I think it might come down to some kind of internalized power trip of perceived desirability (to other women perhaps, or maybe their parents or something) by women or girls who promote or attach themselves to those types of toxic notions. It’s like a toned down version of people obsessing over boob size, penis size, butt size, facial shape, hair/skin/nails etc. It’s like there’s no end for some people who go down that route of wanting to be perceived of as perfect in all ways at all times to all people.

It does suck how many people fall into those types of frameworks though. To me it has sometimes felt like, to varying degrees, that my drive to make connections, relate to others, procreate (thanks nature), or seek vindication through others are often at odds with themselves, and that valuing someone for their virtues is not always a typical mode of behavior that people are generally taught to recognize the usefulness of or learn to practice in their own relationships.

I never know what to say when people comment on my height. I try to not be too judgmental of people for their appearances or abilities based upon first impressions, though I also haven’t found many good ways of helping others overcome the trauma of having to deal with numerous people who all seem to operate under limited presumptions about life, power, influence, or imposition of values in an attempt to “universalize” their preferences, adversities, or assessments they have made that often are akin to some type of “root-cause-analysis” statements for determining the motivations for the behaviors of others in their lives.

I think that your sentiment about “fat” people is true about 80-90% of the time around the world, but some places literally have food deserts which do not stock healthy options and in other situations even some folks might only be able to afford (financially or executive-functionally) unhealthier options that might either take less time to select or prepare, or cost less money or driving time to procure. I think that’s probably where the downvote is coming from is people who feel unable to escape obesity due to a variety of limiting factors in their day-to-day lives which inhibit them from taking preliminary steps. not to say that going on a walk or taking the extra effort is not within their control, but that some people still struggle with it anyways, sometimes for reasons that seem counterintuitive or like that they should not be a real issue to deal with in practice but wind up being so anyways for some people who have never learned ways around the problems (or haven’t tried all or perhaps any of the different options yet) that they are dealing with.