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I cannot imagine anyone jumping to that conclusion, this has to be a joke. Like, when I first saw the house of my now husband, the front door opened to a big empty room and my first words were "oh, this is wonderful, it's so empty it looks like a ballroom, you could have a big party here!'. Like, sure, he cannot decorate and defers to me on home renovations now because he always likes what I design (I design, he has veto power) but how is that dysfunctional? He was just fine with the open space, it worked and a house is for the people who live there. And a big empty space is such a flex in a way, like look - I have more house than I need. Guys aren't waiting around hoping someone comes and fills that up, they are enjoying the space, right?
If someone compliments your home, I just can't see getting mad about it.
no it's legit. i'm male and i've had women do this to me when they come over to my place. more than once.
a lot of people have awful expectations/low opinions of the other sex and get super angry at you if you don't live up to their low expectations of them
you think the home thing is bad? try being a dude who is emotionally open and honest. every lady says she wants that, but the vast majority of them are totally repulsed by it. i even had a couple of girlfriends who were so convinced men are all therapy needing emotionally student idiots, that when i was try to communicate they would just ignore everything i said and then tell me how i really felt. because my words didn't register as legitimate to them, they were women, and they knew the truth about how all men can't really properly express their feelings and clearly what I was doing was fake/false/wrong or something. it was utterly insane.
people are really really really wedded to their beliefs about gender roles and gender behaviors, to the point of total delusion that when someone doesn't live up to their sexist expectations, they just reject the evidence in front of their face and make up a fake story to maintain the preexisting belief.
tl;dr: all men are emotional student idiots. if there is a man who isn't, he's not really a man, he's secretly gay. because gay men aren't men either, or something? i dunno.
I struggled with this for a while. A woman saying she wants emotional honesty does not mean she swears to still find you attractive regardless of what you reveal. She just has a feeling of unease and wants that to go away. So, reassure while maintaining sophistication and intrigue.
I purposefully keep my spaces open because I like the feeling. I like not having every inch of my house not need something in it.
I like to think of it like goldfish. A goldfish will grow to be the size of the tank you put it in, and that's good for a goldfish, but I don't want to be a goldfish - I don't need to jam stuff into every corner of the house just because a corner happens to be kind of empty.
cool. I find people who live that way to be really offputting and their spaces off putting. it feels like they live in a hotel. it's creepy af.
i like people who have stuff and their home looks like people actually live there instead of it being staged for sale.
Technically that's not good for the goldfish 🥴 they grow to the size of smaller tanks then it stresses their bodies to not be able to keep going to their natural size. I'd have to look it up what the recommended tank size is but hope folks look it up before getting one!
Someone who jumped to this conclusion was probably looking for a conclusion to their preconceived theory.
That or they are making a joke to dunk on people who do that