Only when I land slightly wrong or too hard and think my knees are about to explode
Oh, and the forced grunt every time I stand up
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Yeah kinda. To me being a kid is all about the feeling of things not being up to you, you don't make the real decisions and the ones you do get to make are inconsequential. The past doesn't weigh on you and the future is a wide open mystery. Doesn't feel like that anymore.
Nope.
Still just feel like a kid, with extra responsibilities, while raising my own kids. Guess sometime around 50 or so i'll start feeling like an "adult"
Although, at least I call myself a dumbass, after doing something stupid, or wasting money on crap.
People who act like adults are merely pretending.
Imposter syndrome
Yes but it is not get a job or have a kid: it is because i have sustained previously unimaginable loss yet keep going. that is the feeling of adult to me.
I'm 27 and sometimes I don't feel like an adult. I don't have a job, I live with my parents (even though it's not as taboo here in my country), and I feel more like an older brother to my nephew instead of the uncle I really am.
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I don’t feel like I know what I’m doing but I do feel like an adult. The two are a bit separate in my head.
I'm middle aged and play video games and even do a lot of stuff like HTB as if I'm 20 about to embark on a new career path at any minute
I feel like an actual adult when I achieve milestones of my own character.
Any kid can be dragged through the external milestones of an adult life. But a kid cannot experience the milestones of adult character development, because those are the things that define adulthood.
For example yesterday toward the end of my work day, I had the opportunity to just coast through the last hour. It’s a skill I’ve developed, so I know I can do it. But instead I pushed myself to get more done and keep what promises I could to my customers, despite not feeling like it. That is the kind of thing that makes me feel like an adult. No amount of having experienced relationships, earning, owning, or exposure to death and suffering does it to me. But pushing myself to fulfill my duty despite not feeling like it, makes me feel like an actual adult.
The feeling that you have no idea what you're doing and just winging it is the most adult thing ever.
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I make okay money in my forties, was able to put a large some down on a reasonable new car to keep monthly payments low. Also my back hurts if I sit too long. So, yes.
I stopped getting older after graduating college.
Yeah, I do. I got bills to pay, mouths to feed, a job to go to, joints that hurt…yep. I event grunt when I get up.
I guess I was never under the impression that any adult actually knew what they were doing, even when I was younger, so I wasn’t surprised that I am still constantly improvising. This is the natural state of living. You’re either learning and improving, or you’re becoming obsolete and decaying. This is true whether or not you’re an adult.
Depends on the point of view I'd say.
- I pay bills
- I deal with requirements and assumptions the society puts on me as a grown-up citizen who brings better tomorrow closer through hard work
- I deal with hardships of my life through thinking, writing about them, cooperation, diplomacy, listening and discussing even difficult topics - also within my relationships
- I embrace the consequences that my actions may bring
- I try to rationalize my thoughts of the world
- i try to be a decent example to kids and other folks
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- I'm goofy, playful and childlike (you should see my behavior with my girlfriend)!
- I enjoy small, "nonsense" things and they cheer me easily up
- I'm generally relaxed of life
- I get easily (over-)excited
- I am an energetic person
- People assume I'm younger via my habitus
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So I guess I am and am not, in certain ways.
There are tasks and chores my parents used to do on my behalf that I now do myself, like making money, paying taxes, handling health insurance, etc. I guess those make me feel like an adult.
But then there are milestones I thought I would have hit by now that I have not, mainly concerning family life. No kids, no partner, nobody to take care of but myself. If I wanna go out and party, or stay in and play video games all weekend, there's not really much to stop me. That makes me feel immature.
All, the, fucking, time.
Yeah, but only because my joints hurt if I do anything remotely exertion related. It's less that I feel like an adult, more like I feel old.
If I think about it, yeah. I have a good career, a wife, a cat, a house. It just happened so gradually that I didn't notice it while it was happening.
I work in a school. I mostly talk like one and people bought it. The kids...they know...
I am constantly doing things that make me feel more adult. Like at some point I will have done enough of these things to be an actual adult.
I sure don't, constantly feel like I'm driving a car with feet that don't touch the pedals. Luckily I've got one hell of a community around me, and although the town's nickname is Shitshow USA we seem to make it work.
Solid NO, I'm over 35 too...
My family says your an adult the day you enjoy buying adult things. I just recently bought some good knives and glass food storage containers. I was super excited when they arrived. Video games and other fun things are exciting to buy myself but some good knives were next level.
I’ve always thought the measure of being an adult is when you being to like mustard.
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Funnily enough, I do feel like an adult, mostly because I've been aware enough for long enough that everyone else is making it up as they go, that I can sense when people are on their bullshit and navigate it pretty effectively.
Also I'm making a lot of decisions that will hopefully insulate me from the consequences of my inevitable failure, but I hold no delusions that the safety net will ever be perfect or even good, or that some arbitrary amount of austerity would have bought me a house at this point, so I don't starve myself of the little pleasures in the moment - today is the rainy day. I use my PTO, I get a little treat every once in a while, and I make myself as comfortable as I can. My life satisfaction has increased drastically with that in mind.