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Say if someone came up to you and asked "If you were a boy/girl what would your name be?" could you answer them without needing think or is that not something most people give a thought to?

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[–] GalacticGrapefruit@lemmy.world 45 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Hi. Trans person here.

This is how The Big Questions start. Good luck.

[–] inb4_FoundTheVegan@lemmy.world 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

If you're thinking about what your life would be as the opposite gender, then you're already thought about gender more than most. Doesn't necessarily mean you're any flavor of trans, but generally this isn't something cis folk think about.

No one can tell you who you are, especially an internet stranger. But if OP or anyone else has an answer to what name you would've had as the other sex, than this link is massively helpful in sorting through these thoughts.

[–] ElectricWaterfall@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 day ago

Very interesting read even as a cis person. I don’t understand how anyone can read this and then believe any of the propaganda about trans people.

[–] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I have an agendered one but I'm also legit considering changing it.

[–] strlcpy@programming.dev 1 points 15 hours ago

Reading this made me think of such a gender-neutral name and honesty I'm digging it. Close to my real name, works in multiple languages.

[–] Luci@lemmy.ca 8 points 1 day ago

Good luck with your transition!!!

[–] JASN_DE@feddit.org 44 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] johsny@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago
[–] Tywele@lemmy.dbzer0.com 23 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (3 children)

I knew the name I would have gotten if had been born a girl for multiple years before I came out as trans and now that is my real name.

[–] unbuckled_easily933@lemmy.ml 1 points 3 hours ago
[–] prex@aussie.zone 21 points 1 day ago (1 children)

So your parents chose your trans name? That's awesome!

[–] Tywele@lemmy.dbzer0.com 15 points 1 day ago

Kind of yeah 😊

[–] mybuttnolie@sopuli.xyz 4 points 1 day ago

but are your parents now transparent?

[–] Lasherz12@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Can't say I've ever thought about it as a cis male. It's pretty easy to come up with the best sounding derivative though. If you feel that this may be an important choice for you it may benefit you to explore further and perhaps talk to a therapist who has helped others with dysphoria.

It may also help to add that I've gone through phases of not liking my name. It's not a "normal" name and people very often mishear it as something else. Through this I've only ever considered other cis male centric names, also derivatives of my actual name.

My name is not gendered, so I’m good to go.

[–] Witchfire@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

I'm not really sure how that works as a trans person lol

[–] dream_weasel@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 day ago

I'm gonna go with no.

[–] Bunbury@feddit.nl 1 points 1 day ago

As a cis female I never considered going for a traditionally male name. I do however have a gender neutral name I go by in certain circles. I also used to have a gender neutral account for online gaming.

[–] _haha_oh_wow_@sh.itjust.works 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] Tonava@sopuli.xyz 11 points 1 day ago (7 children)

I'm trans so I would have to decline answering, as any other name than my current one would just be asked and used in attempts to hurt me. But I do know exactly what names I would have

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[–] mrcleanup@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

I'd have no idea. Yeah, there's a feminine name I could extract from my current name, but my first impression is that I wouldn't want that. I have no idea.

Good luck with your journey!

[–] billbasher@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

Probably Rachel

[–] spittingimage@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I have a gender-neutral name, so I'd probably stick with the same one.

[–] FatVegan@leminal.space 2 points 1 day ago

Same. My parents thought of everything

[–] northernlights@lemmy.today 11 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Yeah my name is Clement, so Clementine, like the Walking Dead character. Actually kids in school called me that thinking it was mean... I actually didn't mind.

[–] rikudou@lemmings.world 6 points 2 days ago

Clementine is one beautiful name!

[–] Today@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

Crap. Now i have to go watch Eternal Sunshine and I really don't have the emotional energy for that today.

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 1 points 1 day ago

I feel like "Kolanaki" works both ways. Which is great, because I also go both ways.

[–] oopsgodisdeadmybad@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 day ago

My name has an obvious feminine version, and I like it enough too.

I've personally known only very few women with that name, (it's not uncommon) but the ones I did were gorgeous, so I'd happily put myself in that club if I woke up different tomorrow.

My middle name is already unisex too, so my initials wouldn't even change lol.

[–] starlinguk@lemmy.world 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I'm a woman, my parents already gave me a male name. I never really thought about it until my brother had a son and named him after me.

[–] oopsgodisdeadmybad@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 day ago

My (man here) little sister used my unisex middle name as her daughter's name after me. 🥰

She's not my only niece, but that will always be special to me.

[–] MightyThistle@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

My mum said if I were a boy, my name would've been Daniel

[–] SaneMartigan@aussie.zone 1 points 1 day ago

Dazza in Australia.

[–] noxypaws@pawb.social 1 points 1 day ago

Nope, but I go by my furry name most places and that's rather gender neutral.

Actually, I have one at the ready, mostly because my dad used to call my brother and I by our feminine equivalent names to bug us as children (different time, young army guy).

Have not given thought to preferred choices, though, just that one.

[–] First_Thunder@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 day ago

Not really. Probably just the female version of my name

[–] callyral@pawb.social 1 points 1 day ago

Since I was named after my dad I suppose I would've been named after my mom or another family member.

And uh, I guess "Cally" is kind of gender neutral-ish but it is my main online username so it'd be weird to use it somewhere else. Also I'm unsure how to pronounce it in portuguese, which is my native language.

[–] rob_t_firefly@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I was named after my dad while my first sister born after me was named after my mom. (My parents would not have won any points for originality.)

If I'd been assigned female at birth I would probably have been named after my mom instead, and given the name my sister ended up with rather than just the feminine version of my present name.

As it stands I'm a cis man, but if I suddenly needed to change to a woman's name for some reason my name has a common feminine variant I'd use.

[–] MagicShel@lemmy.zip 5 points 2 days ago

If you asked me to pick a different name remaining a guy I don't think I could without a lot of thought.

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