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A lot of these suggestions are about time management. And I think they’re missing the point. It may not be time management skills that you need, but emotional regulation skills.
I’m not a licensed psychologist, and neither is anyone else here, so for real help I’d recommend talking to a therapist. But I can offer the insight that this comes down to seeking balance. For you, balance is achieved once the to-do list is empty. And that’s going to be never. There will always be work, chores, and little annoyances to deal with. Every day. Forever. So if your definition of balance means that there are none of these, it may be time to rethink your definition of balance. And that’s where working with a professional comes in. In the meantime hopefully this gives you something to think about.
Thank you, I didn't say I have problems with time management, my problem is that I can't live normally while I have unfinished business, and this causes me discomfort. Maybe I'm just lazy.
I believe this statement may be the cause of your discomfort. If you have things to do, and you’re idle, taking a break, a nap, having a meal, or doing something fun, that self talk is going to rear its ugly little head and kill any joy you might be taking in your down time.
So if you’re looking for a more healthy state of being, I’d suggest reflecting on where that comes from. Were you taught that your value is in being constantly productive and that rest is shameful, for example? Find that and learn to quash the influence it has on your self worth. And again, that work is best done with a professional’s help.