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So here's the thing. I wouldn't view it as impolite in all cases. It just.... depends on the context a lot.
I have no love for my cultural heritage at all. The reason I came to Canada was to get away from... all that, right? So if you'd ask me excitedly about my "roots", I would give exceedingly one worded answers hoping that you'd drop the topic. I don't want to glorify the culture I grew up in, because there's nothing to glorify. Ah, now if you wanted to have a sociological discussion about it, I would be very interested in talking with you. So as I said, "context", right?
Often, racist white folk also tend to ask about "culture" as a sly way to remind non white folks that they "aren't really Canadian" or whatever. Yeah, it makes no logical sense to do that, but well... It happens. So you know... It depends.
The way you write this makes me really curious about what cultural background you have that you do not like. But I can tell it is not a pleasant subject for you!
Yeah I honestly think its best to just let people offer up that information if they're interested in sharing it, which they often do after talking to them a few times. I don't get asked questions like that but I do get questions about other peoples ethnicity which I find pretty annoying, like "are they from China" or something like that. I'm like I have no idea they've never mentioned it