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no it's legit. i'm male and i've had women do this to me when they come over to my place. more than once.
a lot of people have awful expectations/low opinions of the other sex and get super angry at you if you don't live up to their low expectations of them
you think the home thing is bad? try being a dude who is emotionally open and honest. every lady says she wants that, but the vast majority of them are totally repulsed by it. i even had a couple of girlfriends who were so convinced men are all therapy needing emotionally student idiots, that when i was try to communicate they would just ignore everything i said and then tell me how i really felt. because my words didn't register as legitimate to them, they were women, and they knew the truth about how all men can't really properly express their feelings and clearly what I was doing was fake/false/wrong or something. it was utterly insane.
people are really really really wedded to their beliefs about gender roles and gender behaviors, to the point of total delusion that when someone doesn't live up to their sexist expectations, they just reject the evidence in front of their face and make up a fake story to maintain the preexisting belief.
tl;dr: all men are emotional student idiots. if there is a man who isn't, he's not really a man, he's secretly gay. because gay men aren't men either, or something? i dunno.
I struggled with this for a while. A woman saying she wants emotional honesty does not mean she swears to still find you attractive regardless of what you reveal. She just has a feeling of unease and wants that to go away. So, reassure while maintaining sophistication and intrigue.
There is nothing to 'struggle with'. It's hypocrisy, plain and simple.
Racists also hide behind their 'feelings of unease they want to go away'. that doesn't make them not racists, it's actually what defines them as racist, because the difference of race is what causes the feeling of unease.
What you want to do, is just perpetuate sexist hypocritical bullshit. Because it 'feels good'.
what if there was something more important than someone's feelings of attraction? or their feelings of attraction were rooted in sexist racist bullshit?
all you have to do is flip this around. if a woman opened up to me about her feelings, and i found that unattractive, would that be acceptable for me to reject her for it and call her names or tell her she is not 'really a woman'? or would it make me a horrible person?