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I'm from Canada so everyone except for the indigenous originally came from somewhere else. I love it when people ask my about my roots, but someone told me it was rude.

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[โ€“] fodor@lemmy.zip 2 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

As you have noted from the other comments, there are certainly times when it can be rude to ask. And someone told you that you asked rudely. So there's a reasonable chance they're right.

Also, if you think about what you actually wrote, it doesn't make sense. A lot of people were born in Canada, so they did not come from elsewhere. They in fact came from Canada. Their parents may have come from elsewhere. And you might say, "Hey, what's the difference?" But actually there's a huge difference to the people you're talking to.

But still, it's not like the general topic is necessarily off limits. So why don't you just kind of wait and see how long it takes for other people to bring it up? And that might give you a sense for what the people around you feel is reasonable.

[โ€“] Quilotoa@lemmy.ca 2 points 16 hours ago

Nobody told me I asked rudely. It came up in a conversation away from any asking incident. Whether people were born in Canada or not, I'm still really interested in culture and would ask. It doesn't matter what colour their skin is. I just want to know stories.