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If you were in your early twenties and could do it all again what direction would you go? What do you wish you had done earlier? What advice do you wish you had gotten? What would you tell your younger self?

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[–] jttab20@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Make sure you enjoy your life. People get too worried about their work that they forget to do normal life things

[–] AskFelix@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

All the mistakes and failures you went through are whats required to being where you are today.

[–] ClassicMidwest@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Network and get involved in as much as possible.

You aren’t expected to find your passion or career right out of Highschool or college. Very few will end up in the career they chose.

You can lessen that time by taking as many risks as you can as often as possible.

Meet new people in varied fields. Ask questions, ask to get involved.

What does that look like? Networking events at school or your current job. Friends functions or work functions. They would always love to have a chum tag along.

Search out your interests online, follow through with some classes or training. Most are free online to some degree.

Just general exposure to as much as you can stand. Something will click. Someone will take to you, offer you an opportunity. You may create an entirely new space from ideas of having such varied experiences.

Easier said than done. But if attempted? Geez.

[–] Fragrant-Solid6011@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago (3 children)

Experience life. Go out, meet people, network, travel.

[–] enfj4life@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago (3 children)

^ this.

I made low 6 figures when I was 15. That deluded me into thinking that grind/hustle culture was the way, and that I should sacrifice nearly all forms of entertainment and life experience until my 30s in exchange for working on gigs and side businesses.

Now I'm in my late twenties. On occasion I did travel, meet people, went out (concerts, bars/clubs, etc.), just to get it out of my system - and while it wasn't necessarily for me - there's something special about it because it's something you can really only do in your 20s without feeling out of place (nobody wants to be that guy in their 40s at the club).

I definitely wish I did more of it - especially travel. Nothing beats travel.

I will say that the other experiences, like getting drunk, partying, clubbing/bars, concerts, definitely felt shallow and wasn't fulfilling for me. But you want to at least do it a few times to have that in your memories, like you see in the movie Project X.

I know people are saying date as much as you can, and while I didn't do that, the few times I did date.. was rough. Young women in their 20s are hard to have a genuine connection with. They're often very addicted to social media or just trying to do what all the 'other' girls do. So that's a mixed bag. And be careful dating a self-abosrbed, untrustworthy or narcissistic girl - she'll only cause you headaches. Doesn't matter how hot she is. But you learn a lot about what you want in women. And seeing the relationships that many other guys in their early 20s had with women their age, let's just say I was not envious.

Was the tradeoff of life experiences for work worth it? Yes and no. I've still built tons of business skills which have helped me in my career and will help me begin my soon-to-launch business, but I also feel like my 20s were a blur of just heads down and work - and that i could have cut down my work time by 30-40%.

It's also possible that if i got too much into the 'have fun' mindset, that it would have derailed my momentum. Who knows.

To OP, try networking and going to conferences. I wish I did more of that. Also, spend time with your loved ones, friends, get into a fitness routine NOW, go out and date a few girls (but be careful), learn how women & dating work by reading about it online, have fun, travel, explore ... I also wish I did more things like sporting events or marathons, sporting events/finals, etc.

and for things like concerts/bars/clubs.. even if it's only once or twice, at least you won't have any regrets not doing it. Just wasn't for me though unless you're really into that and not a homebody.

[–] Ok-Abbreviations8830@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

But see mate, if we want something then some other thing should be sacrificed right. So your sacrificed but still managed to have some fun in twenties and now you are having a financial stability. So your hustle was worth it right. Nwo you have your thirties and forties to enjoy.

[–] nekooooooooos@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

you are damn amazing for starting so young and being this wise this young, i am 19 yo but i just started my entreprenarial journey and as you said the more you are into it the clearer its get that its the right thing to do, i am gettig to know a lot of amazing people in online, and successful as well, its has been only a month now but all i can say is i couldnt be more happy of discovering myself and exploring my interests , i am now considering to get a small budget of 300$ and quit my 9 to 5 job to get completely into it! any advices, tips or information would be very helpful!, such as networking groups, mentors, important courses to take, subject and topics to learn about (eg: sales, economics, marketing?)

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[–] JonLivingston70@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

And either stay single or get a Partner

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[–] BoomtownPopulationU@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Be in shape and ask them all out.

[–] Canigetyouanything@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Do it all tomorrow because now , we got hella time.

[–] Greeneggsandhamon@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Learn or earn, if neither move on

[–] ClickMeForAKill@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Simple. I like this one.

[–] Innovestor5@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Move to the single best hub for your industry, wherever that is globally.

[–] Fade2stage@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Go straight to college. Get a internship. Get a full time job. Right now I'm broke because I made a lot of dumb decisions in my youth

[–] OnewordTTV@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Same here brother... I don't know what the fuck in doing now. Things are ok but reading people's comments here... I'm like shit... maybe it's not ok...

[–] isthatayeti@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Teach Yourself a few basic things.

  1. Consistency and grit beats almost everything when it comes to getting ahead.

  2. Motivation is what gets you started, thats about all its good for. Determination and discipline carry you the distance.

  3. Slow down things take time. Usually they take longer than expected, dont be in a rush to get 10 steps ahead focus on where you are and take the next appropriate step.

  4. Get fit and strong early and turn it into a lifelong habit.

  5. Theres a difference between cramming content and information and actually absorbing it. You will get more out of applying the concepts from one self help book than you will out of mindlessly reading and motivating yourself with 100 of them.

  6. Learn how to learn. learn how to focus and control/understand your emotions.

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[–] kennardinards@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

For business advice I'd tell myself to be more stringent on who to give equity. Loyalty and friendship are valuable but keep business decisions separate, value your time and energy, and pay yourself a salary for your time!

[–] Infamous-Method1035@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Number ONE: do not make any long term commitments until you’ve done some things.

Number Two: Real estate investing and general contracting are two careers that do not require degrees or licensing (depending on where you are of course), and they both can make you very wealthy pretty quickly, if you’re willing to learn a LOT and work yourself to near death for a few years first.

Number three: move away from home and learn at least two other languages plus ASL. Dead people will tell you damn near anything simply because you understand their signing.

[–] evil_penguin_ouch@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I would love to speak with dead people. Never thought they'd have much to say but yeah, this makes sense!

[–] Infamous-Method1035@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Hahahahaha I’m not even going to fix it

[–] ConsumerScientist@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago (4 children)

Learn sales before anything else.

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[–] TheIrishJin@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Unless my goals in life revolved around a technical skill like engineering, etc. I would not have gone to school. I also would have gotten a job in sales - literally any sales job. It's A LOT easier to get experience the younger you are as more people are willing to take a risk on you.

Most of an entreprenur's job is sales.

[–] Swimming_Science7271@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

I would've moved to a new city sooner. Whether for college or just on my own accord. I stayed at home for most of my twenties and the perks were that I was able to save 70% of my income and I was able to travel a bit because I didn't really have big adult responsibilities anchoring me or my finances down (besides my car note).

Now that I'm finally adulting into my late twenties, it feels like I'm often playing catch up. I moved to a new city a few years ago and it was and still is a tough transition. To go from little to no bills and freedom to having every penny count is exhausting and things keep getting more and more expensive, but that's another rant.

The point is that most of us go through struggle transitioning from our very first move and in hindsight I would have rather gone through it and gotten through it and when I was younger. Back when I was full of spirited hustle and surrounded by young ppl my age all in the same place and building a close nit circle in my new city.

Now, in my late twenties (which is still relatively young in life) things are already different. People my age are having kids, starting families, buying houses and already into their careers. Meanwhile I feel a bit left behind and it's tough not having a support system of friends since it's much harder to make new friends later on in life. especially when you're in 2 different stages in life.

Staying home is absolutely great if you intend on staying in your home town forever. But since I always knew I wanted to leave, I would've ripped the bandaid off sooner.

[–] Beginning-Comedian-2@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

If you were in your early twenties…

Some things to think about.

  • live with roommates - save the money for a house or investing ... or live cheap so you can take more risks.
  • auto-invest into index funds - 10 to 20 years goes fast.
  • take more risks - it's easy to work a job, come home, and sit in front of the tv or play video games. Go make something while you have the energy of youth.
  • got a dream? go do it. - trying things while you're young is easier because you have fewer responsibilities.
  • put yourself in the path of opportunity: want to do X? Move to a big city where more people are doing X... or get hired by the top company doing X. Hang out with people are doing or want to do that thing.
  • get control of your weight - this is easier in your 20s and has a big impact on your mental state, your energy levels, romantic life, friendships, and business opportunities.
  • read the Bible all the way through - I have religious reasons for recommending it, but it's a large foundation for Western Civilization. So it's a good context for understanding the world and people.
  • don't underestimate what you can do while in your 20s - U2 recorded Joshua Tree by the time they were 27. George Lucas directed Star Wars at 32. Paul Anka wrote "My Way" for Frank Sinatra at 28. Frank Miller wrote the comic Dark Knight Returns at 27.
  • practice self-control - Eliminate/reduce vices. They won't help you. And they have a big impact on physical and mental health.
  • be the initiator - at work, in friendships, in family, in life ... don't wait for someone else to invite you. Reach out. Make things happen.
  • change jobs every 2-3 years - get a lot of experience at a lot of places. It will help you know what you like, what you're good at, and what good/bad workplaces are. Also, this is the fastest way to a raise.
  • live in reality (not fantasy) - don't spend all your time in movies, video games, and TikTok. Go out and do things with people. Go accomplish something in the real world. In 10 years you won't care about that level you beat in the video game, but you will remember that friend you met while on your
  • make amends & forgive - as much as you can, maintain and restore relationships with family and friends.
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[–] jonkl91@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

I would have done similar but I would have cut off some business partners who weren't serious way earlier. Lost so much time and should have spoken up earlier.

[–] angles_and_flowers@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Live today because tomorrow is never promised.

[–] Sampson2003@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Everyone will tell you invest more early and purchase a home earlier which is true to more financial freedom later on. Getting old sucks and your body slows down after 30.

So with that aside; live your life while you’re young, grow your career to better financial stability, don’t have kids too early, don’t get married too young (the 20,25, & 30 you are much different people), and enjoy the flexibility of single life.

I’m 38, my son is 18, I make 100k, own a home with mortgage, have a moderate nest egg and have worked extra hard my whole life for it. Had I followed my own advice earlier I’d probably retire at 45 instead of 60. Though, I’ve done a ton of stuff, bucket lists, experiences, stories, and have lived a heck of a life. I tell my fiancé if I died tomorrow it’s ok because I lived a great life.

Always remember, tomorrow is never guaranteed. My father passed away at 56 and checked every box to retirement to never enjoy it.

[–] mamaonamission89@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Took my “side hustle” serious. I created a $20 million per year business, but needed better infrastructure and re-recognizing it was going to even be a big business. I left millions on the table by not seeing what it truly could be.s

[–] Nearby-Buffalo-6829@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Go out, expand your connection. Meet people.

[–] CSCAnalytics@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Full focus on my education while enrolled in college, then full focus on my career while newly employed.

Do those two things and you will be successful.

[–] kazrael02@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Don't date folks that aren't worth your time.

So much time and money and heartache because I didn't get out of bad relationships when the warning signs were all there all along.

To be fair I didn't know what a healthy relationship looked like, it wasn't like my parents set a good example in that regard, but I didn't realize how easy being in a relationship could be until I actually lucked into a relationship with a genuinely kind and considerate person.

[–] SongExtension7467@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

I wish I had gone to church earlier; genuinely I was not a good person didn’t grow up in a “safe” environment, but I would have prayed more read Bible but truthfully when I was that age I don’t know if I’d really know how to handle the Bible I’d tell my friend who grew up in church I need help with faith, and personal problems but I don’t know this is more if I could go back in time and tell myself something

[–] tinalane0@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Write everything down

I would have been a millionaire but I forgot the name of what I wanted to invest in

[–] PNW_Uncle_Iroh@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Man reading all these comments I’m really happy with the decisions I made and the life that I’ve lived so far. In my 40s now and have had successfully business, lots of fun, a great family and friends, lots of travel and adventures, and plenty of money. I can honestly say I wouldn’t change much outside of the obvious hindsight bias. I always chased the thing that was most exciting to me and never settled.

I’ve had a lot of shitty things happen to me as well but they’ve all been temporary setbacks and I’ve always bounced back better.

The only advice I would give my younger self would be to spend more time with my dad before he got cancer and passed away, but there’s no way I could have planned for that.

[–] OnewordTTV@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I'm reading this at 35 and having a fucking crisis. What the fuck have I done so far... what happened to my motivation and plans... you all seem to have your shit so together. When the fuck did I get so behind and so old. Fuck... like this is seriously fucking with me today...

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[–] Shruthi_2851@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

I would focus on savoring life, embracing new experiences for learning, connecting with people to build networks, and exploring different places through travel. I acknowledge that everyone has their own distinct path for navigating their twenties.

[–] Simon_Small@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Risk everything in on what you love…. Just chip away at things without seeing the obvious payback…. This leads to greatness…. Where you heart is engaged you bring a delight to everything and your dreams manifest…

[–] Grenvallion@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Deffo bitcoin, amazon, or tesla and live off that.

[–] nekooooooooos@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago (2 children)

i am 19 yo but i just started my entreprenarial journey and athe more you are into it the clearer its get that its the right thing to do, i am gettig to know a lot of amazing people online, and successful as well, its has been only a month now but all i can say is i couldnt be more happy of discovering myself and exploring my interests , i am now considering to get a small budget of 300$ and quit my 9 to 5 job to get completely into it! any advices, tips or information would be very helpful!, such as networking groups, mentors, important courses to take, subject and topics to learn about (eg: sales, economics, marketing?)

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[–] Thongori369@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Thank you for this.

[–] timtruth@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Do the deep work to determine your motivations for wanting to start a business. Are they based on trauma or true love? This is very hard to distinguish when you're young.

But if you let trauma drive, and you do the work to heal, you'll start burning out even if you're successful.

[–] karriesully@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Take and learn from more risks while you’re young and still developing psychologically - especially women. Shedding fear and ego as early as possible is rarely bad.

[–] EddieCutlass@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[–] Particular-Sea2005@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

LOL that’s a good one

[–] deediamond5@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

credit building start a few businesses spent less money on things an more on stocks would have bought a higher policy an would have stayed single worked out more

[–] Vegetable-Court6632@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Travel, a lot, the more countries u visit the more u realize how all your friends and family at home live in a bubble.

Traveling also creates so many business opportunities, not only from meeting people but also from just seeing what is needed in other places and what certain things cost.

[–] laumbr@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Buy a fucking sailboat, just sail and make it work by working here and there.

Bring solar, batteries and a water maker.

[–] Soft_D@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Work in tech lol

[–] Particular-Sea2005@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Buy BitCoin, that’s it

[–] Solomonthewise7@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

Dump the psycho gf go all in on world domination

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