well there's another stressful element that even if they are mostly positive or asking for further information, it's still a pile of "work I gotta do."
But remember, you don't actually have to respond to them. You can just click all the little check marks and move on. If you don't like what they said, there's always the down arrow. Or the up to acknowledge their support.
I don't, for instance, expect any kind of reply from you.
If it helps, remember that a ton of downvotes will knock your comment right off most people's feed. And unlike the R place, that number isn't going to follow you around forever.
If you're being misinterpreted, you can always add an edit, see if it helps.
In any case, Lemmy is a place for discussion. If you have responses, that means you contributed to the conversation. You didn't mess up. Even if you were completely Wrong, it gives an opportunity for lots of other people to post the Correction.
Lol sorta. For me, I run official accounts in these sorts of circles mainly because I despise modern corporate social media platforms, I'd still be on newsgroups if it weren't so much work lol.
So, I do enjoy seeing notifs, mainly in the hope (like every other boring ass economist) that I get to have some dialog on an interesting topic.
I like that you've shared this so we can all bond over the same anxiety.
I would have to post something that people interact with.. I'm not that kind of person. I usually get none to one reply to stuff I post, I think the highest mine has ever gone is three. I also couldn't keep up with it.
The point is to be controversial. While we still can be.
I never got big numbers there. Maybe because I don't write posts much and only comment.
Not worried exactly - but aware that I probably said something factually incorrect and now dozens of helpful people are lined up to set me straight.
Or dozenz to rip you a new one for defending a non (f)oss way of computing.
How dare you.
(and yet the same will use something like Plex, lol)
Depends on what instance or post I have commented on recently!
Was it .ml and there's many notifications? sigh
Some meme I commented something I felt was witty? weeee
Why the fuck would you post this? It's wrong and you're wrong and you're a bad person and you should feel bad! Fuck! Fucking fuckety fuck!
Just to mess with you, I’m tempted to write a dozen comments with no real content… but other than that: i think it’s quite normal. Floods of negative reactions are more likely than positive ones, and more feared. In the other hand, Lemmy is a pretty chill place and, even when I got negative reactions, they were still cordial.
All in all, we are social monkey, and we care a lot about our social capital. That used to be the difference between survival by and death in nature, and we are still rooted that way. Even if we are accruing social capital with anonymous internet users we will likely never meet in person
I say relatively controversial shit(not to troll--things I actually believe in) quite often. I've gone since gotten used to lists of disparaging comments. It's better to take it as an interaction dopamine hit
I do, and not only on Lemmy, but also Whatsapp, Teams, email etc. It's the fear of screwing up and/or missing out, and a wave of anxiety combs over me when I see a number >0. I've been talking with my therapist about it, there are reasons and methods to overcome this...
It's like a box of candies...
Surprising constructive discussion or did I clumsily step on someone's ego again?
Someone disagrees with me.
Someone is pointing out an error I made.
Someone is arguing an exception to prove me wrong.
I made an agreeable statement.
In that order of priority.
Yes, especially since I'm an asshole and there's no option to disable inbox replies for comments on Lemmy (so I can't just hit and run). Nearly gives me an anxiety attack every time.
I cringe actually, because sometimes you get troll comments or condescending response like "akshually, or this is not that or this, and you are,,," so I end up just putting them as read all and not respond
Lemmy needs the "disable inbox replies" feature for comments imo. Although lately I see mostly polite disagreement.
I politely disagree.
No
