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I tried saying I was busy doing something, but after a while they would ask if I wasn't busy anymore. Eventually after doing it a couple of times it feels like I'm being mean.
Drawing boundaries for people who have no connection to you besides playing the same MMO isn’t “mean”. It’s simply drawing boundaries.
You're supposed to be "mean" (it's not mean at all) in this case.
Tell them to stop following you around or talking to you, nicely, exactly once.
Then, if they don't comply, you are probably dealing with a troll who enjoys annoying people. Children especially are prone to that. You have to stop doing anything interesting for a bit, just go afk, make a tea or whatever, and wait until they get bored and move on. Then you can resume playing. Or even, if that is a thing in this game, get a moderator to remove them.
Insisting on your preferred way to interact (or not) is not mean, it's required for your mental health. They have no right at all to interact with you if you don't want it, and they should be respecting it. If they don't, any amount of "mean"ness is warranted.
I think you should try stating your wishes, and then sticking with them. It worked for me before, when I was also struggling with a similar thing, thought it was grownups, instead of kids.
If you say things like "not right now", "I'm doing x currently", "I can't because I'm busy", this signals to them that they need to wait, and you will be available later. And as they get impatient they will ask you again. This isn't what you want.
If you say "sorry, today I would like to play alone" they will possibly be more disappointed that they don't get you at all, but at least they will know not to expect your availability and they can hopefully make their own fun. It's sort of like ripping off the band-aid. It's more uncomfortable for you to say it this way, and will hurt them more to hear, but it's better for everyone involved in the long run.
I used to be evasive with my adult gaming friends, like "I'm not sure I'll be online today" and "I might come on later", sometimes while hiding my steam and discord status and playing alone. But it had the same effect you're describing. These days I just tell them, "Sorry I'm too tired", or "Sorry I feel like playing a single player game today". It's miles better, and I don't have to keep lying.
You might just need to be more honest and direct. Something like "thanks for the invite but i want to go solo today"