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Does anyone else feel worried when you see a big number in the Lemmy notification inbox? (futurology.today)

submitted 3 days ago by chaosCruiser@futurology.today to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Every time I see that little red number in my inbox, my first thought is: Did I mess up? My brain jumps to the worst-case scenario—maybe I said something controversial, and now everyone’s correcting me and downvoting my stupid comments. Even though, most of the time, the messages are actually helpful and fun, that number still triggers some sort of insecurity and anxiety. The bigger it gets, the louder my worries grow.

Logically, I know I don’t screw up that often, and most feedback is neutral or even positive. But deep down, my insecure monkey brain panics at the thought of being wrong—or worse, publicly called out. Even when I’m right, the number still makes my stress levels spike up. What if people disagree with me? What if they don’t like what I wrote?

And yes, I see the irony in posting this. Writing about it is basically asking for it and feeding the very anxiety I’m trying to ignore. Maybe it’s my version of exposure therapy.

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[–] chaosCruiser@futurology.today 2 points 3 days ago

Some times you just roll the dice and see what happens. Make a risky comment of the day, pay the price, get back up again and do the same thing next week. Basically, just spread your unpopular opinions in places that weren't designated for it.

I've burned my fingers a few times, but also found some unexpected supporters. Write a teasing remark about a particular group, and you'll find that everyone hates you and you get downvoted to oblivion. Say the same thing in a different place, and all you get is upvotes and comments that go even further than you did. It's a dangerous game for those who like to live dangerously.

Blindly agree with the majority if you want to play it safe. Not a very spicy way to live your life, but I can see the appeal of it.