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Ever try hanging out at a crowded bar? Anywhere where you have to show id to enter should help.
Also, do you have female friends? You should be hanging out with them and doing things where you meet people as a group.
I don't have any female friends
I would say your lack of friends is probably more pressing of an issue and likely related to your lack of relationship experience.
I offer you the same advice as for men. Work on friendships before you worry about intimate relationships. Friends can become relationships, but ideally they don't and instead you meet people through friends who can vouch for you to their friends that your not psycho or a waste of someone's time.
Look for women's activities and make friends. It's human nature to see your friends happy, and women are significantly less likely to take advantage of a very young looking woman.
You should be careful who you tell you don't look pretty. Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. At best it comes off as innocent and someone will see it as weakness to avoid or exploit. At worst it comes off as attention-seeking behavior.
My intuition as a middle-aged man suggests you may receive several requests to see what you look like. I'd advise ignoring the requests and blocking the weirdos. In fact, while I won't judge you for liking what you like, I suggest steering clear of older men until you are 30. If you must, bring them around friends (see paragraph 1) and let them help you judge them.