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submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by SpaceFox@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
 

Can any straight man here explain what they like and why they like boobs so much? Like, what makes them attractive and why? Is it the size? Shape? Or The way they jiggle?

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[–] python@programming.dev 91 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Not straight, and not a man, but I just think they're neat! There really doesn't need to be a "why" to attraction, sometimes your brain just sees something and goes "yes"

[–] ieatpwns@lemmy.world 6 points 10 months ago

You get it!

[–] Glasgow@lemmy.ml 87 points 10 months ago (3 children)

Life is hard and boobs are soft.

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[–] MonkeMischief@lemmy.today 86 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Honestly? I often ponder this. It's amusing when you consider how enamored we are with bosoms.

I've heard it described that "Woman is the most beautiful shape in the human consciousness." And that stuck with me.

My wife often catches me gawking and thinks it's weird but I'm just like "You're just amazing. All of you. Everything about you." I feel like an idiot because I can't explain what the heck I actually mean.

It's just hard to fathom how a single being can be so... naturally aesthetic!

Women are just awesome. As a visual artist myself, I totally understand the compulsion to depict cute/pretty/happy/sexy ladies all the time. Heck, some artists do this exclusively. Variety is the spice of life, artists, but I get it. πŸ˜‚

I think we're coded to enjoy rounded elegant shapes, but there's something enchanting about femininity as a whole, and boobs and butts signal "feminine!!" to our brains.

Also I'd say size and such really doesn't matter. I think the really fascinating thing is the sheer variety, to the point they're unique to the woman as an individual person. And it has nothing to do with biological essentialism! (Tiny boobs are just as good at feeding young as ginormous ones)

It's also a bit cultural, I think. They're so obvious, yet hidden in polite company. So seeing them exposed feels like you have an intimate window into this person's world, and you feel special for the privilege, I suppose.

Lol now I feel like a weirdo, typing this all out. Does that help? LOL

[–] makingStuffForFun@lemmy.ml 33 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Straight male here. This response is excellent.

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[–] mineralfellow@lemmy.world 11 points 10 months ago

I have spent the last 12 years trying to convince my wife that I am not trying to trick her. I really do think she is that beautiful.

[–] tiefling@lemmy.blahaj.zone 53 points 10 months ago (12 children)

Gay woman

Small ones are cute and bite sized, big ones are squishy pillows. Regardless of size, they're all soft and cute.

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[–] Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 48 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Everybody likes boobs. They are the first positive thing we are introduced to in life.

The inprint is strong.

[–] Meltrax@lemmy.world 12 points 10 months ago (3 children)
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[–] schnurrito@discuss.tchncs.de 38 points 10 months ago

More or less an instinct I think. That is how I was able to tell I was starting puberty, that I started to imagine and want to see and touch naked breasts of the women and girls around me. I myself didn't have an explanation why, but that was now more than half my life ago and it hasn't stopped.

I don't have strong preferences as to shape and size. Small breasts are still breasts.

[–] random_character_a@lemmy.world 23 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

I think there's a similar attraction to all erogenous areas, but due to cultural reasons breasts are ones that are always covered and their uncovering signals intimacy.

Favoring big breasts is mostly a cultural thing with some links to biological instincts that I wouldn't give much weight to.

"Jiggling" transfers information about their structure and your brain can create a model on their "feel" without touching.

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[–] Wakmrow@hexbear.net 21 points 10 months ago

It's not complicated. If you're straight, secondary sex characteristics differentiate the opposite sex for you. This is also why men like wide asses--widening of the hips for women is a secondary sex trait.

Women also exhibit this attraction. Conventionally attractive men have square jaws due to more muscle produced from testosterone. They also tend to have facial hair and more muscle definition, all of which are secondary sex traits from testosterone production. Increased height is also an indicator.

I'm not a scientist. But it seems we're coded to find sexually mature people attractive and those signifiers tend to be secondary sex traits.

[–] devfuuu@lemmy.world 20 points 10 months ago (2 children)

at the beginning there was only ass. when humans still walked in 4 legs, the sexual thing they saw in front was ass cheeks. then humans went and started to walk on 2 legs. humans evolved and developed basically boobs so they were at eye level and attract the males.

boobs are the cheap version of ass.

[–] Bezier@suppo.fi 5 points 10 months ago (1 children)
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[–] HEXN3T@lemmy.blahaj.zone 20 points 10 months ago

I don't know, probably for the same reason others like other things. Chemical reactions, probably?

[–] Allero@lemmy.today 19 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

They are soft, easy to grab, and they belong to an attractive person's body at large, which makes them an amazing tactile experience overall.

On the looks, they greatly complement the hourglass shapes, which are very harmonious and pleasing.

[–] SteleTrovilo@beehaw.org 18 points 10 months ago (1 children)

It can't be explained directly, by itself. They're part of a bigger picture.

Straight men are attracted to women on the whole - legs, arms, waist, face, chest, back, it's all good. Whatever force it is that makes us attracted to women, it's not something that we chose or decided. We just do.

Since boobs are a sign of femininity, they're attractive to us on exactly that level! They fit into our idea of what women look like.

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[–] Dr_Box@lemmy.world 17 points 10 months ago

All three of those things. On a subconscious primal level though it means nutrition for babies

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[–] recentSloth43@lemmy.world 13 points 10 months ago (3 children)

Humans are the only mammals with boobs that stay "inflated" without childbirth or breastfeeding involved.

The theory is that it's an evolutionary selection, and the hypothesis is it's an aesthetic choice that keeps reinforcing itself (a positive feedback loop) and now it's HotWired in our brains.

The way i personally see it though, just like how i like certain types of food without a proper explanation to why, i also like boobs.

There's also the idea it's connected to being breastfed as a baby which brings back all those warm and safety feelings with them. That doesn't explain why most women (I speculate) aren't as into boobs as the average guy. That said, I've met multiple women, some straight,who also found boobs very fascinating. So maybe they get the same warm and safety feelings minus the sexual attraction?

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[–] Trollivier@sh.itjust.works 12 points 10 months ago

Boobies make good pillows.

[–] BenLeMan@lemmy.world 12 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I'm not seeing a lot of mentions of nipples here. So for me, size is pretty much secondary. Nice, prominent nipples are sure to get my attention, though.

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[–] Aarrodri@lemmy.ml 11 points 10 months ago (5 children)

Firmware. It's not a logical rational decision. Years of evolution I guess? There is embedded code in our brains that see tatas and we go ape.

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[–] squid_slime@lemm.ee 9 points 10 months ago

Just something compelling about them. All shapes and sizes

[–] robotElder2@hexbear.net 8 points 10 months ago

Why does the sun rise? Why does the grass grow? The cock like the heart just wants what it wants. It's like searching for deeper meaning in your favorite color.

[–] verdigris@lemmy.ml 7 points 10 months ago

The biological hypothesis is that they look like an ass on your chest. Asses are visually arousing for males for what I hope are obvious reasons.

[–] BearOfaTime@lemm.ee 7 points 10 months ago

Why do you like chocolate?

Coffee?

Ice cream?

Brussels Sprouts?

[–] gnutrino@programming.dev 6 points 10 months ago

Probably some form of Fisherian runaway over the course of human evolution tbh.

[–] Notyou@sopuli.xyz 6 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

All of that. It makes a mesmerizing movement that I would just like to keep looking at.

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 6 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I don't know why. But I like small firm boobs.. Seeing their shapes through clothes is the sexiest to me.

I remember how I thought about this before I went into puberty though. I had no interests in girls at all. And I remember wondering when that would happen.

Then it did happen and boobs became very sexy. So I guess it's just chemicals in our brains/body causing it.

[–] whaleross@lemmy.world 6 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

Because of biological programming. Humans are the only mammals with females that have permanent boobyliciously boobing boobies, so as per evolution it is no surprise that human males are going boinks for them. Size, shape, motion, who they be on are the mutual factors for any attractive body part, quite so also for boobs. They are cute when tight and jiggly, pretty when bouncy and cozy to feel up regardless of size, neat to catch a stolen glimpse and satisfactory to blblblblbl.

I don't know what kind of shocking reveal you expect.

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[–] SouthEndSunset@lemm.ee 5 points 10 months ago

All of what you said. Something about them makes them ace to look at.

Plus, boobs are boobs…big, small, saggy, perky, real, fake. As man’s reaction when a woman takes her top off is a good way to judge him….

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 5 points 10 months ago

Shape mostly, but also texture, softness, and smell.

[–] monk@lemmy.unboiled.info 4 points 10 months ago

We are a stupid neural network trained to detect fertile partners of a specific sex. Ever wondered why so many girls try to oversaturate, say, their naturally ever so slightly brighter lip color? Everything mass beauty industry does is taking male/female characteristics and dialing them up to eleven.

All to make our mating radar detect the gender from as many yards away as possible.

Being animals sucks. =/

[–] xc2215x@lemmy.world 4 points 10 months ago

They are turned on by them.

[–] DavidDoesLemmy@aussie.zone 4 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Boobs look like they're drops of water, just about to drip. So there's a certain anticipation there. Our brains are wired to predict where action and movement is going to be.

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[–] Yokozuna@lemmy.world 4 points 10 months ago

I think it just goes back to two main things. Being breast fed as a child, you grow to depend and love on the boob, so it's kind of baked into our genetics to some degree. Secondly the Church basically sexualized boobs and are considered taboo private parts most people aren't supposed to see so that gives it some sort of allure that you're seeing something your not supposed to, which in American culture is pretty much the norm. Think of how ankles were such a thing to flaunt not that long ago at all. Some cultures just outright don't care about boobs and just let em hang out so I really just feel like it boils down to culture for most of it.

Past all of that, and personally, a nicely resting boob is just a great sight. Something about the curves and seeing the body in its natural form idk. Also, squishy, they're great to just have a hand on and give a good squish every now and then.

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