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[–] Iheartcheese@lemmy.world 86 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Shocked this isn't femcels

[–] jackr@lemmy.dbzer0.com 34 points 1 week ago (1 children)

femcels and 196 is essentially a circle I think

[–] blindbunny@lemmy.ml 18 points 1 week ago

Those girls are Antifa af, based I say.

[–] SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone 83 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (6 children)

I'm this but reversed. I want to get creampied but I don't have a coochie

[–] QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works 169 points 1 week ago

you're not gonna believe this

[–] UnixSlvt42@piefed.blahaj.zone 47 points 1 week ago (1 children)

As a transbian top, I can assure you, you don't need one for that.

[–] SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Anal has never worked for me. It's painful, inconvenient, and overall just not really what I want. 😥

[–] UnixSlvt42@piefed.blahaj.zone 11 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Oh... Well now i feel bad. I really hope you get bottom surgery one day!

[–] SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Me too. I feel so incomplete without it.

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

Personally I still don't know what to do.

On one hand, I'm feeling more and more confident I could have bottom surgery, but on another, I don't always actively feel repulsed by my bottom parts - except for that I cannot bear a child. And that saddens me a ton.

Don't focus so much on dysphoria. Focus on euphoria instead: what would make you feel happy, confident, and sexy?

If keeping your current equipment makes you feel happy, confident and sexy then more power to you. But if bottom surgery would give you those feelings, then perhaps that's what you should pursue.

[–] Unlix86@lemmy.blahaj.zone 23 points 1 week ago
[–] bdonvr@thelemmy.club 18 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Don't let your dreams be dreams

Do consult your doctor about PrEP though

[–] SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 week ago

Anal has never really worked for me. 😢

I need bottom surgery so bad, but of course I will never be able to afford it. And that's if the government doesn't make it illegal (which is likely coming very soon).

[–] MissJinx@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)

oh there's a life hack for that!!

[–] SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Is it anal? Cuz I've tried that and it sucks.

[–] MissJinx@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Women only have 1 extra whole. Don't give up your dreams

[–] SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

(edited)

Just a note - You should use the word "women" inclusively of cis and trans women. Biological sex is referred to using words like "male" or "female" (adjectives). "Man" and "woman" are words that describe gender, which is more about how someone presents themselves socially rather than how they were born or what body parts they have.

As for people born female only having "one extra hole" - unfortunately for me they don't all function the same. Don't get me wrong, I like giving head as much as the next girl, but it just isn't the same and my hemorrhoids and ibs make anal next to impossible. So, yeah, I'm kind of exhausted from trying to make do with the "holes" I have. It sucks.

[–] Jankatarch@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

Not directly sex-related but I am heavily betting on VR improving enough to replicate senses within next 20 years so I can just hop into vrchat 2.0 with a custom avatar one afternoon and be happy lmao.

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

are we talking about the same industry that took like a decade to figure out how to make people stop vomiting while using VR, yet continued to charge the cost of a used car for the headsets?

[–] SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I don't know about you, but I'm not letting Musk or Zuckerberg put any chips in my brain 🙅‍♀️🙅‍♀️🙅‍♀️

Like yeah it sounds cool but I know how often computers get hacked. Not looking to add security vulnerabilities to what's currently an air-gapped system.

[–] QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works 1 points 5 days ago

the idea of a hacker jerking you off from across the globe is so funny to me

[–] absentbird@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago

Brain chips no, but maybe through some sort of trans cranial stimulation, like in cyberpunk novels?

[–] Habahnow@sh.itjust.works 44 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Lol WTF is this from?! Haha.

[–] QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works 37 points 1 week ago

t shirt at mall store

[–] morto@piefed.social 26 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Why is it so hard to find a woman that feels this way about me? >.<

[–] de_lancre@lemmy.world 8 points 1 week ago

I know smartphone app that will help you find the answer.

Open on your own riskIt's called camera

[–] blindbunny@lemmy.ml 13 points 1 week ago

Desirable dating partners for 500$, Mr. Trebek.

[–] Bristlecone@lemmy.world 13 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 week ago

... I have incredible news for you

[–] KuroiKaze@lemmy.world 12 points 1 week ago

Walks up in shirt "You've never pegged me as someone up for anything... But you could..."

Eye contact Cue romantic music

i thought it said cookie at first and was like fuck yeah priorities

[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 3 points 1 week ago

Wha- also, why this pops up so much on my front page, though I have been learning about this stuff.

[–] BilSabab@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

The more you know, i guess