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[–] Una@piefed.europe.pub 22 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Honestly, I love to see anyone who is gender non conforming in any styles and any gender :3

[–] daggermoon@lemmy.world 13 points 1 week ago
[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Idc, as long as they happy who cares?

Some people might be into it, some not. Personally I think clothing shouldn't be limited to one gender or whatever.

[–] ryannathans@aussie.zone 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)

That's not the question though, the question is if each woman viewing the post finds it appealing or not

[–] Chromebby@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Am woman. Not gonna lie, if it was a stranger on the street, I’d think β€œwow that is bold! Now there’s a sight you don’t see everyday” and probably look the other way bc I’m not trying to stare lol

[–] daggermoon@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

I'll take it lol

[–] daggermoon@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago

Wouldn't say I, I mean my friend feels happy but he feels cute.

[–] memfree@piefed.social 17 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Young Brad Pitt? Absolutely.
Old Abe Vigoda? Probably not.

Mostly it would come down to the attitude of the guy, I'm imaging a pleated skirt above the knees and a sleeveless crop top to better hioghlight the shoulders. Worn proudly on a hot bod? That'd look awesome. Worn with the embarrassment of, say: losing a bet? That'd look lame on anyone.

[–] daggermoon@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago

Brad Pitt unironically helped with my self confidence. If he can pull it off why can't I?

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 13 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Wish the kilt had become a more common thing.

[–] lost_faith@lemmy.ca 6 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

I used to wear sarongs, closest I could get, still have a drawer with about 30 in it. Great for walking around and shibari

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Had to look it up but its funny its towels that make me want to have something just ever so slightly easier to throw on than a pair of shorts. Like were you don't have to lift your legs.

[–] lost_faith@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 week ago

I love the easy access it provides as well for any number of reasons, plus flying free is so... freeing. The ones I have are rayon, as was the style at the time, only colour I don't have (on purpose) is white. Tying in sarong is so much more comfortable than pants

[–] daggermoon@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

Sarongs are cool as hell.

[–] thezeesystem@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Absolutely, freedom to choose what you want to wear and freedom of choice is incredibly important.

[–] daggermoon@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago

I wholeheartedly agree

[–] janus2@lemmy.zip 11 points 1 week ago (1 children)

yes
I'm a lesbian, but y'all femboys look fine as hell just sayin

[–] daggermoon@lemmy.world 10 points 1 week ago

Thanks! lol. I wouldn't call myself a femboy though. More so punk.

If your hope is to find a woman who would want to date you, I'd be willing to bet this would be the single greatest screen you could ask for. Anyone who isn't interested probably isn't worth your time

[–] BuboScandiacus@mander.xyz 7 points 1 week ago
[–] communism@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'm gay so idc. You should be dressing because you like to dress that way, not for women's attention. Women who like men in skirts and crop tops will go to you.

[–] daggermoon@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

I mean it's kind of for both. I love your username by the way.

[–] GrantUsEyes@lemmy.zip 6 points 1 week ago
[–] DarkAri@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

The number who will be accepting of it is probably like 15% or so. This is the amount of women who identify as bisexual, which probably is about the same as women who view feminine men as attractive. It really depends. If you are feminine but still masculine in ways, you might actually have the majority of women liking you. I am a very andro guy for example when I guy mode and also fairly attractive and nearly half of women I meet show some interest in me although usually not knowing that Im actually trans. If you are decent looking and take care of yourself. Eat well, wear sunscreen outside, things like this. However when you are doing it in a very open sort of way, half of women just won't have attraction and probably 2/3rds of the ones who do will be too afraid of the social ramifications to actually admit they like you and pursue it. You can also be andro without being very girly. A guy wearing a skirt is kind of weird. You are better off actually growing your hair out and leaning more into one side of the other. Either be a pretty guy, or a pretty girl. You can do both on different days. You can mix them in ways but you have to have a good eye for it. Things like skinny jeans, nice cut shirts, long hair, shaving your body, jewelry, women shoes, these types of things can fit well into a more masculine style. If you are wearing a skirt though you should probably be looking more like a girl then a guy in your face and stuff. At that point you probably want to dress mostly fem and maybe incorporate some guy style into your style if youd like. Tshirts, beanies, hoodies, skate shoes whatever.

Regardless that is still tens of millions of people, your chances aren't impossible. Women don't care about this stuff nearly as much as guys do. They don't feel as awkward about it. Most women who have a strong distaste of it are probably on the dumber side anyways. They will make bad partners. They are also probably gold diggers and stuff. Those traits tend to run together. Also as we move into the future it's only going to become more common because humans are naturally fairly bi and gender fluid by nature outside of the conditioning and gender ideology pushed by some people. Feminine men are honestly just superior in nearly every way to modern male styles and it will keep coming back. Men dressing the way they do is a very modern concept. Outside of the Middle East and Arab cultures men didn't even like having beards or anything. It used to be a sign of laziness and trashiness. Men nowadays are pretty insecure about their masculinity. They drive around in rich people trucks and live lifestyles of extreme wealth, and play video games and work in offices, and stuff and so they project their own insecurities onto other men. Most men who are actually manly men don't give af about someone being gender fluid or anything. It's really the spoiled ones who are like that. Women mostly don't like it because of physical attraction, and because many women idolize the idea of being a housewife and marrying a rich man who will take care of them and stuff. I know none of this has anything to do a guy dressing fem, but many people are really dumb and they think those things are linked. They never really consider that a man who is fem is incredibly brave and value and principles driven. They are very likely to be someone who actually takes care of someone. To be a good husband. There is also just that so many people, especially women fear that a man being fem is going to doom him to poverty, and women tend to weigh things like earning potential strongly in mate selection.

[–] solrize@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] racketlauncher831@lemmy.ml 1 points 5 days ago

Good god, that was 30 years ago?

Not my type, I'm more into masculine guys with stud earrings, baseball caps and tattoos

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