My name can be used for both. Lucky me!
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No, I'd need to think about it. I don't have a pre-chosen opposite gendered name (it's not something I've thought I needed to consider) and my name is not one that can be easily adapted so the easy option is out.
My name is already androgenous.
I have given more thought to what I would change my name to if I was trying to hide as a criminal than I have for if I switched genders.
Mr name is Scrofula, so I guess Scrofulina might work out ok?
I'm not sure about everyone but I do know that I have thought about this before. While I have no plans on ever becoming trans, I have thought about using the name Vivian or just Vivi. It's not related to my real name but I for some reason just kind gravitated towards it.
I think I remember first using it as my character's name in some scenarios in AI Dungeon, and I still use it when I need a name for a female character.
My name works equally well for either gender, so yes.
Samesies
Emely, Liv, Lucy, Alina are names i really like and would pick from
I could come up with something contextual on the fly, but it is not a thing I think about. I do not feel a need to navigate or explore my sexual dogma, not that there is anything wrong with doing so. I guess I am lucky to have grown up with experiences that helped me learn what I do and do not find arousing. I think I am open to new experiences, but I generally follow my curiosity wherever it leads and do not care how anyone else feels about that. I'm fiercely loyal, so not in that way.
Amanda.
But I did have to think for a bit.
I know what my parents wanted to call me if I was a girl. It's a horrible tacky name so I'm glad I turned out a boy!
I don't even like my own name for various reasons but I couldn't make a different choice for my own gender even if I wanted to.
I would end up depressively renaming myself something like Rat Bastard McFuckwit
if i was a guy, i most likely would've just keep the name they gave me as a baby. personally, i gave a fair bit of thought to choosing my name, there wasn't some natural, percect choice that just fell into my brain out of the aether, but ymmv
I think the female versions of my name sound terrible, so, no on that front.
In general not a thought I've had aside from that. I've always felt comfortable with my gender/sexual orientation.
I don't know a lot of trans people.
Do they usually pick the opposite-gender-version of their birth name? Seems like many do not.
Most do not.
Are they just being creative though, or are they purposefully making it very different?
Do they think just a slight name change will be seen as a joke or temporary?
I've never had to think about the mental process of choosing my own name, but I like the feminine version enough for now.
But if it was a really important thing for me to distinguish my identity separate from my birth name, that might change my decision.
But I've only considered it on the surface, like "what if I woke up at a Halloween party wearing a dress", or doing a dare/forfeit kind of thing.
I'm thinking that a huge portion of the trans community came out of circumstances where they're shamed for it, and might choose to distance themselves from that whole part of their life.
So I totally get it, but from a surface-level consideration, I wouldn't mind the femme version of my name.
My name doesn't have a female version, but I know the name picked for me if I was a girl.
No, I've never thought about this in any meaningful way and I couldn't answer without significant consideration.
I'm presuming that this is me choosing a name for myself, not what would my name be if I was born a girl.
My name does have a feminine version (Joseph => Josephine), but I'm not really a fan of gender swap versions of names, so it wouldn't be that. I'd probably go for something biblical like Deborah or Esther.
I'd have to stop and think because I've used two variations of a feminine version of my name in previous circumstances where this has come up and I don't know which i prefer.
I don't
Never crossed my mind. And now that I'm trying to think about it all the names i try out sound wrong because i so strongly associate myself with my given name. Even other names of my same gender don't feel like they're me.
I do have a favorite for video game characters of the other gender. But I didn't pick it until quite late in life, and I'm not sure it's a good name for gender-bent me irl.
Parents had a name for a AFAB child iirc; though I've forgotten it.
I mean I have indecisiveness issues.
I was supposed to pick an English name so its easier to pronounce than my real name, but kinda procrastinated and didn't feel confortable actually using a "foreign" name when I didn't even speak the language at the time.
So like... hypothetically, if I were trans, not only would I be so afraid of picking and using another name, I would probably just be too scared to actually transition and keep hiding it in my head forever, I never gave any thought to such hypotheical names.
Although I wonder, if I was AFAB, what name would my parents give me? Kinda wanna ask them for fun.
Loaded question. Who are you asking?
I'm asking everyone.
I've known the answer to this question since well from as early as I can remember. I was curious if this is something other people think about often/ever.
Maybe transgender people do. I knew my name for the longest time, and when it came time to transition, it was an easy choice.
yeah, I had a name picked out for me long before I knew I was trans. It was just, "The girl name I identify with" in my head. There were no signs.
You mean if I was assigned a different gender at birth or if I realized something about myself?
Either, any cause?
I would just use the name I use now. There’s not some name police that says you can’t be a girl named Steve. Do what you want and fuck everybody else.
If you were a boy/girl what would your name be?" could you answer them without needing think
Yes, I could.
My name is part of my identity. My gender, too. So if this were different, then I would not be I. It makes no sense to think about "my" name then, because it would be the name of somebody else then.