Well, this is in the context of people choosing to accept donations as an open-source developer. Taking donations requires opt-in, I would assume someone like you just wouldn't take them in the first place.
However, I'm sorry that they make you uncomfortable or even guilty, because that sounds to me like you think you don't deserve them. Which to me, is sad, because the other person making the donation definitely thinks you deserved it.
"most" is the keyword here.
But they don't produce output
I would argue that this is not even close to true.
As an open source developer myself, my contribution to open source is pretty much exactly proportional to how well I'm feeling. Getting a donation makes me feel appreciated, using the money makes me feel better, all leading to me being more motivated to spend time on some open-source.
Obviously, being able to only work on open-source would generate more output, but the psychological impact of feeling appreciated to output can't be dismissed and is huge.
Not necessarily. A car by itself does not have a big carbon footprint at all, the problem with cars is that basically everyone has one, uses it for everything, and gets a new one every X years.
I drive a small car that I own since 2008, at that point it was already used, and it has 85000 km on it. If everyone of my age and up did that and drove so little, we'd have like 20-100 times less carbon footprint from cars.
It wouldn't even make sense for me to upgrade to an electric car. Yes, it'd use less and greener fuel, but the amount of carbon it'd cost to produce probably wouldn't "break even" until soooo many years in the future, maybe even after I die, at which point it'd even be a bad investment, carbon-wise.
So, like almost anything, it depends.
People always like to think of themselves that they aren't judgy and totally inclusive and tolerant. But it's a natural human behavior to judge others and make it known. Most people think of themselves and say they don't judge, but in the background, subconsciously, still do it.
So your doubt is probably justified. You have to get the real answer from how your friends actually behave, not from what they think or say.
Oh, I know that. Doesn't change my statement though, what I said is what's happening; how to handle it, I didn't really want to go into.
But yes, the solution is to not give a fuck, like you say. But that's only the second best solution, the first one is for that not to be necessary in the first place.
Dancing with trusted people, yes. But in many/most places, how you dance is subject to social stigma, which is much much worse than any benefit of dancing.
And if you only know the stigma-attached dancing, then it poisons "healthy" dance for you, because humans think of the bad thing first.
Why are you going broke though? Why can the solution not be "do not let yourself go broke"?
Well, the country and even sub-jurisdiction (like city, depending on country) is very relevant though, as this problem you're having is one where the best solutions are very local.
Most things you can do is get help from the community you live in, and without knowing the community, advice is too general and probably not very helpful.
You should look for local help and ask people there what to do.
Well, maybe, but if I look at the picture, I can see that the topmost mattresses are perfectly even, i.e. the bendy part of the negative comment is completely evened out after the 4th "positive comment mattress", i.e. you can't feel it at all anymore above that.
Wait, I don't get it. So do you mean to say that you get so many positive comments, that the slight negative ones are completely irrelevant as once you're insulated with so many layers of positive ones, you can't even tell there's negative ones in there somewhere?
If that is what you mean, then yes actually. I'm so lucky to be getting so much love from around me, that I don't even notice the negative ones anymore.
You can just ask to be pegged, many women are happy to do it nowadays.