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What's a life lesson you learned the hard way that you'd want to share with others to help them avoid the same mistake? (lemmy.world)

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[–] ulkesh@lemmy.world 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Do NOT invite anyone into your home that you do not know. And do NOT save someone from eviction and have them live with you if you only barely know them.

I just went through six months of hell with two freeloading pieces of shit who never cleaned up after themselves and almost never lifted a finger to help in the house — all while getting free room and board, free food, etc.

My kid happened to be friends with a kid whose 64 year old mother (kid was adopted) got evicted and we knew them in passing for a good decade. We were the ONLY ones to help, despite them being a part of a church with hundreds of people.

I now know exactly why no one helped them, and know exactly why they were evicted.

Just don’t do it. It’s not worth the stress and the money.

[–] AceSLive@lemmy.world 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Seconded.

I had a mate who didn't speak with his parents, lost his job and left his partner.

Took him in, rent free for 6 months. Got him on his feet, he got a new job and 6 months later he left... With my 10 year relationship. And my cat (but to be fair my ex was a vet so it made sense that she took him)

I thought he was a friend.

[–] spirinolas@lemmy.world 1 points 6 months ago

How nice of him, he took the trash out as he left.

[–] VinesNFluff@pawb.social 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

If you are a teenager and you currently feel like you have failed at being a man/woman/heterosexual/whatever, then there is a 79.8% chance you are some form of LGBTQ. Stop beating yourself up and start exploring instead. You'll be happy you did.

[–] Iapar@feddit.org 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I'm not feeling that I have failed but that the whole model of gender and sexually are flawed. So, in my opinion, society has failed me.

[–] cactusupyourbutt@lemmy.world 1 points 6 months ago

honestly, as a 30 yo cishet man, fuck gender and sexuality. Do whatever the fuck makes you happy

[–] norimee@lemmy.world 1 points 6 months ago

Tell people in your life what they mean to you and that you love them.
Often and always, you never know how much time you have together.

Call your mom, dad, your grandparents, spend time with your kids, with your nieces and nephew. Tell them all, that you are proud of them or grateful for them and that you love them.

We always think we have all the time in the world to spend with family and people we love. But if one of their lives is cut short, you might regret it forever!

[–] jqubed@lemmy.world 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

If you’re falling in love with someone who’s “perfect” you’re probably falling in love with someone who only exists in your head and not the real person. That’s a disservice to everyone involved.

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 1 points 6 months ago

Also, if your parents were abusive, be deeply skeptical of “love at first sight”.

The most amazing connection I ever had with a partner led to the worst abuse I’ve ever experienced.

[–] psion1369@lemmy.world 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Cleaning is a skill. Learn to like it young and never have a messy home.

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

And like all skills, will develop as you do it more and more. If you’re new to cleaning and you suck at it, don’t despair. Just keep trying.

[–] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Also, if you don't have it in you or enough time in your day to do the right kind of cleaning, it's better to do a half-assed clean today than none at all.

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

The best amount for me is five minutes, with a timer. When the timer goes off, I stop.

[–] IronKrill@lemmy.ca 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

That's my strategy for intimacy, too.

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 1 points 6 months ago

Man I wish I could last five minutes

[–] masquenox@lemmy.world 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

If you're going to "chase your dreams," it might be a good idea to first figure out whether they actually really are yours.

[–] Maggoty@lemmy.world -1 points 6 months ago

Also research the downside first. Some "dream jobs" are marketed that way for a reason.

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 0 points 6 months ago (2 children)

If you see a toilet in your dreams, don't use it!

[–] Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Can't confirm. I've had lucid dreams, where I'm aware that it's a dream, but not in control.

Then I started just pissing everywhere. And I could feel my sweatpants getting soaked. And then I shit myself. And in the dream I'm panicing because I know it's happening in real life. I'm very aware that when I wake up my sweatpants will be piss soaked, and I have shat myself. I can FEEL it happening as it happens. Then I wake up. No shit. No piss. Totally dry, and I IMMEDIATELY need to get to a bathroom. Where I shit and piss in the toilet.

And then I stand up, and there's no shit or piss in the toilet. And I'm like "WTF??? Am I just groggy? What the hell is happening???"

Then the toilet starts talking. "FEED ME YOUR TASTY POOPS!!!" And I'm like what the fuck is going on? Am I on drugs???" And this toilet is getting angry that I won't shit in it's mouth. Then it starts stomping around like the piano from Super Mario 64.

Then I wake up, and IMMEDIATELY need to piss and shit. So I run to the toilet, and yell at the toilet "ARE YOU GOING TO DEMAND I SHIT IN YOUR MOUTH??? I KNOW YOUR TRICKS, TOILET!!!"

And thats when I hear my neighbors laughing, because the walls are thin, it's 3AM, and they now think I'm crazy.

This has happened several times. I hope I never meet my neighbors.

[–] Asudox@lemmy.world 1 points 6 months ago

what the fuck

[–] kambusha@sh.itjust.works 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

What about if there's a fire, can I use the hose to put it out?

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

It probably wouldn't even put the fire out.

[–] Albbi@lemmy.ca 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Watch "Strange Brew" and let me know if you change your mind on that.

Awesome Canadian movie.

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 1 points 6 months ago

When that was first said, what came to mind was actually Gulliver's Travels with Jack Black. Fires are typically not even weak to a firefighting hose, that's why those firefighting games at Chuck E. Cheese are so hard. Firefighting is actually more difficult than that.

[–] Maggoty@lemmy.world -1 points 6 months ago

If you're being hailed as a hero in the US and you aren't a politician....

Run. Do not walk away, run. Society is absolving itself of caring for you after the inevitable sacrifice of your health and/or sanity.