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If physical or mental health issues bar you I'd consider that different. I never really understood how you can live your life being a NEET. Its a term I've known about for awhile but only recently remembered was a thing. Do you have bills? Do you have autonomy in general? Whats the living situation look like? Is the term offensive? I have a ton of questions really. Not here to shit on anyone I'm just full of curiosity on this one.

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[–] insomniac_lemon@lemmy.cafe 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I don't really care about money, and every part of modern employed (USA) life just seems like a scam. Car dependence+insurance, stagnant wages, housing/rent cost, debt traps, yearly tax burden (the filing process, not payment in general*), health insurance, captive markets, consumerism that doesn't even seem desirable anymore. Which has only gotten worse over the years.

The only employment I've had was an unpaid internship at a car dealership (not really related to what I was interested in at all), which I would say was definitely a net negative when it came to my chances of entering the workforce.

* except that it goes towards harming people. Our post-2016 government is very Twilight-Zone feeling, so that does not inspire confidence when it comes to joining society either

If physical or mental health issues bar you I’d consider that different.

This is a big part for me, though I'd imagine it's a common reason behind being NEET/Hikikomori. Don't discount it.

Do you have bills?

No, I don't buy services. I barely buy things at all.

Do you have autonomy in general?

I can go where my 2 legs and 2 wheels can take me, but where I live there I don't really know much of anything within a comfortable distance.

I'm also limited by where the trail goes and how much cold water I carry, being in a somewhat rural area (and not knowing anyone) makes that even worse. So I'm not even really going the distance these days. Not really prepared for long travel, either.

Whats the living situation look like?

Boring, living with parents. Nothing most days. On top of typical rotting, I do try to help family when I can. Basic chores (emptying dishwasher, sweeping, unloading firewood from truckbed or carrying wood bucket in winter, pulling garbage bag out+replacing, peeling potatoes for dinner etc), recently I helped carry fence panels. In the past I have kept the house+garden when parents were gone. Today I pan-roasted myself some carrots+summer squash.

I do 3D model stuff and programming (somewhat niche language), though I still lack motivation for practice/projects there. I actually finished something simple a month or so ago, but don't want to share it on Github (because copilot training) and can't even share an export with anyone because problems with my system that I haven't bothered to fix.

Is the term offensive?

Not really. There's definitely worse said, though that stuff probably gets thrown at everybody rather than NEETs in particular.